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Avoid causing offense

If you are not sure if you will cause offense, try to put yourself in the shoes of the people you are talking to. Ask yourself if you are saying what they would realistically expect you to say and if you are treating them fairly.

If you feel you take offense too quickly, consider what the offending person may not know about you. Rather than being angry about a comment, remember that they may have a different experience and worldview.

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We often take offense outside our personal relationships—for example, a comment on Facebook that ridicules or questions something we find important or of value.

We use our values and beliefs to make judgements. Our belief in specific values may be an important part of our identity and expl...

Our expectations are mostly formed in the context of our relationships with others. When they are breached, we tend to feel offended.

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Most of us have felt offended at a remark. However, we have probably also experienced the shock of finding out that others were offended by our comments, even if we had no intention of hurting them.

We take offense at explicitly rude language directed at us. We also take offense a...

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Arguments and fights are common in the relationships. But an effective apology can give the relationship a new chance to blossom. Everybody needs to address the issues and practice empathy to apologize.

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