First, people’s thoughts are mostly focused on themselves. Secondly, they are directing their thoughts towards their relationships, but only how those affect them. That leaves little room for empathy.

This means there is no point in feeling embarrassment; your self-judgment...

People tend to be too concerned about themselves to give you much attention. They tend to be lonely and more emotional than they are showing; apply this to how you view the world.

This perspective could help you be more proactive and independent.

Be realistic: if you ...

Selfish altruism is a win/win situation.

It usually applies in these categories:

• Transactions: buying cars, for example (you get your car, the dealer gets a bonus); doesn’t imply emotional bonds
• Family: protecting people that share our genes
• Statu...

Many people that seem to have it all, suffer from loneliness. As social animals, the desire to be with other people is strong.

If you visualise how many people are actually alone and how common this feeling is, you can minimize your own feeling of loneliness.

People have trouble remembering things. Especially those that do not apply to themselves. 

Don’t assume malice or disinterest if something is forgotten. Instead, you can demonstrate reliability by having a system that keeps you from forgetting.