Better At Conversations
- Research has found that “Hello, how are you?” is the most effective conversation starter, but you can use context, like impressions or the location, in its place.
- Bring up topics, look for ideas and ask questions that spark energy or get the person excited.
- The eyebrow raise is what we do when we hear or see something interesting. It clues you in to a topic that they might like discussing.
- Stories are great to hold attention, instigate emotion and are more easily remembered. Keep in mind your favorite ones, the ones that can backup claims and how you can answer with anecdotes.
- When we share something, we often want someone else to share something. Give back as much as you get.
- Don’t be a conversational narcissist. Ensure you do equal parts talking and listening.
- Don’t try to constantly outdo others or their stories. Let people enjoy their moment and celebrate with them, don’t one-up them.
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