“People usually judge you based on where you are at currently, not what you could become eventually. Don't let one comment stop you from trying. File it away or use it as fuel. Focus on getting better. Someone else's analysis of your current position doesn't tell you anything about your current potential.”

“If you're stuck in a negotiation, figure out the 1 thing that is truly non-negotiable for you and then compromise on everything else.”

“One of the great balancing acts in life is to be cautious and daring at the same time.Cautious enough to avoid stupid mistakes, prevent burnout, and maintain a margin of safety.Daring enough to bet on yourself, to do the things you would regret leaving undone, and to be willing to be uncomfortable in the short term so you can learn and grow in the long term.”

“I've found that it's of some help to think of one's moods and feelings about the world as being similar to weather. It’s real. You can't change it by wishing it away. If it's dark and rainy it really is dark and rainy and you can't alter it. It might be dark and rainy for two weeks in a row.But. It will be sunny one day.In the same way that one has to accept the weather, so one has to accept how one feels about life sometimes. “Today's a crap day,” is a perfectly realistic approach. But the sun may well come out tomorrow and when it does, I shall take full advantage.”

“Once you achieve high status, a part of your mind makes you lose interest in the thing that you achieved high status with in the first place. You might feel obligated to maintain an appearance of interest, and defend your position from time to time, but you no longer feel a burning need to know the truth.One solution that might work is to periodically start over. Once you've achieved recognition in some area, and no longer have as much interest in it as you used to, go into a different community focused on a different topic, and start over from a low-status position.”

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Have you ever wondered what it means to find your passion? Many people believe that it simply means doing what makes them happy. However, finding your passion is much more than that. It's about finding ways to give more of yourself to what you do, building on your existing knowledge and skills, and pushing yourself to achieve your full potential.

What Is Passion?

First and foremost, finding your passion is all about giving more of yourself to what you do. This means going beyond what is expected of you and putting in the extra effort to make a meaningful impact in your work. When you are passionate about something, you are driven by the desire to make a difference and contribute to something bigger than yourself.

What You Do

In addition to giving more of yourself, finding your passion also means building on what you already know and defining what you can do. It's important to take note of the things that you are naturally good at and the areas where you need improvement. By acknowledging your strengths and weaknesses, you can focus on developing your skills and knowledge in the areas that matter most to you.

Who You Are

Finally, finding your passion means pushing yourself to achieve even more than you ever thought possible. This involves setting ambitious goals for yourself and working diligently to reach them. When you are truly passionate about something, there is no limit to what you can achieve.

What You Yearn For

In conclusion, finding your passion is about more than doing what makes you happy. It's about giving more of yourself to what you do, building on your existing skills and knowledge, and pushing yourself to achieve your full potential. By following these simple guidelines, you can discover your passion and unlock your true potential in life.

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When you hold on to the need for control, you start to feel responsible for all outcomes of your life. But can you really control what people think of you, or who does or doesn't give you a chance, or who you'll date, or where you'll get a job?You might have some say in these things, but so much of life is unpredictable — and that's part of what makes it beautiful. Unpredictability connects us all.

Struggling For Control Won't Make You Happier

We can't control everything that happens to us, but we can control how we treat ourselves. Allowing ourselves to feel happy, no matter what our life looks like, is the key to real happiness.

1. Stop and reflect.2. Redefine unrealistic expectations you set for yourself.3. Allow yourself to be happy in the present moment.

How To Let Go Of The Desire To Control

Think about all the ways you're focusing on an imaginary future instead of the present.Ask yourself:<ul><li>Do you sometimes let your need to control the future get in the way of you enjoying the present moment? When do you tend to do that, and why?</li><li>It is essential to honor your dreams, but how can you put some of that energy into the most important things in your life today?</li><li>What can you be grateful for right now?</li></ul>

1. Stop and Reflect

Find that voice in your head that keeps reminding you of the need for control. Tell that voice, in no uncertain terms, that you are not living to impress it.Can you imagine living a life where that inner voice is irrelevant? Instead, can you direct that energy towards something that will give you a sense of joy or peace?

2. Redefine Unrealistic Expectations You Set or Yourself

Close your eyes, take three slow breaths, and give yourself permission to feel happy.If you find yourself struggling, think about why that is. I've found that when people think about giving up control and letting life guide them, fear can get in their way. There will always be stressful situations that need your attention, like taking care of the people in your life. But you can let happiness in by shifting your focus from future-oriented fears to the present.You deserve to roll with the life you've got. You deserve to flow with the unexpected and not "have it all together."

