We often find ourselves with nothing to say during conversations, which often leads nowhere and results in a lack of connection. However, by improving our conversational abilities, it’s possible to combat that.As such, here are the three stages of having a good conversation:<ol><li>The Approach.</li><li>The Small Talk.</li><li>The Deeper Conversation.</li></ol>

The Three Stages

Don’t be interesting, be interested.You don’t have to say a lot to have a good conversation, as actively listening to the people you’re talking with and building off of it is a great way to make them open up and to establish a good connection.

You Don’t Have To Say Much

Many people struggle to get past this stage due to a fear of rejection; however, through introspection and confronting and coming to terms with the socializing problems in your past, you can overcome that.Journaling is especially useful, and it can be helpful to ask yourself, “why do I feel like this person will not like me or care about what I have to say?” and “does my social anxiety come from a bad childhood experience or recently?”.Once you let the past go, you can start approaching people again and relinquish your past self’s control over you.

The Approach

Once you approach someone, you’re going to have to accept the fact that there’s probably going to be some awkward small talk at first.Transitioning from small talk to a deeper conversation is a skill that takes practice, but an easy way to start is by embracing the awkwardness and by not taking the conversation too seriously, as that will help make a conversation less awkward.Regardless, you’re going to have to say something though, so to start a conversation, consider talking about something that’s going on and expanding from there by adding input and asking questions (preferably open-ended)

The Small Talk

If you become someone who is easy for others to talk to through what you say and how you act, others will mimic that behavior and do the same for you. It’s also important to maintain eye contact, have an open posture, smile and nod to show you’re listening, etc., as being physically open will make others more comfortable around you.Initiating vulnerability during the conversation through your words and not being afraid to talk about deeper subjects, as well as following up with open-ended questions, is another great way to make people open up to you.

The Deeper Conversation 

It’s important to remember that the entire conversation doesn’t have to be deep and meaningful and that humor can also help forge strong connections.Another thing is that most conversations in life are going to be messy, and that’s okay, because the rare opportunities where that isn’t the case become so much more valuable as a result.

A Few Final Thoughts

Here’s a summary of Cole Hastings’s video on how to overcome social awkwardness.

🚀 Ultimate Self Mastery - How to strengthen your self awareness, improve your confidence, and create a fulfilling life → https://cole-hastings.com/selfmastery Tips for having small talk and getting into deep conversation. Watch Part 1 First: https://youtu.be/JrOnE0SXYI4 Get exclusive content/1 on 1 sessions: https://patreon.com/colehastings ➤ My self help book "The Middle Way" : https://seasonedtofu.com/books/ ➤Buy it on Amazon (Paperback for International people): https://amzn.to/3h4Fds6 ➤Coaching Plans: https://seasonedtofu.com/coaching #socialanxiety #smalltalk #sociallyawkward 𝙎𝙪𝙗𝙨𝙘𝙧𝙞𝙗𝙚: http://bit.ly/2qiessH 𝙎𝙤𝙘𝙞𝙖𝙡𝙨 Instagram: https://instagram.com/seasoned_tofu Twitter: https://twitter.com/seasoned_tofu Twitch: https://twitch.tv/seasoned_tofu Podcast: https://seasonedtofu.com/podcast Discord: https://discord.com/invite/U77GaSZ Intro: 0:00 The Approach: 1:08 Extra: 3:24 Small Talk: 4:50 Getting Deep: 9:19 An Important Note: 11:22 𝙈𝙮 𝙂𝙚𝙖𝙧 Camera: https://amzn.to/2SVky2a All In One Lens (B-Roll): https://amzn.to/3hHsaOc Low Light/Blurry Background Lens: https://amzn.to/3yDETIK Camera Microphone: https://amzn.to/2QQZ4NnUSB Nice Microphone (for sit down videos): https://amzn.to/3Ab9hLE Tripod: https://amzn.to/39mpCjJ 𝘼𝙗𝙤𝙪𝙩 Hey, I'm Cole Hastings. I'm a vegan athlete/content creator with a passion for videography/video editing, among other things. I try to help people through sharing my experiences and evolution through life. why youre so awkward, why am i so awkward around everyone, im so awkward, how to stop being awkward, i never have anything to talk about, i never have anything to say, how to keep a conversation going, how to make small talk with a girl, conversation tips, conversation skills, i cant talk to people, social anxiety, how to stop being socially awkward, how to stop being socially anxious

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🚀 Ultimate Self Mastery - How to strengthen your self awareness, improve your confidence, and create a fulfilling life → https://cole-hastings.com/selfmastery

Tips for having small talk and getting into deep conversation.

Watch Part 1 First: https://youtu.be/JrOnE0SXYI4

Get exclusive content/1 on 1 sessions: https://patreon.com/colehastings

➤ My self help book "The Middle Way" : https://seasonedtofu.com/books/
➤Buy it on Amazon (Paperback for International people): https://amzn.to/3h4Fds6
➤Coaching Plans: https://seasonedtofu.com/coaching
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Intro: 0:00
The Approach: 1:08
Extra: 3:24
Small Talk: 4:50
Getting Deep: 9:19
An Important Note: 11:22

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Hey, I'm Cole Hastings. I'm a vegan athlete/content creator with a passion for videography/video editing, among other things.  I try to help people through sharing my experiences and evolution through life.

why youre so awkward, why am i so awkward around everyone, im so awkward, how to stop being awkward, i never have anything to talk about, i never have anything to say, how to keep a conversation going, how to make small talk with a girl, conversation tips, conversation skills, i cant talk to people, social anxiety, how to stop being socially awkward, how to stop being socially anxious

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