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How Do We See Others?

How Do We See Others?

People attribute positive traits to the true self, and negative traits to something else. And while we usually think about ourselves differently than others, we think that other people’s true selves are morally good too.

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Theories on the True Self

Theories on the True Self

There might not be a satisfying answer but it doesn't really matter because of the impact it has on us.

We are in the Age of Authenticity, where ‘be yourself’ is the defining advice in life, love and career.”

John Locke, the English philosopher, thought that the most important compone...

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Why Do We See Ourselves As Morally Good?

Why Do We See Ourselves As Morally Good?

It could be because it's beneficial for well-being and cooperation, but it could just be how we think about everything. We have a tendency to reflect on a thing's positive traits; this is called

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So Why Is There So Much Hate Around?

Though we all believe in a morally good true self, our definition of what's moral varies—and we define the “morally good” part of our true selves based on our own values. 

Even when we strongly disagree with someone, it doesn't necessarily conflict with a belief in the true self, since the ...

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What Is The True Self?

What Is The True Self?

The true self is what people believe is their essence. It's the core of what makes you you; if it was taken away, you would no longer be you anymore. People believe that their true self is the parts of them that are

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The Morally Good Bias

The Morally Good Bias

A study found that when subjects were asked to think about criminal offenders, people were more willing to say that a person’s true self is morally bad. 

The more people think that a person’s true self is morally bad, the more they support retributive punishment. The idea that the true self...

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Is The Morally Good Bias Helping Us?

Is The Morally Good Bias Helping Us?

If having a morally good true self is core to our identity, then acting immorally isn’t just doing the wrong thing—it threatens our sense of identity and causes a lot of distress. 

In response, some people might respond to the distress by denying that they're acting immorally and getting de...

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Pros And Cons Of The Bias

A belief in the morally good self can give a person hope to keep trying in poor circumstances.

Alternatively, it could be fuel for a kind of existential crisis if your life doesn’t match up to your “true self.” 

More pressure to "be yourself" or "find yourself" can add to that stress—...

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So How Do We Fight This Bias?

We can start with the idea that people “have some essential drive to be morally good, while emphasizing that work needs to be done to realize that with some reliability in practice.”

Acknowledging our belief in a good true self can be a way to appreciate our capacity for goodness. Then, we ...

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Why Do We See Ourselves As Morally Good?

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It could be because it's beneficial for well-being and cooperation, but it could just be how we think about everything. We have a tendency to reflect on a thing's positive traits; this is called

How others see us

We do not get to choose what others see. How they see other people is their reality. In relationships, our partner might even think they "love" "us", when in fact the "us" they love is different than the "us " we see in ourselves.  

Familiar Traits

Psychologist Carl Jung had once hypothesized that the traits we find irritating in someone else can tell us a lot about ourselves. Many studies have confirmed this insight.

We seem to be attracted to people who have similar positive traits as ours while being repulsed by people like us wh...

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