3. Allow Yourself to be Happy in the Present Moment

My worst critic is usually the one inside my head. I tend to be happier when I am mindful of it and realize that I don't have to listen.

Many of us believe that we need to be in perfect control of our lives in order to be successful. But that mindset can lead to unhappiness. Jeffrey Marsh, who spent 20 years studying Zen Buddhism, shares how they broke this toxic mental habit.

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I lived as a monk and studied Zen for 20 years—here’s the No. 1 thing people miss when they talk about happiness

In the chaos of our daily lives, it's easy to succumb to carelessness. We misplace our keys, spill coffee on our favorite shirt, and forget important tasks. But fear not! With the power of mindfulness and a sprinkle of humor, we can combat carelessness and bring a touch of joy to our everyday routines. In this article, we'll explore how to infuse mindfulness into our lives through relatable, funny examples and exercises that will help us stay present and attentive.

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Have you ever spent precious minutes searching for your keys, only to find them in the most unexpected places? To combat this forgetfulness, let's transform our key-related mishaps into a mindful game. Each time you unlock your door, take a moment to focus on the sensation of the key turning in the lock. Pay attention to the sound it makes and the movement of your hand. By consciously engaging with this simple act, you'll cultivate a sense of presence that can reduce future bouts of forgetfulness.

The 'Key' Exercise 

We've all experienced the dreaded coffee spill—whether it's on our clothes, important documents, or electronic devices. Instead of getting frustrated, embrace the situation with a touch of humor. Treat the coffee spill as an impromptu comedy act, complete with dramatic sound effects and exaggerated reactions. Laughing at the mishap will help you let go of frustration and shift your focus towards the present moment, enabling you to clean up the mess mindfully and gracefully.

The Coffee Spill Comedy Show

Harness the power of sticky notes to remind yourself to be mindful throughout the day. Write funny and relatable messages like "Remember to breathe before tackling your inbox!" or "Walk like a graceful penguin today!" Stick these notes in places where you're likely to see them—your bathroom mirror, computer monitor, or refrigerator. Each time you encounter a sticky note, pause for a moment, take a deep breath, and engage in a brief mindfulness exercise. This playful approach will inject joy and awareness into your daily routine.

Sticky Notes of Mindfulness

Mindfulness doesn't have to be limited to seated meditation. Embrace your inner Fred Astaire or Ginger Rogers and transform a mundane activity like climbing stairs into a mindful dance routine. As you ascend or descend each step, notice the sensation of your feet connecting with the surface. Pay attention to the rhythm of your breathing and the subtle movement of your body. By infusing movement with mindfulness, you'll bring a touch of joy and presence to an otherwise ordinary task.

The Staircase Stroll

Ever had a moment of panic when you couldn't remember where you parked your car? Turn this treasure hunt into a mindful exploration. Instead of frantically searching, take a moment to stand still in the parking lot. Close your eyes, take a deep breath, and listen. Notice the sounds around you—the distant hum of cars, the chirping of birds, or the laughter of children. Open your eyes and let your intuition guide you towards your vehicle. By practicing mindfulness in these small moments, you'll cultivate a sense of calm and attentiveness.

The Parking Lot Treasure Hunt

Combating carelessness with mindfulness doesn't have to be a solemn affair. By infusing humor, relatable examples, and playful exercises into our daily lives, we can transform even the most mundane tasks into moments of presence and joy. So, let's embrace the dance of mindfulness, laugh at our mishaps, and savor the beauty of each moment. Remember, the key to taming carelessness lies in the mindful madness that adds color and awareness to our everyday routines.

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Unleash Mindful Magic: Embrace the Present, Conquer Carelessness

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In prolonged times of stress, have you ever experienced thoughts telling yourself that your are...not happy enough?...not successful enough?...not rich enough?...not worth enough?...not pretty enough?...not lovable enough?...just not enough in anything?Even though you have family, friends, a home, work, are physically healthy and have no reason to be rationally unhappy?

Self-Sabotage

So where do these self-destructing thoughts come from, when overall you try to live a decent life?Have you ever experienced really bad things in your past (e.g. destructive criticism, disappointment, relationship, childhood), where deep inside you the seed of not being enough could have been sowed?In these particular moments, did you just swallow the seed or did you try to get it out?

The Origin

In case you have not used self-reflecting methods to practise self-love, there's a high chance that the swallowed seed found the right soil to grow into a limiting conviction likeI don't deserve to be happy / loved / succesful / ...

