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Validate the emotions of the other person

When we acknowledge and validate how someone feels, we send them the message that we understand them on a deeper level.

When we validate another person's emotion by naming it and acknowledging that we understand it, we give the other person the right to feel the way they do without shame or fear.

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When we reflect back what another person is saying, we are making them feel heard and understood. When people feel genuinely heard, they feel connected.

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