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How to Be Grumpy: A Guide to Managing Grumpiness Well

Meta-grumpiness

Meta-grumpiness can be explained as the fact of being grumpy because you are grumpy.

Once you have noticed that you are feeling grumpy, this makes you feel even more grumpy, as you tend to become critical of yourself being grumpy.

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Grumpiness

Grumpiness can be defined as a bad mood that tends to last from several hours to a few days.

What we can not really explain is why we are grumpy: there is usually no reason which we can blame this mood for.

What causes grumpiness

Grumpiness can be caused by many factors, among which:

  • An unfulfilled psychological need: one way to avoid this is by clearly expressing your needs and, eventually, taking some actions in order to accomplish them.
  • An unrealistic high expectation: make sure you check your expectations on a regular basis, so you can always have realistic and achievable ones.
  • The lack of self-compassion: if you have a negative attitude towards yourself, you are most likely going to feel at least grumpy.

Meta-grumpiness

Meta-grumpiness can be explained as the fact of being grumpy because you are grumpy.

Once you have noticed that you are feeling grumpy, this makes you feel even more grumpy, as you tend to become critical of yourself being grumpy.

Manage your grumpiness

Managing your grumpiness can have several positive effects on your life:

  • It can lead to an improvement in your personal relationships.
  • It can result in a better work environment.
  • You will definitely feel better with yourself the moment you learn how to stop criticizing your bad moods.

Deal with your grumpiness

In order to handle your emotions and moods, including grumpiness, pay attention to the following steps:

  • Become aware of the fact that you are feeling grumpy: it might be a bit challenging at the beginning, but it will surely pay off.
  • Validate you being grumpy: learn to accept the idea according to which being grumpy is not something bad.
  • Ask yourself what the reasons for you feeling grumpy are.
  • Accept your grumpiness: welcoming your grumpiness rather than avoiding it can only lead to a more positive relationship with yourself

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