Laughter improves the function of blood vessels and increases blood flow, which can help protect you against a heart attack and other cardiovascular problems.

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Do you feel like your life is spiraling out of control and you're just a helpless bystander? Losing control of one's life is common but terrifying.In this article, we'll go through the 5 signs that you're not in control of your life and how you can regain it.

Signs You're Not in Control of Your Life

Instead of complaining, start thinking of ways to improve the situation. Take small actions forward to improve a situation, and you are not letting it control you.

Constant Complaining

Make time for hobbies or interests that make you happy. Once you start enjoying things again, you will find yourself in a happier state.

Constant Feeling of Boredom

Develop a sense of responsibility and start by writing down all the things you want to do.

Talking Yourself Out of Commitments

Establish boundaries and communicate your needs.

Relationships Feeling Out of Place

Set boundaries and take a break from your phone.

Constantly on Your Phone

Self-improvement is the name of the game, and your primary objective is to strengthen yourself, not to destroy an opponent.

Being in control of our lives means being in charge of aspects like how we react, think, who we let in, and what things we allow to control us.

Take Control: React, Think, & Choose Your Life

Take Control: React, Think, & Choose Your Life.

Losing control and no longer feeling like we are in any position of power regarding our lives is terrifying, yet common.

Understand yourself and those around you.

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Warning Signs That You are Not in Control of Your Life 

A US researcher discovered that many people who lived in expensive homes didn’t have much wealth. Instead, each millionaire he found didn’t look like a millionaire.<ul><li>They lived in middle-class neighborhoods, instead of “upscale addresses”</li><li>They didn’t own the latest model cars or expensive watches</li><li>They didn’t wear luxury clothing brands</li><li>and so forth.</li></ul>

The Millionaires Next Door

“We discovered who the wealthy really are and who they are not. And, most important, we have determined how ordinary people can become wealthy.”

Here are the 5 steps you can take to build wealth and eventually become a “millionaire next door.” Stanley identifies several professions in his book that would potentially earn well in the long term. But the most important aspect of a “right” career is a job that won’t become extinct in the future.

Pick The Right Profession 

The pandemic has shown us that having a single income stream is too unstable. Just ask those restaurant owners who closed for months during the lockdowns. Or those employees who were let go. Multiple income streams give us options. And options provide us with freedom and peace of mind. That doesn’t mean you need to own many businesses or work 5 side hustles. “Wealth is a plentiful supply of a particular desirable thing.”

Several Income Streams 

Having specific goals is fine. But try not to get too attached to outcomes. For example, whether or not your business or job will earn you six figures in a few years is not entirely within your control. You can only control what you do and how you react to things.

Don't Let Outcome Dictate

Most people don't invest. After all, over 45% of adults around the globe aren’t capable of paying out of pocket for an emergency.That means most people are not benefiting from the power of compounding. And they’re not leveraging the long-term growth of the market.For people living paycheck-to-paycheck, the first priority is to <a href="https://dariusforoux.com/save-money/">build an emergency fund </a>. Even just enough to cover a whole month’s expense. It’s best to start small, then aim for 6-months’ worth of expenses.

Save Before Investing 

“It’s important to associate with people that are better than yourself and actually the most important decision many of you will make, not all of you, will be the spouse you choose. And you really want to associate with people who are the kind of person you’d like to be.You’ll move in that direction. And the most important person by far in that respect is your spouse. I can’t overemphasize how important that is.”It’s no surprise The Millionaire Next Door data reports that most frugal millionaires have married spouses who are also frugal themselves. This avoids two things.

Your Partner 

First, one doesn’t get stuck with a spouse who wastes all the money. Because it doesn’t matter how frugal or wealthy a person is if their spouse spends it all. And people can prevent one of the top reasons why married couples fight: money.<a>4 </a> When you partner with someone who has the same money mindset, you’re less likely to have financial disagreements.

Partner Part 2

All those who want to become more wealthy should read this

When The Millionaire Next Door author Thomas Stanley researched wealthy people, he found millionaires who didn't look like a millionaire.

