Figuring Out Your Opponent's Point Of View
Get into the other person’s shoes and figure out why their point of view is so important for them.
Conflict is almost inevitable in an argument due to both the parties ‘doubling down’ on their confirmation bias. Instead of going the way of souring your relations, a better approach is to have an open mind and simply understand the other person’s point of view.
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