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Nathaniel N.
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When We Focus On Other People
More often than not, we are trying to correct or direct things in other people’s relationships.
By focussing on other people’s associations, we end up directing how other people should behave, while being blind towards our own functioning in the relationship system.
Example: We try to manage how our parents relate to each other, or how our partner relates to our child.
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