Gregor Samsa, a traveling salesman, wakes up to find himself transformed into a large insect. Struggling with his new body, he cannot go to work, causing distress. His transformation is inexplicable and horrifying to him, and he worries about the impact on his family, who rely on his income.

Gregor's family is initially shocked and horrified. His sister Grete brings him food, and his parents avoid seeing him. As time passes, their sympathy wanes, and they become increasingly frustrated and neglectful, viewing him as a burden.

Gregor's transformation leads to his isolation. Confined to his room, he becomes alienated from his family and society. Grete initially cares for him but grows tired and resentful, eventually refusing to enter his room. Gregor becomes more insect-like in behavior and loses touch with his humanity.

Gregor's physical and mental condition deteriorates. His family starts renting out a room to boarders to make ends meet. Gregor's presence becomes an embarrassment and inconvenience. His family discusses getting rid of him, indicating their complete loss of empathy and love.

Eventually, Gregor succumbs to his injuries and neglect, dying alone in his room. His death brings relief to the family, who immediately feel a sense of freedom and begin to make plans for a better future. They move on with their lives, leaving Gregor's existence as a mere unpleasant memory.

The Metamorphosis (German: Die Verwandlung, also sometimes translated as The Transformation) is a novella by Franz Kafka, first published in 1915. It has been called one of the seminal works of fiction of the 20th century and is studied in colleges and universities across the Western world. The story begins with a traveling salesman, Gregor Samsa, waking to find himself transformed (metamorphosed) into a large, monstrous insect-like creature. The cause of Gregor's transformation is never revealed, and Kafka himself never gave an explanation. The rest of Kafka's novella deals with Gregor's attempts to adjust to his new condition as he deals with being burdensome to his parents and sister, who are repelled by the horrible, verminous creature Gregor has become.

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Humans have a special talent for complicating simplicity. We make a spectacle out of simple.

Energy management beats time management.

Your memories of perfect moments are memories of moments in which you were most present.

When you ruminate, you mistake replay for reflection. When you catastrophize, you mistake worrying for preparation.

You don’t heal by changing who you are; you heal by learning how to be yourself in the world.

It was never the terrible things that happened to you that made you stronger; it was the resiliency-building skills you engaged to process the terrible things. What doesn’t kill you can make you stronger, but only if you feel your feelings, process your experience (i.e., figure out what the experience means to you), and engage the protective factors around you—mainly, the power of connection.

Sometimes you say a thought out loud to give it weight because it matters. Sometimes you say a thought out loud to let it go because it's trivial. Until you let the words hit the air, it can be difficult to tell which is which.

You can perfectly paint by numbers without making a single mistake, but you'll never create a masterpiece that way.

For perfectionists struggling with emotional perfectionism, everything is timed and measured. They attempt to control their feelings like a volume knob, and not just the "bad" ones.

It’s not mere talent that rises to the top, it’s persistence.

Enthusiasm itself will not be enough to sustain an endeavor.

Exploration doesn’t need to culminate in bullet-pointed certainty about anything. Thoughts and feelings don’t need to operate with an itinerary. It’s okay to hold something for a long time, look at it, turn it over, feel it, think about it, turn it over again, talk about it, write about it, and then look up and say, “I don’t know.” It’s okay to not have closure.

You will never experience the future; you’re always and only in the present moment. If you’re waiting on the future to feel joy, you will never feel joy.

A lot of perfectionists think they're driven by success when what they're really driven by is the avoidance of failure-two very different animals.

<ul><li>Intense perfectionists: laser-focused on a goal and will do whatever it takes to get there.</li><li>Classic perfectionists: highly reliable, consistent, detail-oriented, but they can struggle with meaningful connections.</li><li>Parisian perfectionists: strongly driven by connection with others and can have people-pleasing tendencies.</li><li>Procrastinator perfectionists: great at preparing and using impulse control but struggle with starting or finishing out of fear it won’t be perfect.</li><li>Messy perfectionists: they love starting with unbridled ideas and energy but struggle to maintain momentum when the excitement wanes.</li></ul>

Five types of perfectionists

From psychotherapist Katherine Morgan Schafler, an invitation to every “recovering perfectionist” to challenge the way they look at perfectionism, and the way they look at themselves. We’ve been looking at perfectionism all wrong. As psychotherapist and former on-site therapist at Google Katherine Morgan Schafler argues in The Perfectionist's Guide to Losing Control, you don’t have to stop being a perfectionist to be healthy. For women who are sick of being given the generic advice to “find balance,” a new approach has arrived. Which of the five types of perfectionist are you? Classic, intense, Parisian, messy, or procrastinator? As you identify your unique perfectionist profile, you'll learn how to manage each form of perfectionism to work for you, not against you. Beyond managing it, you'll learn how to embrace and even enjoy your perfectionism. Yes, enjoy! Full of stories and brimming with humor, empathy, and depth, this book is a love letter to the ambitious, high achieving, full-of-life clients who filled the author’s private practice, and who changed her life. It’s a clarion call for all women to dare to want more without feeling greedy or ungrateful. Ultimately, this book will show you how to make the single greatest trade you’ll ever make in your life, which is to exchange superficial control for real power.

