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Ask Them For Advice
The way to get others to see your perspective is to ask them for advice. When we ask them for advice, they put themselves in our shoes and look at the world from our point of view.
A common fear is that we may seem less competent, but when we ask for advice, as long as the request is not completely obvious, we appear more competent. Advice signals respect and deference.
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Apologize The Right Way
To stop a difficult relationship from getting even worse, apologize in the right way: Promise to change. It is one of the most important components of an apology.
When you're reluctant to apologize, try focusing on the results you might achieve as opposed to who is right or wrong....
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The two sides of a relationship
Sometimes our closest and most important relationships are also the most difficult. Our relationships are both cooperative and competitive. We work together with the ones we love but also have a bit of rivalry going on at times. That is why friends and loved ones can have such a ...
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The Little Things
Just asking people, "Is this a good time to talk?" increases compliance with requests.
Show that you care by doing little things, even if they're ridiculous.
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Spill Some Coffee
Doing everything to make your life seems perfect may make you a target for resentment.
People who inspire the most trust are those who show warmth and competence. While we may be competent, warmth may be lacking. To ensure you don't inspire envy, screw up a little. It will make you see...
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Imitate The One You Love
Perspective-taking (thinking about the other side's interests) will help to meet the needs of both parties. Mimicry helps with perspective-taking. Sit as they do, fold your hands as they do, etc. It helps us truly understand what another person is experiencing.
Happy couples that ...
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Put yourself in the other person’s shoes and ask, “What’s in it for them?”
When we seek assistance or buy-in, asking for an opinion produces a critic. Asking for advice provides a partner.
Pay attention to your pronouns as well: "You" is selfish. "Them " is...
Why We Avoid Asking For Advice
Most people shy away from asking for advice when they cannot figure out how to finish a tricky task or assignment at work.
- Reasons range from not wanting to bother anyone, or not trusting them for the solution that might be provided.
- There is also a misconception that other...
Keep advice brief and to the point
Many chronic complainers are not looking for advice even though they want to share their problems.
If they ask for advice, it's best to keep it short and on point. They may reject your help after they ask for it, saying it is useless or irrelevant. As annoying as it can be...
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