The Impostor Syndrome And Our Expectations

The Impostor Syndrome And Our Expectations

The new generation has experienced a never-ending stream of expectations, where their achievements are never enough. They are always pushed up on the edge of perfection, being rated and scored every moment.

This is a major cause of the phenomenon of the Impostor Syndrome, where an individual secretly has the notion of being incompetent or unqualified for the role or job, even though he or she may have been a high-achiever, and most likely a perfectionist.

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  • Most of the young achievers having impostor syndrome feel like a fraud and are constantly judging themselves as not being up-to-the-mark in their endeavours.
  • Their parents may have empathized on achievements too much, and engaged in praising or criticizing them during their formative years.
  • They might attribute their achievements to pure luck, but blame themselves for their failures.
  1. Instead of a constant judgement of your thoughts, we must find acceptance and get curious over the feelings, dumping the negativity around them.
  2. Delving a bit into our own childhood, we can try to be compassionate towards ourselves, gently handling our emotions and worries.
  3. Realize that the feeling of impostor syndrome is just a byproduct of being out of your comfort zone, and into the learning zone.
  4. Make use of the impostor syndrome to work hard and push yourself to improvise, for yourself.
  5. Engage with such feelings in a healthy, objective way and understand that your achievements are a sign of your intelligence.

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  • Once you’ve identified the confidence culprit, tell someone. Choose someone who sees you outside of that environment
  • Remind yourself of all of your achievements
  • Remind yourself that the people who got you here are incredibly competent and they did not make a mistake
  • Update your language with more confident, assertive phrases
  • Reframe your story by writing it down
  • Try mentoring
1.Practice Self-Compassion

For someone who has big goals, which I hope you do. It can be easy to experience self-doubt because the goals seem unattainable. 

However, your goals are not the problem, they are actually great. But when you seem to not be making progress, do not doubt yourself. 

Instead, be compassionate to yourself as you would others. 

We are only human and all make mistakes along the way. 

It’s normal to experience feelings of doubt when we are faced with new or challenging situations. It is something that we all may experience at certain times in our lives. However, when it becomes debilitating for us, that’s when we may need more tools to overcome self-doubt.

persistent self-doubt is not addressed, it can lead to:

  • Procrastination or lack of motivation
  • Emotional instability
  • Low self-esteem
  • Difficulty making decisions

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