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Go For Values, Not Emotions When Making Decisions

Emotions provide us signals and sometimes those can be incorrect. It is better to let your values be your guiding light and ignore a few emotional signals of discomfort.

Good things have some costs involved. If we want the best things in life, we have to pay the price, and sometimes it requires us to feel bad too.

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