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Emotional intelligence (also known as emotional quotient or EQ) is the ability to understand, use, and manage your own emotions in positive ways to relieve stress, communicate effectively, empathize with others, overcome challenges and defuse conflict.

What Is Emotional Intelligence (EQ

As we know, it’s not the smartest people who are the most successful or the most fulfilled in life. You probably know people who are academically brilliant and yet are socially inept and unsuccessful at work or in their personal relationships. Intellectual ability or your intelligence quotient (IQ) isn’t enough on its own to achieve success in life. Yes, your IQ can help you get into college, but it’s your EQ that will help you manage the stress and emotions when facing your final exams. IQ and EQ exist in tandem and are most effective when they build off one another.

The Importance Of Emotional Intelligence

<ol><li>Self-management . You’re able to control impulsive feelings and behaviors, manage your emotions in healthy ways, take initiative, follow through on commitments, and adapt to changing circumstances.</li><li>Self-awareness . You recognize your own emotions and how they affect your thoughts and behavior. You know your strengths and weaknesses, and have self-confidence.</li></ol>

The 4 Key Skills To Emotional Intelligence

3. Social awareness . You have empathy. You can understand the emotions, needs, and concerns of other people, pick up on emotional cues, feel comfortable socially, and recognize the power dynamics in a group or organization.4. Relationship management . You know how to develop and maintain good relationships, communicate clearly, inspire and influence others, work well in a team, and manage conflict.

It’s important that you learn how to manage stress first, so you’ll feel more comfortable reconnecting to strong or unpleasant emotions and changing how you experience and respond to your feelings. You can develop your emotional awareness by using HelpGuide’s free <a href="https://www.helpguide.org/articles/mental-health/emotional-intelligence-toolkit.htm">Emotional Intelligence Toolkit </a>.

Developing Emotional Awareness

Using these 4 key skills, you can improve your emotional intelligence and increase your success at work, school, and in your relationships.

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Improving Emotional Intelligence (EQ): Expert Guide

understand the technique of a manipulator <ol><li>Pay attention to their words and actions</li><li>Recognise the signs of manipulation</li><li>Be aware of body language</li><li>Be confident</li><li>Ask clarifying questions </li><li>Focus on facts </li><li>Keep your cool.</li></ol>

First Of All

Identify the situations or words that most often make you defensive and reactive. A manipulator will use this information against you. If you can think about what triggers you the most, you can preemptively learn not to be so affected by them. When they try to use it during a heated conversation, those words will not give up their power so easily.

1. Know Your Trigger

Take time to practice controlling your emotions when presented with difficult situations. This may include delaying your response or allowing someone to run their mouth a bit, even if what they say is untrue and unkind. Controlling your emotions doesn’t mean you don’t respond; it just means you control when and how you respond.

2. Practice Self-control

Be familiar with what steps you can take if things become too much. An exit plan could mean asking for a break or leaving the house so you can get some space. Often, it can feel scary to use your exit plan for fear of what they will say. Remember, you get to choose how people talk to you, and you can leave if they don’t respect your boundaries.

3. Have An Exit Plan

No matter how they attempt to manipulate you, you can still assert your right to respect, boundaries, and space. Your value, lovability, and importance are inherent. You may feel quite the opposite if you have been belittled for a long time. Know that what they say is simply false.

4. Remind Yourself Of Your Value

Take time to <a href="https://www.makinwellness.com/deep-breathing-benefits/">breathe deeply </a>after being triggered, which can help you to remember how you want to respond instead of responding emotionally to their attacks. It also takes up space in the conversation, which shows them that you are essential and don’t feel rushed or pressured to respond immediately.

5. Take A Deep Breath

Come up with some common phrases or sentences you can regularly use to deflect manipulative tactics. For example, if they belittle or talk down to you, try saying something like, “I hear what you’re saying. However, I feel differently about this and would appreciate your respecting my opinion.”