Discover the world of business and economics.

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5 Steps to Become a “Millionaire Next Door” - Darius Foroux

A learned behavior in individuals who believe they have no control over their life because they think nothing they do will matter. They tend to think bad things are always bound to happen to them, and others are usually to blame.

What Is Victim Mentality?

An actual victim’s reality is based on real actions that have happened to them, whereas a victim mentality is based on a perceived reality that something is going to happen to them based on their past experiences (either real or perceived).

Victim mentality vs. Actual victim

<ul><li>Negative self-talk or self-pity. “I never do anything right.”</li><li>Pessimism about the future. “It will never work out.”</li><li>Fears of being taken advantage of. </li><li>Envious of others. “If only I had money like he does.”</li><li>Ruminates on past bad experiences. </li><li>Struggles to enjoy the good</li><li>Disinterested in solutions. “There’s nothing that can be done.”</li><li>Rejects feedback or support. “I can’t do that. It will never work.”</li><li>Lacks trust in others. </li><li>Cynical toward others’ motives. “People are always out to get me”</li><li>Narcissistic. </li></ul>

Signs Of Victim Mentality 

<ul><li>Reflect on your wins: By remembering what success felt like and that it was possible, you can regain motivation for today</li><li>Engage in acts of Kindness: Regaining a sense of agency is helpful. One of the best ways to do this is by focusing outward on what you can do for others.</li><li>Set simple goals for yourself: Think about something you can achieve today. Then move on to something you can accomplish this week, and so on.</li><li>Take a deep breath before you respond: When presented with a challenge, your flight or fight response might kick in, leading you to respond from a place of fear. </li></ul>

Ways to Break the Cycle

Notice the discomfort you feel in your body when someone shares something with you or asks something of you. Are you tense? Is your stomach tight? Is your blood pressure high? Do you feel yourself getting warm? These body reactions might indicate your deeper fears or thoughts about what is happening. Take two or three deep breaths before you respond with the first thing that might come to your head. Research shows deep breathing exercises can reduce stress and stabilize blood pressure.

<ul><li>Reframe negative thoughts: By giving yourself a positive visualization, you can start to train your brain toward positive outcomes.</li></ul>

I collect and share ideas on self-discovery, inner strength and managing thoughts. For deeper insights, <a href="https://medium.com/@parakharora">read my articles on Medium</a>

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Victim Mentality: Signs, Causes & 10 Ways to Break The Cycle

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Amazing Fact: We Are Highly Decisive

<ul><li>You're not in constant battle to make it work.</li><li>You both don't play mind games.</li><li>No withholding of affection. No silent treatment or punishments. You can disagree because that means you have open communication.</li><li>You have a life outside your relationship. No one feels threatened and you trust each other. </li><li>You enjoy spending time together. YOU, not only them.</li><li>You make important decisions together.</li><li>You can say that you became a better person by being in this relationship.</li></ul>

Never Settle For Less.

Are you curious about whether your relationship is healthy or not? Well, buckle up because, in this episode of 7 Good Minutes, we're going to dive into some key signs that indicate you're in a solid and loving relationship.

From trust and communication to respect and support, we'll cover it all. So get ready to discover the secrets of a happy and healthy partnership.

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7 Good Minutes Daily Self-Improvement Podcast - Is Your Relationship Healthy?

Have you ever stopped to think about how many times a day you make judgments about people, situations, or events? It's a common habit that we all engage in. For instance, when we meet someone, we tend to judge how they look and make assumptions about their lifestyle.

Being judgmental means looking at things through a lens of criticism

Judgment is a cognitive ability that helps us assess people, situations, and relationships based on the sensory evidence available to us to come to conclusions and make decisions.It’s important for us to wield it carefully and not be overly critical of others.