The seed of a limiting conviction

Your perception is limited. Some convictions are obvious, while others are hidden in the maze of your subconscious.Some come up everyday and others just in stressful situations.The obvious and the hidden, the self-loving and self-sabotaging convictions, all have in common to have an deeming impact on your life-perception, thus wellbeing.

The maze of limiting convictions

Limits are subjective. Your limits are the horizon of your imagination. Imagination is depending on the interaction of perception and experiences (current life-knowledge).So in order to challenge your own limiting convictions which reveal themselves in destructive thoughts, you could shift and expand your perception with new perspectives.

Where there's a Limit, there's a Challenge

<ol><li class="ql-align-justify">Fold an empty piece of paper.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">On the left side - list your limiting thoughts briefly, beginning with the most destrucive one. Leave enough space between each thought, no details and no more than there's space.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">On the (b)right side - pretend to be someone you really trust. List parallelly how these chosen person perceives you and argue reasonably from her/his perspective, why your limiting thoughts are inadequate.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Tear the paper into its two halfes. Keep the right and the left you crush into a paper ball, burn it safely or fold a paperplane and let it fly from your favourite lookout.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Let it go.</li></ol>

A Letter for Self-Love

The left side - is sent back to its origin, your past.The right side just arrived its destination, your consciousness.

The Love is sent on its way

You can't rip out a limiting conviction in the garden of your mind without planting a better one. The chance of limiting regrowth is too high. So how to take care of that hole?Right before bed-time<ol><li>Write down one thing - why you are grateful to be yourself. How would it feel, if that one thing was missing in your life? Focus on the feeling, when you overcome the challenge of getting this one thing back.</li><li>Write down - what the happiest thing was, you experienced today. How did you feel in that moment, when it happened? Remember what you saw, heard, smelled, touched and tasted?</li></ol>

Plant Gratitude & water it everyday

The more destructive your past experiences have been, the bigger the seed of self-sabotage has grown, because it was fed with every information aligning its origin/cause (confirmation bias).Currently there're no broadly available quick-fixes for self-sabotage. So be compassionate with yourself (like with someone you love), if your mind has set-back-thoughts. These thoughts occure progressively less over the time of your self-compassionate practice.

Growth takes Time

My partner and me have experienced a lot of hardships in the past. In stressful situations our minds can bring up self-sabotaging thoughts originating subconsciously from bad experiences. To change that, I tried to create an exercise debunking these thoughts rationally with arguments from another perspective and emotionally by the bond of trust with that loved person. I wanted that anyone is able to do it independently on their own.The goal is to become more self-compassionate to increase self-worth and self-love, because - We all deserve Wellbeing.

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If you Want to show your creativity but don’t know where to start?Read this book “Show your work" By Austin Kleon.

Show your work

A lot of us feel like we have nothing to show for, we‘re not that creative but whatever the nature of your work. There is an art to what you do and there are people who would be interested in that art. So choose a few platforms of your liking and take advantage Of all the cheap tools at your disposal.Don’t think of your social media page or website as a Self-Promotion Machine, think of it as a Self-Invention or Self-Discovery Machine.To discover yourself All you have to do is, Show your work.

All Humans are creative

You don’t have to be a genius, Good work isn’t created in a vacuum. Books are made out of books, Art is made out of art. Creativity is always in some sense a collaboration of minds. and It is mostly about connecting ideas. Anyone who is not embarrassed by who they were the last year probably isn’t learning enough. The world is changing at such a rapid rate that it is turning us all into amateurs.One day you’ll be dead and No one will remember you. So let go of your Ego and Show your work.

You don't have to be a Genius

Motivation is a trap, create systems and Start a work journal, write some ideas. Execute countless ideas without attachment to the outcome. Take a lot of photographs from different angles. Trust the process so that you can Show your work

Motivation is a Trap

Even if you feel like a particular idea has been done thousand times before Remember, There’s always room for quality. 20% of your ideas will be responsible for 80% of your followers. Your social media page is your public notebook where you think out loud. People on the internet do not owe you their time, you have to earn it. Stop wasting your time reading articles on how to get more followers.Show up with consistency and Show your work.

There's always Room for Quality

Talk about the things you love and you will find your voice.The best way to get started on the path to sharing your work is to think about what you want to learn and make a commitment to learning it in front of others. Embarrass yourself and befriend the rejection. Make sharing a part of your routine. Small things over time get big.Carving out space online for yourself and sharing your work is one of the best investments you can make with your time.  Remember why you started it and Show your work.

