Asking good, effective questions is a powerful but little known tool to get the most helpful information, facilitate learning and improve interpersonal bonding.
In many cases, asking the right questions depends on complex dynamics and type of interaction, but there are some general guidelines that can commonly be applied to the conversation.

The Little Known Skill Of Conversations

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If you are distracted during a conversation or are asking ‘filler’ questions, the other person will lose interest. 
Be genuinely interested and frame questions that help gather maximum facts and opinions about your interlocutor.

Knowing Why You Communicate

Being a good listener is timeless advice, and it has been eighty years since Dale Carnegie mentioned being a good listener in his classic ‘How To Win Friends And Influence People’. 
The advice is still rock solid, telling us to listen with intent while asking interesting questions that the other person would love to answer.

Number 1 Communication Rule: Listen First

We often interrupt an ongoing conversation and say what comes in our mind, and have to be mindful of that. 
Statements can also be detrimental to our purpose of building a relationship. It is better to end the sentence with a question and let the other person speak.

Interrupting With Care

Works are like keys that can lock or unlock minds. Use a neutral tone combined with the right words, avoiding conflicting or loaded ones.
It is also a good idea to keep the questions open-ended. Closed-ended questions often sound loaded or biased to the interlocutor.

Choosing The Right Words

Random questions should be avoided, and a hierarchy should be built that follows general questions with specific ones while asking only one thing at a time. 
It helps to use the new information that you get from an answer to frame your next question, creating a natural flow.

Build On The Information

By asking good questions, your conversations will be more productive and more enjoyable. You will be able to get better ideas and cultivate your curiosity.

Knowing Why You Communicate

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