What Judgement Really Is

<ul><li>Wider horizons: Looking at circumstances without judgment allows you to consider additional perspectives outside of your own awareness and gain helpful insights into what other people experience. It can also help you increase empathy and compassion for people who may be different from you.</li><li>More positivity: Judgment comes from a place of negativity. Being less judgmental allows you to view the world with a more positive outlook.</li><li>Improved relationships: Feeling judged alienates others and makes it hard for them to trust you. </li></ul>

Benefits of Being Less Judgmental 

Pay Attention to Your Thoughts The first step is to recognize that you’re doing it. Start paying more attention to your thoughts, so you can identify when you’re being judgmental. Look for thoughts or phrases like: <ul><li>“What is [person] doing/saying/wearing?"</li><li>"[Person] should be doing [action] instead of [action].”</li><li>“This [person/thing] is so [negative adjective].”</li></ul>

6 Ways to Be Less Judgmental 

Question Your Assumptions If you have a negative view of someone, ask yourself what it’s based on. Did you formulate your view based on facts? Do you have all the relevant information or do you need to inquire further about the situation? Make an effort to explore all the possible sources of information before coming to a conclusion. If this isn’t possible, consider leaving your opinion neutral or open-ended.

Recognize Your Biases Be aware of your own biases and cultural standards. Recognize that your own view of life is limited based on your own experiences.Remember that other people with different cultural, social, professional, religious, or ethnic backgrounds may not share the same views. Try to put yourself in their shoes and see things from their perspective.

Be Empathetic Practice empathy and compassion for people, even if they look, think, dress, speak, or act differently than you do.Think about how you have felt when someone formed an opinion of you that wasn’t accurate. Did you feel hurt, angry, upset, ashamed, embarrassed, or disappointed? Let those feelings guide you toward being more compassionate toward others.

Expand Your Horizons Expose yourself to new ideas and perspectives. Meet new people and talk to them about their lives. Experiment with different activities and try new foods. Read lots of books and watch informative content. Travel as much as you are able to.

Practice PositivityWith practice, you can develop a more positive mindset. If you catch yourself thinking something negative about something or someone, challenge yourself to see something positive in the situation instead.You can also take a few minutes every night to list the good things that happened that day and be thankful for all the things you’re grateful for.You can choose to do this exercise by yourself in your mind. Or you can note it down in a journal or practice it with a loved one.

Did this resonate with you? I just wrote an article on how we get automatic negative thoughts that hinder our judgement, <a href="https://medium.com/@parakhkatyal/negativity-hinders-judgment-5873fd87051e">here’s a link. </a>

This article explores the characteristics of judgmental people, discusses the benefits of being more open-minded, and suggests some ways to be less judgemental.

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How to Be Less Judgmental

hen you're in a healthy romantic relationship, it just feels different. You experience a whole list of emotions that are sure signs you love someone and are loved in return.But how do you know when you're in love with someone and it's time for you to stop searching and make a commitment?

You think it's love. Yes, it's love. Sure it's love! Wait ... is it, though?

You can try using your rational judgment and checking off the boxes on your ideal partner list, but falling in love isn't always so neat and tidy. In the end, it comes down to how they make you feel — <a href="https://www.yourtango.com/self/trust-your-intuition-gut-feeling">because feelings don't lie </a>.

Your emotions are meant to protect you from making unhealthy relationship choices. You instinctively know how the right relationship doesn't feel. It's not constricting, maddening, suffocating, closed, unstable, or depressing. Quite the opposite, in fact.Being in love with "the one" feels, well ... good.Aside from the racing heart and giddy headiness of romantic love in its early stages, <a href="https://www.yourtango.com/love/cant-stop-thinking-about-someone">love brings on physiological changes</a>

How does it feel to be in love?

<a href="https://www.spring.org.uk/2023/03/psychology-of-love-relationships.php">Neuroscientists researching the effects of love </a>on the human brain have found "empirical evidence of love-related alterations in the underlying functional architecture of the brain." Research has also found that experiencing love within <a href="https://www.yourtango.com/love/relationship-experts-share-things-make-wives-feel-seen">healthy long-term relationships and marriages </a>can activate centers in the brain and act as a protective mechanism against physical and emotional pain and stress. Of course, love isn't all roses.