Talk about the things you Love

Always remember when you’re being criticised your work is something you do, not who you’re.The worst troll is the one that lives in your head. Stay away from energy vampires who trigger self-doubt and steal your creativity.The key is to have fun, So Show your work.

Your work relies on you but It is not you

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A habit is formed when you do things in a particular way, over and over again, for a period of time.We need habits because they make life easier.Habits require little-to-no effort to execute once they have been cemented in our brains.

Habit

Your habits can either help you succeed or contribute to your failure.

Habits are either empowering or disempowering.For example: Running late to meetings is a habit but obviously, not an empowering one since it can get you fired. But always going to meetings early will serve you a great deal.

Good & Bad Habit

Most people start working under someone else (pursuing a career), while very few venture into a vocation.Whatever path you're on, growth is the only thing sure to guarantee speedy progress.When intentional about growth, you will gather knowledge and experience quickly, propelling you to heights.

Growth Mindset

Successful people, whether working for somebody else or themselves, do whatever they do to the best of their ability – as if the boss watches them every minute of every day.

Vision brings meaning to your actions.<ul><li>Why do you wake up every day?</li><li>What is it that motivates you to get up in the morning?</li></ul>Unfortunately, for far too many people, their motivation is their bills. No higher purpose, no vision, nothing. And that's why it's easy to get distracted in the day.

Vision

Success is all about meeting set targets, and that means you need a target you're pursuing to succeed.It's like getting into your car with no destination in mind. You'd waste gas without getting anywhere or accomplishing anything.

Target

Pause for a moment to think about your life and what you'd like to accomplish.For example: Create a vision that appeals to you if you want to discover romantic relationships.<ul><li>Do you want to go on vacations more often?</li><li>Do you want to have kids?</li><li>What kind of family would you like to raise?</li></ul>

Purpose

Once you know your vision, target, and purpose — you'll seize to live just for living sake, but every moment of the day, you'd see the reason for doing what you do.You'd become less distracted, more focused and less likely to make mistakes your future self would regret.

No matter how smart a person is, they are bound to make mistakes.Circumstances can tempt them to give up. All these are the inevitables of life.What keeps a person going in the face of challenge is not smartness nor mental toughness, but a strong WHY.

Understand The WHY

Find your WHY 7 times. The reason seven such a magical number is still a mystery, but what's certain is that the first WHY you give for any desire comes out of your head.As you approach and get to number seven, the WHY you begin to give will come right from your heart, and that's your true WHY.

Ask Your Why 7 Times

There's a hero in you as much as a villain in there, but the one you concentrate most on is the one that wins.Two keys you can use to keep the villain at bay:<ul><li>Don't hesitate to take a news break if you realise that you've consumed too much negative stuff.</li><li>Focus on your strengths instead of working on your weaknesses. Working on weaknesses may result in frustration. The truth is, you'd never be good at everything.</li></ul>

There are things in life that you'd suck at, and that's not a bad thing.

We talk to ourselves more than we communicate with anyone, including our spouses.Hence we must take self-talk seriously.Your self-talk is a total of the story you've been telling yourself over time and have come to believe.So, create a positive story for yourself!

Positive Self Talk

The book is designed with one purpose in mind: to take you from where you are in life to where you want to be in life by incorporating easy-to-implement "Success Habits" into your daily routine.

Millionaire Success Habits is a book designed with one purpose in mind: to take you from where you are in life to where you want to be in life by incorporating easy-to-implement "Success Habits" into your daily routine. Legendary business coach Dean Graziosi has broken down the walls of complexity around success and created simple success recipes that you can quickly put to use in your life to reach the level of wealth and abundance you desire. This book is not about adding more time to your day. It is about replacing those things that are not serving your future with success habits designed specifically to assist you on your journey to a better you. In these pages, you'll: - Drill down deep to identify your "why"--the true purpose that drives you and the real reason you want to prosper - Expose and overcome the "villain within" that's holding you back - Unlock the single biggest secret to being productive (it's probably not what you think) - Believe in your own massive potential--

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Write down your financial goals and vision. Make it specific and inspirational. • Create a budget and spending plan that aligns with your goals. Track where your money goes.• Pay yourself first. Make saving a priority before expenses. Start with 10% of your income.