Write A Script For Yourself

Are you constantly gaslit, guilted, and in fear of what your partner will say to you? If so, you may be experiencing the tactics of a manipulator.

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How To Outsmart A Manipulator: 6 Steps To Recover Your Power And Prevent Abuse - Makin Wellness

If we could learn to handle our envy correctly, if we think it through with sympathy and skill, then it could play a key role in alerting us to what we genuinely want. Envious thinking can be the gateway to deeper self-knowledge and a profound understanding of our underlying ambitions.

Envy - A Warning To Know Our True Ambitions

We feel envy when someone else has access to an area of happiness that eludes us. The natural response to this feeling is shame; we feel we lack the generosity of spirit to celebrate their achievement. Perhaps we feel guilty for not sufficiently appreciating the lot we have. Yet envy, while uncomfortable, provides us with a message from confused but important parts of our personality about what we should be doing.

Think What Makes You Envious

Instead of trying to repress our envy, we should examine it. Each person we envy is a piece of the jigsaw puzzle that is our future. There is a portrait of a ‘true self’ waiting to be assembled out of the envious hints we receive when we turn the pages of a newspaper or hear updates about the successes of old school friends or witness a friend’s excitement about a new career move. We should calmly ask one essential and redemptive question of all those we envy: ‘What could I learn about here?’

Act On The Emotion?

How Can the infamous emotion, 'Envy', be our friend?

A guide to identifying, nurturing and growing our insight and creativity for more effective thinking. We know that our minds are capable of great things because, every now and then, they come out with a very brilliant idea or two. However, our minds are also tantalisingly unpredictable, spending worryingly large stretches of time idling or distracting themselves. This is a book about how to optimise these beautiful yet fitful instruments so that they can more regularly and generously produce the sort of insights and ideas we need to fulfil our potential – and achieve the contentment we deserve. We learn – among other things – how to grasp fragile and flighty thoughts before they disappear through anxiety and fear, at what times of day to try to work and for how long, how to make use of our boredom and instincts – and how to overcome timid and predictable approaches to the largest problems.

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How to Think More Effectively

There is a big vacuum inside of us, so we look for things outside us to fill up the vacuum. We think that new and exciting things will work, but they don't seem to have an effect.

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Look inside you!

Identify Patterns: Keep a mood record to recognize what impacts your mood positively or negatively.Break the Isolation Cycle: Increase your engagement in positive activities and social interactions to counteract depression.Focus on Vision and Attention: Pay close attention to your life and addressing issues proactively.

Self-Comparison for Improvement: Measure your progress against your past self rather than others, aiming for consistent improvement.Embrace Humility and Learning: Acknowledge the limits of your knowledge and remain open to learning, which fosters growth.Recognize Intrinsic Value: Understand your own worth and potential for positive impact, treating yourself with kindness and striving for betterment.Commit to Positive Actions: Dedicate yourself to making positive changes honestly and wholeheartedly.

•	Maintain a daily log to track mood and activities.	•	Schedule regular social activities and outings.•	Set daily or weekly personal improvement goals.•	Reflect on what you’ve learned each day and how you can apply it moving forward.

Actionable Tips:

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Thoughts occur to us randomly. Thinking is what we intend to do. It is not something that naturally occurs to us.Thoughts are inspiration.Thinking is desperationGreat ideas come in the state of Non-Thinking. Thoughts come directly from our subconscious mind and it’s the combination of the gut feeling and desire.We always think about things out of desperation. We try to rationalize some decision, not because we want to do it, but because we are being forced by some external force to do it.

Thoughts VS Thinking

Thinking is the root cause of all suffering.Feed yourself this sentence everyday. Before sleeping, after waking up, before and after stepping into the bathroom, wherever you possibly can.Realize that most of the stuff is not in your control. If you can’t control it, then you shouldn’t think about it.

How to stop thinking

Most people do what society tells them to do. Do what you love the most, whether it be writing, teaching, starting a YouTube channel, becoming a historian regardless of how much it pays or how much respect it brings you.Money and fame is not in your hands. Allah has already written the money and fame you are going to receive, so why not do something you love.Your gut tells the truth. The Gut Feeling is just a thought from your subconscious mind. The subconscious mind is a very complex machine.A thought from the subconscious mind is a sign from the Universe, The God.

Trust the Gut

Who said you have to figure out how to do certain things?You just need to know what you want, but not the how.You don’t have to solve the problem. The God Almighty has already given you a tool to solve complex problems; The Subconscious Mind.Henry Ford had very little formal education, but he had a strong intuition that he could revolutionize transportation by making automobiles affordable for the average American. His trusted on his intuition and everything followed.

