How to productively help someone
We cannot control another person's behavior nor change it.
- Once you understand that, let go of judgments and accept the person. Give them space to share their thoughts and feelings. It doesn't mean you condone their behavior, but you can respect their feelings.
- Hold them accountable without shaming or guilt-tripping. Encourage them to set goals and ask what they need from you to hold them responsible.
- Celebrate successes with them. It will strengthen trust between you and give them permission to feel good about themselves.
- Provide reasonable logistical support and assist in a plan to help them climb out of their circumstances.
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