Take Control Of Your Finances 

Identify spending habits that don't serve you and take steps to break them • Avoid emotional spending and impulse purchases • Practice saying "no" more often to reduce unnecessary expenses

Break Your Money Habits

Invest in your skills, knowledge and health to increase your income over time     • Take courses, learn new skills, and improve yourself constantly         • Practice gratitude daily for what you already have

Invest In Yourself First

Make a list of all debts, amounts owed and interest rates              • Pay off high interest debts first using a "debt snowball" or "avalanche" method• Avoid taking on new debt as you pay off existing debt

Pay Off Your Debts

Start investing in assets that generate income like mutual funds, real estate and businesses• Diversify your investments across different asset classes              • Reinvest all returns to compound your wealth over time

Invest In Assets That Make You Money

• Build a portfolio of low-fee index funds to keep costs low and gains high over time                        • Automate your investments through dollar cost averaging                  • Ignore short-term market fluctuations and focus on the long term

Invest In Stocks The Smart Way 

Find low risk properties that have stable cash flow                       • Use other people's money (OPM) through loans and partners to amplify your gains                • Maintain and improve properties to increase their value

Invest In Real Estate 

• Start a part-time or online business to generate passive income                         • Leverage systems, technology and outsourcing to scale your business efficiently                     • Reinvest profits back into the business for exponential growth

Create Income Through Business 

• Develop a wealth mindset of abundance, activity and generosity                    • Make money part of your daily focus and conversations                 • Surround yourself with other successful people for support and inspiration

Mastering Money Is A Mindset

• Write a detailed plan with specific financial goals                    • Break large goals into smaller, achievable steps                    • Hold yourself accountable and regularly revisit your plan to make adjustments

Create Your Financial Freedom Plan

• Take action! Even small steps forward are progress                   • Seek wisdom from mentors to stay motivated and on track                   • Celebrate victories large and small along the way                   • Stay persistent through inevitable setbacks

Make It Happen, Start Today!

Tony Robbins turns to the topic that vexes us all: How to secure financial freedom for ourselves and for our families. “If there were a Pulitzer Prize for investment books, this one would win, hands down” (Forbes). Tony Robbins is one of the most revered writers and thinkers of our time. People from all over the world—from the disadvantaged to the well-heeled, from twenty-somethings to retirees—credit him for giving them the inspiration and the tools for transforming their lives. From diet and fitness, to business and leadership, to relationships and self-respect, Tony Robbins’s books have changed people in profound and lasting ways. Now, for the first time, he has assembled an invaluable “distillation of just about every good personal finance idea of the last forty years” (The New York Times). Based on extensive research and interviews with some of the most legendary investors at work today (John Bogle, Warren Buffett, Paul Tudor Jones, Ray Dalio, Carl Icahn, and many others), Tony Robbins has created a 7-step blueprint for securing financial freedom. With advice about taking control of your financial decisions, to setting up a savings and investing plan, to destroying myths about what it takes to save and invest, to setting up a “lifetime income plan,” the book brims with advice and practices for making the financial game not only winnable—but providing financial freedom for the rest of your life. “Put MONEY on your short list of new books to read…It’s that good” (Marketwatch.com).

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Procrastination is the process of ignoring or putting off undesirable activities, in order to avoid unpleasant feelings. Often these undesirable activities are replaced with something more engaging and enjoyable.

Procrastination: What Is It And How to Manage It

For example, procrastination is associated with ADHD, OCD, Anxiety and Depression.

Procrastination Can Be A Sign Of Underlying Health Conditions 

If you are briefly delaying a task for a more important task - then you might not be procrastinating. However, if you are avoiding a task because of unpleasant feelings and are putting it off indefinitely, then you might be procrastinating. Procrastination can look like:- Leaving an item on your To-Do list- Continuous reviews of written information before responding, sometimes with hours to days in between responses.- Filling time with unimportant tasks- Waiting for the 'right time' to do something

Recognising Procrastination 

Is the task boring or unpleasant?Do you have doubts about your ability or worried you will fail?Do you have challenges with knowing what to do or say?

Why Are You Procrastinating 

A deeply ingrained pattern of behavior that often cannot be broken overnight.A habit only stops being a habit once you stop practicing them.

Procrastination Is A Habit

- Forgive yourself for procrastinating in the past- Commit to the task- Promise yourself a reward- Ask someone to check up on you- Rephrase your internal dialogue- Minimize distractions

Strategies To Succeed 

- Keep a to-do list and prioritize the tasks- Utilize a schedule - Tackle the hardest tasks at your peak time (when you are most motivated)- Set yourself time bound goals- Utilize apps or phone reminders

Getting More Organized To Build Better Habits 

Understand yourself and those around you.

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A mental model is a general idea that can be used to explain many different phenomena. Supply and demand in economics, natural selection in biology, recursion in computer science, or proof by induction in mathematics — these models are everywhere once you know to look for them.

10 Mental Models For Learning Anything

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