But if I don’t think, how will I do anything?

The outcome is completely out of your control. What is in your control is the effort that you put into the work.By repeating to yourself that your goal is important, your subconscious mind starts sending signals to your conscious mind, prompting you to improve your efforts.📚If this article helped you, then I’m sure <a href="https://binsletter.beehiiv.com/subscribe">my free weekly newsletter</a> will help you a lot in growing and gaining clarity every week to stay strong 💪

You have no control

If you are like me, you constantly think about things. Our brain forces us to think, because it is necessary for survival. But what we don’t realize is that, this thinking is destroying us. Let me explain.

Not thinking changed my life forever

“It’s not enough to be productive. It’s not enough to be successful. I need my joy triggers. Joy triggers are not rational. Bring them into your daily life, because I really believe that it’s all a part of how we can bring balance into our life—getting joy from simple but beautiful things.”

There are 4 main neurochemicals that are fundamentally linked to pleasure and well-being:<ol><li class="ql-align-justify">Dopamine: It drives motivation and our desire for reward. It is released when we accomplish a goal or complete a task.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Serotonin: Often referred to as the "happiness molecule," serotonin helps regulate mood and is targeted by antidepressant medications.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Oxytocin: Known as the "love hormone," oxytocin is released during physical touch, social bonding, and positive interactions.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Endorphins: Acting as natural painkillers, they are released in response to physical activity, laughter, and other forms of pleasure.</li></ol>

The Key Neurochemicals of Happiness

<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">Endocannabinoids are self-produced cannabis and were recently discovered. </li><li class="ql-align-justify"><a href="https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/22442371/">Research</a> shows that humans and dogs have higher levels of endocannabinoids after running, making it a possible explanation for the runner's high.</li></ul>

Discovery of Endocannabinoids: Self-Produced Cannabis

There are two ways to define your joy triggers — retroactively or in the moment:<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">Retroactively: Sit down and remember all the times you felt happy, comfortable, or excited, and write them down. However, <a href="https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/0956797614542274">research</a> suggests we tend to forget small things easily, so this method may not capture all of your joy triggers.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">In the moment: Be mindful of moments that bring you joy and record them (via journal or voice notes over phone) as they happen. This method can be more effective since we more easily remember what's happening now.</li></ul>

Discovering Your Joy Triggers

Joy Triggers cycle

<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">Collect joy triggers: Create a dedicated note called “joy triggers” on your phone and add to it every time you feel good. You will end up with a list of small sources of joy in your life.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Keep your list accessible: Ideally, your joy triggers should be simple activities that you could easily repeat any time you need to quickly improve your mood. E.g., drinking a cup of nice tea, listening to a specific song, looking at memes, going for a quick run, photos of past trips, play with your pet(s), call a close friend, dance!</li></ul>

Define your joy triggers

Use your joy triggers to boost your mood:  Feeling down, stressed, or anxious?Instead of ignoring these feelings, try these simple tips to find joy:<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">Stop what you're doing</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Choose one activity from a list</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Focus on being present and mindful</li></ul>Remember, this won't solve all your problems, but it can help you get through the day!

The beauty of this approach lies in its simplicity and accessibility. No matter what challenges you face or how busy your schedule may be, there’s always an opportunity to pause and savor life’s little pleasures.

<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">So, start building your own collection of joy triggers, and make a habit of turning to them whenever you need a quick pick-me-up. </li><li class="ql-align-justify">And consider sharing these little moments with others – by doing so, you’ll not only enhance your own well-being but also inspire those around you to find more joy in their daily lives.</li></ul>

Action, action, action!

Embracing the small, everyday pleasures and understanding your brain's happiness chemistry can transform your mood and unlock constant positivity.

Joy triggers are simple ways to feel instantly happier, such as drinking a cup of your favourite tea, listening to a specific song, or petting your dog.

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Joy triggers: happiness on demand

Are you held back by social anxiety? Here's how to overcome it:<ul><li>Bust negative thoughts about awkward situations</li><li>Practice small talk with friends/family before branching out</li><li>Join a club/group activity to ease into social interactions</li><li>Remember to breathe and be kind to yourself if things don't go perfectly</li></ul>

Embracing Awkwardness

With patience and a willingness to step out of your comfort zone, you can conquer social anxiety and thrive in social situations

Embracing Awkwardness: The Road to Overcoming Social Anxiety Through Desensitization Strategies

Embracing Awkwardness: Overcoming Social Anxiety

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