Even in the healthiest relationships and marriages, emotions can and do fluctuate. It's normal to experience a full range of emotions with your partner, including those we tend to think of as negative, such as frustration, anger and hurt.

Love is love, but making and keeping a commitment is a choice you make every day. You must listen to your heart in order to make the best decisions for yourself and your future. If you're stuck on the fence about your partner and whether or not they're right for you, it's time to connect with your heart and be brutally honest with yourself about what you're feeling.

If you're still feeling anticipation after the honeymoon period, you're in great shape! Do you feel excited when you're together? Real love brings enthusiasm and awakening to experience pleasure and new things.

1. You Feel Excited

Being in their arms feels like a safe harbor. You never fear them or their actions. <a href="https://www.yourtango.com/love/how-create-secure-relationship">You trust them explicitly </a>and you take comfort in knowing they'll never intentionally lie, cheat, or break your heart.

2. You Feel Secure

You know you can live your values and be who you are around them — your authentic and unfiltered self. They make you feel support when you're going for your dreams, perhaps even when no one else understands them.

3. You Deel Accepted

You feel capable of solving any problem and acting on your own behalf. You're a free agent with skills and dreams and a whole world out there to conquer.

4. You Feel Empowered

You feel attractive in your own skin and you know that your partner loves all of you. They often tell you that you are beautiful — inside and out. Thus, there is confidence that radiates and shines from within you.

5. You Experience A Feeling Of Radiance

Your heart feels two sizes larger. Not only do <a href="https://www.yourtango.com/2022348748/what-kindness-should-really-mean-todays-world">you have kindness and generosity </a>to show your family, friends, neighbors, and fellow citizens, you have compassion for yourself. This type of love makes you want to nurture yourself and be the best person you can be.

6. You Feel Better Able To Express Xompassion

You envision a future for yourself that is positive, successful, and happy. No matter what is thrown at you, you have faith that you can overcome it. Together, it's the two of you, for the world!

7. You Feel Hopeful

There is a lightness about you and your relationship. Beyond fun and laughter, which you experience regularly, you are overcome with delight and pleasure whenever you even think of them.

8. You Feel Joyful

Whether you're sitting side by side or far away, you feel the other's presence. It feels like there is an invisible string that connects you. You communicate without saying a word and when you're intimate, the world falls away around you.

9. You Feel A Unique onnection

Like Jerry Maguire said, "You complete me." Yes, you may feel like a jigsaw puzzle that fits perfectly together. But, soulmate love will make you feel whole in your own right and full of purpose. If you’re lucky enough to experience these feelings, you'll know <a href="https://www.yourtango.com/love/how-know-right-relationship-for-you">you're in the right relationship </a>. This type of love will sustain you through life's challenges, and your bond will get stronger over time. Trust your feelings. They won't steer you wrong.

10. You Feel Like You Are A 'Complete' Person

How Do You Know When You're In Love With Someone? Here Are 10 Signs You're In Love With Someone And They Love You Right Back.

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10 Signs You're In Love With Someone (& They Love You Right Back)

To be "lonely" is to feel cut off from Creator's grace and unable to connect with Him due to the effects of sin ( disconnection). This feeling of loneliness can cause us to feel discouraged, frustrated, and even hopeless.

LONELY WHEN CUT OFF FROM SOURCE

When life's stressors seem too much to take,It's loneliness that can make us ache;We can't just blame the stressors we face,It's the loneliness that makes us feel out of place.

You are consistently making mountains out of molehills.

Despite my consistent efforts, I was never able to truly find my place. I felt like I was struggling against the current, unable to make any real progress. Despite all my hard work, I could not seem to break through the barriers that were keeping me from feeling connected and part of a community. I felt like my efforts were futile, and the situation seemed hopeless. I was a prisoner of my own making, unable to find my way out.

Always An Outsider 

My inner strength and courage grew as I learned to trust in the process, and to have faith in the divine plan for my life. I found a sense of solace in the knowledge that I have a purpose in this life, and that I am part of something greater than myself. I am now able to find joy in the present moment and to be in tune with my spiritual side. My faith has become my refuge and my source of strength, allowing me to live a life of purpose and peace.

