8. Build A Bridge, Don't Burn One - Deepstash
How To Be Effortlessly Charismatic

Learn more about communication with this collection

How to build confidence

How to connect with people on a deeper level

How to create a positive first impression

How To Be Effortlessly Charismatic

Discover 68 similar ideas in

It takes just

9 mins to read

8. Build A Bridge, Don't Burn One

Constructive criticism’s aim is to strengthen people, not to tear them down. Focusing on the issue or the behavior and not the person helps with that.

Explain the impact the behavior had on the business. Coming from a place of collaboration and support helps keep that bridge of communication.


93 reads


7. Use Emotional Intelligence

Before delivering criticism, consider your emotional state and how the feedback to be delivered impacts all involved. 

Manage your emotions beforehand to obtain the desired outcome. 


117 reads

14. Use Criticism Well

If you use criticism to bash or undermine, it will be harmful. If you dismiss criticism without reflection it will be useless. But if you assess criticism objectively and without emotion, you can discover what's useful to you, and shrug the rest off. 


137 reads

15. Show Respect And Stay Objective

  • Choose words that do not put the receiver on the defensive.
  • Use "I" messages, like “I’ve noticed”, rather than "you" messages, like “you always.”
  • Keep your emotions out of it, as they can derail your message.
  • Maintain dignity by giving choices where possible.


291 reads

13. Discuss Behavior, Impact And Action

Focus on the impact of specific behavior and give expected corrections, but refrain from focusing on personality or intent. This causes less hurt feelings.


130 reads

12. Maintain Collaborative Communication

If someone brings up an idea you disagree with, don’t shoot the idea down. Doing so can shut down your channel of communication and make others less likely to share ideas in the future.

Instead, focus on building a culture of collaboration to encourage constructive criticism. ...


114 reads

11. Focus on a Behavior That Can Be Changed

Most people give feedback by making broad-based claims without providing evidence. Broad-based claims are interpreted as character evaluations and tend to be harmful.

Constructive criticism highlights things can be changed and provides some indication of how to change them.


114 reads

9. Start With What Is Working

Real feedback is actually about telling the truth without blame or judgment. And the truth always has two parts: something is working, and something could be better. Start with what works, then share the upgrade.


103 reads

6. Prepare The Recipient For Feedback

Frame the feedback with the outcome in mind, and prepare the recipient for what you have to say. It never hurts anyone to be told, "I need to tell you something that may be hard for you to hear."


83 reads

4. Point Out Opportunities, Not Faults

State your intention, why you’re the one sharing this feedback and how you are willing to help the person learn from it. 

Choose a private place and give them time to understand the next steps. Being proactive, by showing respect and listening to their impression helps to build trust...


83 reads

2. Ground Your Constructive Criticism In Behavior

Constructive criticism clearly describes the behavior that you want changed. Examples:

  • Don’t say they are irresponsible, provide the dates when they have come in late.
  • Don’t say they are disrespectful, reference how they roll their eyes and sigh.
  • Don’t say they...


83 reads

1. Focus On How To Change

To criticize constructively, frame it in a way that the focus is on the change that needs to occur and the benefits of implementing it without resorting to accusations or derogatory tone and comments.


280 reads

10. Know When To Get To The Point

One of the biggest misconceptions about constructive criticism is that you must wedge your critique between positive openings and endings. However, this method doesn’t always translate into better performance.

Sometimes a leader has to get straight to the point and offer guidance on ...


108 reads

3. Give Your Intention Some Attention

If you want to criticize to help someone improve their performance, approach it from a place of how you would want the information communicated to you.

Stay factual to avoid an emotional confrontation and make sure you create the space for it to be a conversation (versus a directive)...


78 reads

5. Have A Private Conversation

Praise in public, criticize in private. Feedback loses value when people feel humiliated or embarrassed. So, use the right tone and motive and be constructive.


137 reads




Problem solver. Award-winning reader. Devoted food geek. Certified travel evangelist. Incurable explorer.

Related collections

More like this

Have a definite chief aim!

Have a definite chief aim!

Having a definite chief aim is so much of importance in ones life. Bruce Lee had one, Hill had one, Henry Ford had one, and almost every person of great achievement had one. So:

  1. Give a thought on what you actually want in your life. Yo...

Don't Make It Personal

Criticism by nature can be personal, but delivering it you need to separate your thoughts on someone's work or behavior from what you think of them.

Keep your constructive criticism focused on the specifics that you want to discuss, and avoid the temptation to make judgeme...

Leveraging self-control

Have a clear sense of self, what causes you tension and where your limits are.

  • Seek to understand the situation. Gain some clarity by asking questions while managing your own reactions.
  • Stick to the facts and acknowledge emotions. 
  • Paraphrase and ch...


Explore the World’s

Best Ideas

200,000+ ideas on pretty much any topic. Created by the smartest people around & well-organized so you can explore at will.

An Idea for Everything

Explore the biggest library of insights. And we've infused it with powerful filtering tools so you can easily find what you need.

Knowledge Library

Powerful Saving & Organizational Tools

Save ideas for later reading, for personalized stashes, or for remembering it later.

# Personal Growth

Take Your Ideas


Organize your ideas & listen on the go. And with Pro, there are no limits.

Listen on the go

Just press play and we take care of the words.

Never worry about spotty connections

No Internet access? No problem. Within the mobile app, all your ideas are available, even when offline.

Get Organized with Stashes

Ideas for your next work project? Quotes that inspire you? Put them in the right place so you never lose them.


2 Million Stashers


5,740 Reviews

App Store


72,690 Reviews

Google Play

Ashley Anthony

This app is LOADED with RELEVANT, HELPFUL, AND EDUCATIONAL material. It is creatively intellectual, yet minimal enough to not overstimulate and create a learning block. I am exceptionally impressed with this app!

Shankul Varada

Best app ever! You heard it right. This app has helped me get back on my quest to get things done while equipping myself with knowledge everyday.

Sean Green

Great interesting short snippets of informative articles. Highly recommended to anyone who loves information and lacks patience.


Don’t look further if you love learning new things. A refreshing concept that provides quick ideas for busy thought leaders.

Ghazala Begum

Even five minutes a day will improve your thinking. I've come across new ideas and learnt to improve existing ways to become more motivated, confident and happier.

Giovanna Scalzone

Brilliant. It feels fresh and encouraging. So many interesting pieces of information that are just enough to absorb and apply. So happy I found this.

Laetitia Berton

I have only been using it for a few days now, but I have found answers to questions I had never consciously formulated, or to problems I face everyday at work or at home. I wish I had found this earlier, highly recommended!

Jamyson Haug

Great for quick bits of information and interesting ideas around whatever topics you are interested in. Visually, it looks great as well.

Read & Learn

20x Faster





Access to 200,000+ ideas

Access to the mobile app

Unlimited idea saving & library

Unlimited history

Unlimited listening to ideas

Downloading & offline access

Personalized recommendations

Supercharge your mind with one idea per day

Enter your email and spend 1 minute every day to learn something new.


I agree to receive email updates