It is important to make the distinction between acceptance annd resignation. Accepting emotions does not mean that you resign yourself to always feeling terrible or wallowing in pain. It also doesn't mean that you hold on to painful emotions or try to push yourself to experience emotional pain. Acceptance simply means being aware of your emotions and accepting them for what they are right now, knowing that they won't last.

In some ways, accepting emotions means also accepting that emotions will change. When we are happy, we have to accept that happiness is a short-term condition; we will not always be happy. This goes for every type of emotion, from fear to anxiety to sadness. Feelings are fleeting and usually go away within seconds, minutes, or hours.

There are a few reasons why people with BPDm in particular, have trouble accepting emotions, although it is imporant to note that everyone has trouble accepting emotions sometimes.

First, people with BPD are often raised in emotionally invalidating environments. These are environments wher...