God Is My Only Solace

Although I still experience moments of loneliness, I am confident that I am never truly isolated. Through my faith, I recognize that God is ever-present in my life and will continue to guide me in the years ahead. I am thankful for the journey that has brought me to this point and have come to understand that true contentment is found from within; I no longer need to rely on others to feel complete.

Still Feel The Tinge

If you're experiencing one or more of these nine symptoms, you could have loneliness to blame — even if you don't feel lonely at all. Weight gain, binge-watching TV, and an increase in shopping could all indicate that you're feeling a little lonely.

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9 subtle signs that you're lonely — even if it doesn't feel like it

An attachment style is a specific pattern of behavior in and around relationships. According to attachment theory, first developed by psychologist Mary Ainsworth and psychiatrist John Bowlby in the 1950s, a person's attachment style is shaped and developed in early childhood in response to their relationships with their earliest caregivers.

<ul><li>Childhood source: when caregivers consistently fulfill a baby’s physical and emotional needs</li><li>Adulthood charactrristics: able to trust others and be trusted, love and accept love, and become close to others with relative ease.</li></ul>They're not afraid of intimacy, nor do they feel panicked when their partners need time or space away from them. They're able to depend on others without becoming totally dependent

1. Secure attachement, the healthy ideal of relationship

A secure attachment style doesn’t mean you can take for granted that your relationships will be smooth sailing. If two securely attached people are in a relationship, they’re starting out from a better position, but relationships take work for everyone, no matter your attachment style.

Tips for people with secure attachement style

<ul><li>Childhood source: When primary caregivers aren’t consistent in meeting a baby’s needs </li><li>Deepest fear: Abandonement</li><li>Adulthood characteristics: neediness or clingy behaviour</li></ul> People with an anxious attachment style tend to be very insecure about their relationships, often worrying that their partner will leave them and thus always hungry for validation.

2. Anxious attachement or anxious-preoccupied attachment

People with an anxious attachment can benefit from what we call ‘rituals of separation, like texting during the day to tell that we're thinking of them. They make a conscious effort to acknowledge that they’re leaving and also that they will be back.

Tips to help them to feel confident 

<ul><li>Childhood source: when a caregiver doesn’t provide a baby with sufficient emotional support</li><li> Deepest fear: Intimacy</li><li> Adulthood characteristics distant, emotionally unavailable, may find relationships suffocating and avoid them completely, preferring to be independent and rely on themselves.</li></ul>People with an avoidant attachment style tend to have trouble getting close to others or trusting others in relationships, because they ultimately don't believe their needs can get met in a relationship.

3. Avoidant attachement or dismissive-avoidant attachment 

Actively observing your own emotions and considering how you pull away from others will require a lot of work. But that effort can be an eye-opening way to help understand your style and learn to let others in.

Tips for people with avoidant attachement style

(the combination of both the anxious and avoidant attachment styles)<ul><li>Childhood source: forms through a particularly tumultuous childhood, often one that may be marked by fear or trauma</li><li>Adulthood characteristics: difficulty regulating emotions, heightened sexual behavior, and increased risk for violence in their relationships.</li></ul>They are reluctant to develop a close romantic relationship, yet at the same time, feel a dire need to feel loved by others

4. Fearful-avoidant attachment,

Some people who have a disorganized attachment style can often benefit from dialectical behavior therapy (DBT), a type of talk therapy that’s especially helpful for people who experience very intense emotions.

Tips for people whith fearful-avoidant attachement

(Tips are from: https://health-clevelandclinic-org.cdn.ampproject.org/v/s/health.clevelandclinic.org/attachment-theory-and-attachment-styles

The way our caregiver may treat us during childhood can have a big impact on how we manage relationship, our attachement style

There are four different attachment styles that people may have in relationships, and they're often caused by childhood experiences.

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The 4 Attachment Style  (With tips on how to overcome the unhealthy)

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