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It keeps you from facing your feelings

It keeps you from facing your feelings

Even if someone else's sitation is objectively "worse" than yours, it doesn't mean that you are not experiencing very real, very valid emotions. 

You are allowed to feel upset when someone hurts you or disappointed when something doesn't work out the way that you wanted it to.

Yes, other people also have their own pain and disappointments to face, but those experiences don't diminish or eclipse yours.

Negative feelings can increase stress when they aren't dealt with properly.  But even difficult emotions can be important sources of information. They can tell you that something needs to change and help motivate you to make positive changes in your life.

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People experience things differently

People experience things differently

Each individual has different resources and experiences that play a role in how they are affected by different emotions. just as not all people feel joy the same way, not everyone fee;s pain in the same way.

there is not a hierachry of emotion that says that one person's feelings ar...

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Everyone deserves help

Everyone deserves help

Comparisons often lead people to think that they can just deal with there problems on their own. Rather than reach out for help and support, people are often left feeling that their issues aren't serious enough to warrant attention.

A person who is experiencing symptoms of depressio...

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Comparison often leads to minimization

Comparison often leads to minimization

The focus of comparing your emotions is often to minimize ether what you are feeling or what they are feeling. some examples include:

  • You might think that you don't have the right to be upset about something because someone else is going through something worse.
  • You might feel ...

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Comparisons

Comparisons

When you are coping with something difficult in your life, it isn't uncommon for someone else to say " it could be worse." 

Comparing your own pain and other emotions to others is common, but that does not mean that is always helpful

In other cases, comparisons can st...

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How to respond instead

How to respond instead

The next time you are tempted to compare feelings to someone else's, take a step back. Will it be helpful? Or are you using it as a way to dismiss your emotions? Instead of comparing:

  • Allow yourself to sit with your emotions without judgment.
  • Give yourself permission to feel wh...

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When comparison might be helpfull

When comparison might be helpfull

The reality that some defree of comparisons iss inevitable. people are simply wired to notice what other people are experiencing adn then consider how it compares to their own sitation. And in some cases, it can actually have a positive effect, including:

  • Comparisons may help you feel ...

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Learn From It

Learn From It

Instead of getting lost in the pain and negative emotions that can come from a disappointment choose to see it more as something you can learn valuable things from. 

You might even realize that you need to make a bigger change in your life and start spending less time – or no time at all – ...

Unhook From Your Mood

  • Simply having better thoughts and thinking about something else is not going to help in changing our mood, even if it seems so in the short run.
  • Mindfulness meditation untangles our self from the mood or emotion and creates space in between. This helps us remove th...

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