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Okay, we've covered a lot. Let's round it all up and learn the proper way to motivate yourself to actually follow through and do all this when the moment calls for it...

This is how to be resilient:

• The Feelings Paradox: Problem-solving doesn't work in the Wonka-ville of feelings. Accept and expand.
• Notice: If we always knew how we felt people wouldn't shout "I'M NOT ANGRY!!!" during arguments. Scan your body to really notice what's going on.
• Acknowledge: Labeling is a powerful way to reduce the impact of negative feelings and to prevent yourself from identifying with them.
• Make Space: Invite the feeling to pull up a chair. (They're not used to this. It's probably how a telemarketer feels when someone is nice to them.)
• Expand: Bring up the stage lights. Dilute the salt water. Engage with the world outside your head.