Shift your focus from thoughts and feelings to behavior

Here’s a counter-intuitive idea about dealing with fears and insecurities and building confidence:

The solution to internal problems is usually behavior change.

While it’s good to be aware of your thoughts and feelings, and to periodically reflect on them, most people who are anxious and insecure spend WAY too much time thinking about how to feel better and far too little time doing confidence-building things despite how they feel.

• Instead of: “If only I felt X, I could do Y.”
• Try this: “I can do Y despite not feeling X.”