• Most overnight successes — in fact any significant successes — take at least 5 years. Budget your life accordingly.
MORE IDEAS FROM The Technium: 99 Additional Bits of Unsolicited Advice
It happens when one rushes to provide advice, which is most likely to be discarded or ignored, even if the person was asked for it.
Even with good intentions, providing advice isn’t necessarily a good idea. We normally do not welcome any advice provided to us, with a natural reflexive repulsion towards being told what is to be done by someone else.
This is a person's confidence in their own abilities that they are able to control their own behaviors, motivation, and other social circumstances.
Many people struggle with handling insecurity and even goal strivers are plagued by it. Having a lack of self-efficacy denies us the pleasure of setting goals in the first place.
Unsolicited advice sends a message that you're jumping in because they can't handle the problem. It leaves them feeling less competent and capable, undermining their ability to handle the situation themselves.
To ensure that your advice is more helpful than harmful, only share it if you're explicitly asked.
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