Different dialects

As Chapman points out, there are different "dialects" for each language, too. For example, my primary language is quality time, but I also express and feel affection through words of affirmation and physical touch to some degree.

On the flip side, it's useful to know how you don't express affection. I ranked low on acts of service, and it helps to understand this as a blind spot. Let's say a friend does me a favor: they give me a ride to the airport. This isn't a big deal to me, so I might brush it off too quickly. Similarly, I might be terrible at doing favors for friends, because favors don't matter much to me, so I assume they don't matter to anyone else, either.