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How to respond instead

How to respond instead

The next time you are tempted to compare feelings to someone else's, take a step back. Will it be helpful? Or are you using it as a way to dismiss your emotions? Instead of comparing:

  • Allow yourself to sit with your emotions without judgment.
  • Give yourself permission to feel what you are feeling and remind yourself that your emotions are valid.
  • Lean on others but don't feel the need to minimize your struggles or compare your problems to theirs.
  • Avoid judging other people’s emotions. Instead, focus on valuing the fact that they are willing to share what they are feeling with you.
  • Listen to what people are saying. Acknowledge what they are feeling. Simply saying that you can see how hard it must be and that you are there to listen can be a crucial way of offering validation and support.

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People experience things differently

People experience things differently

Each individual has different resources and experiences that play a role in how they are affected by different emotions. just as not all people feel joy the same way, not everyone fee;s pain in the same way.

there is not a hierachry of emotion that says that one person's feelings ar...

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Everyone deserves help

Everyone deserves help

Comparisons often lead people to think that they can just deal with there problems on their own. Rather than reach out for help and support, people are often left feeling that their issues aren't serious enough to warrant attention.

A person who is experiencing symptoms of depressio...

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Comparison often leads to minimization

Comparison often leads to minimization

The focus of comparing your emotions is often to minimize ether what you are feeling or what they are feeling. some examples include:

  • You might think that you don't have the right to be upset about something because someone else is going through something worse.
  • You might feel ...

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It keeps you from facing your feelings

It keeps you from facing your feelings

Even if someone else's sitation is objectively "worse" than yours, it doesn't mean that you are not experiencing very real, very valid emotions. 

You are allowed to feel upset when someone hurts you or disappointed when something doesn't work out the way that you wanted it to.

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Comparisons

Comparisons

When you are coping with something difficult in your life, it isn't uncommon for someone else to say " it could be worse." 

Comparing your own pain and other emotions to others is common, but that does not mean that is always helpful

In other cases, comparisons can st...

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When comparison might be helpfull

When comparison might be helpfull

The reality that some defree of comparisons iss inevitable. people are simply wired to notice what other people are experiencing adn then consider how it compares to their own sitation. And in some cases, it can actually have a positive effect, including:

  • Comparisons may help you feel ...

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Comparison often leads to minimization

Comparison often leads to minimization

The focus of comparing your emotions is often to minimize ether what you are feeling or what they are feeling. some examples include:

  • You might think that you don't have the right to be upset about something because someone else is going through something worse.
  • You might feel ...

People experience things differently

People experience things differently

Each individual has different resources and experiences that play a role in how they are affected by different emotions. just as not all people feel joy the same way, not everyone fee;s pain in the same way.

there is not a hierachry of emotion that says that one person's feelings ar...

Accept the experience you're having- Avoidance and resistance only make negative emotions stronger. Instead, try to accept what you're feeling without judging it or yourself.

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