People with a fixed mindset usually say the ideal partner would:

• For the fixed mindset, failure is transformed from an action (I failed) to an identity (I am a failure). For people with this mindset, failure can define them in a permanent way. And they might try to repair their self-esteem by assigning blame or making excuses.
• Failur...

Mindsets are just beliefs; powerful ones, but they’re just something in your mind, and you can change them.

• For the rest of your life, seek constructive criticism, even when you're tempted to create a world in which you're perfect.
• Is there something in your past that you think measured you? A test score, being fired from a job or being rejected? F...

• The fixed mindset says that tests or experts can tell us what our potential is, what we’re capable of, what our future will be: you can simply measure the fixed ability right now and project it into the future.
• The idea that one evaluation can measure you fo...

The growth mindset shows that people can change, but it doesn’t tell you how much change is possible or how long change will take.

• The growth mindset is the belief that abilities can be cultivated through effort. Everyone can change and grow through application and experience. 
• This is the mindset that allows people to succeed during challenging times.
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When people with a fixed mindset usually try to prove that they’re special. The problem is when special begins to mean better than others.

From the point of view of the fixed mindset, effort is only for people with deficiencies. Needing it casts a shadow on your ability.