"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent."

Your value isn't determined by others. Acknowledge your strengths and celebrate small wins daily.

1. Know Your Worth

Boundaries protect your well-being. Learn to say no when something doesn’t serve you.

2. Set Strong Boundaries

Spot unhealthy behaviors early:<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">Control or jealousy</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Gaslighting or manipulation</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Disrespect for your time or feelings</li></ul>

3. Recognize Red Flags

Good mental health supports healthy relationships. Anne-Marie recommends journaling, meditation, or therapy to stay balanced.

4. Prioritize Your Mental Health

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"Communication is the key to personal and career success."

Healthy communication builds trust:<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">Use assertive language</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Practice active listening</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Express needs openly and respectfully</li></ul>

5. Communicate Clearly

The people you spend time with impact your well-being. Choose friends who uplift and inspire you.

6. Surround Yourself with Positivity

Never stay in a relationship out of fear or convenience. You deserve a partner who respects and supports you.

7. Avoid Settling for Less

Every setback is an opportunity. Reflect on past relationships to understand patterns and grow.

8. Learn From Past Mistakes

Confidence is key to thriving. Practice affirmations and challenge self-doubt regularly.

9. Build Self-Confidence Daily

"The greatest happiness of life is the conviction that we are loved."

Your happiness is your responsibility. Pursue passions, set goals, and make choices aligned with your values.

10. Take Control of Your Happiness

Anne-Marie’s message is simple—don’t settle. You deserve better, and the journey starts with you.

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THE SUNDAY TIMES BESTSELLER Sometimes it feels so hard to love yourself. We worry that we're not good enough or we're being selfish if we take time to prioritise what we need. But self-love is so important and even if we're our own biggest critic, it can be done! You deserve better xxx Hands up if you're fed up with being told you need to go on this diet, you need to behave this way, or you probably shouldn't wear this outfit...the list goes ooooon. Anne-Marie's been told these things her whole life too and they didn't make her feel any better. But now, she's discovered the simple tools that mean she treats herself with the love and respect she needs and this, in turn, means she's able to go out into the world and be as strong, confident and true to herself as she can be. And she wants YOU to be able to do the same. You Deserve Better is the must-read book from singer-songwriter Anne-Marie that doesn't give you fluffy promises about self-care but speaks honestly about body image, mental health, being successful at work and more. It's the real advice that every person needs to hear to be happier in themselves and in the world. Cause you know what? YOU DESERVE BETTER.

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"If you’re alive, you’re a creative person."

Creativity isn’t limited to artists or writers; it’s for everyone. Whether you cook, garden, or solve problems at work, you’re engaging with creativity. Gilbert believes creativity is a natural part of life that everyone should explore.Key takeaway: Don’t wait for permission to be creative—you already have it.

1. Everyone Has Creative Potential

Fear often holds people back from pursuing creative projects. Gilbert suggests acknowledging fear but not letting it control you. Instead, follow your curiosity.Key takeaway: Let curiosity lead the way, even if you’re unsure where it will take you.

2. Be Curious, Not Fearful

Gilbert describes ideas as living entities. They come to you and ask for your attention. If you don’t act on them, they’ll move on to someone else.Key takeaway: When an idea excites you, act on it before it fades away.

3. Ideas Are Like Visitors

Many people abandon creative projects because they want everything to be perfect. Gilbert argues that striving for perfection is pointless—it’s more important to finish what you start.Key takeaway: Done is better than perfect.

4. Perfection Is the Enemy

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“Follow your curiosity. It might lead you to your passion, or it might not—but curiosity alone is enough.”

You don’t always need to feel passionate about your work. Sometimes, simply being interested is enough. Passion can come later as you dive deeper into your creative project.Key takeaway: Start small; even a spark of interest can grow into something bigger.

5. Passion Isn’t Necessary

Creativity comes with challenges, like self-doubt, criticism, or failure. Gilbert encourages readers to embrace these struggles as part of the process.Key takeaway: Every creative journey has ups and downs—keep going.

6. Accept the Struggle

Instead of focusing on how others will judge your work, focus on creating for your own joy and growth. Seeking external validation can drain your creativity.Key takeaway: Make things because you love the process, not because you want praise.

7. Create for Yourself

Some people believe that great art comes from pain. Gilbert disagrees. She believes you can create amazing work without enduring misery.Key takeaway: Creativity can be joyful and fulfilling—it doesn’t have to hurt.

8. You Don’t Need to Suffer

“Do whatever brings you to life, then. Follow your own fascinations, obsessions, and compulsions. Trust them. Create whatever causes a revolution in your heart.”

Gilbert emphasizes trusting in your own creativity. Even if a project doesn’t turn out how you hoped, it’s still valuable because it taught you something.Key takeaway: Every creative effort is worthwhile, regardless of the outcome.

9. Trust the Process

Big Magic is a reminder that creativity is a gift. By overcoming fear, letting go of perfection, and following your curiosity, you can live a more creative and fulfilling life.

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The instant #1 NEW YORK TIMES Bestseller "A must read for anyone hoping to live a creative life... I dare you not to be inspired to be brave, to be free, and to be curious.” —PopSugar From the worldwide bestselling author of Eat Pray Love and City of Girls: the path to the vibrant, fulfilling life you’ve dreamed of.   Readers of all ages and walks of life have drawn inspiration and empowerment from Elizabeth Gilbert’s books for years. Now this beloved author digs deep into her own generative process to share her wisdom and unique perspective about creativity. With profound empathy and radiant generosity, she offers potent insights into the mysterious nature of inspiration. She asks us to embrace our curiosity and let go of needless suffering. She shows us how to tackle what we most love, and how to face down what we most fear. She discusses the attitudes, approaches, and habits we need in order to live our most creative lives. Balancing between soulful spirituality and cheerful pragmatism, Gilbert encourages us to uncover the “strange jewels” that are hidden within each of us. Whether we are looking to write a book, make art, find new ways to address challenges in our work,  embark on a dream long deferred, or simply infuse our everyday lives with more mindfulness and passion, Big Magic cracks open a world of wonder and joy.

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Elizabeth Gilbert is an accomplished writer whose work has resonated with readers around the world. Elizabeth Gilbert has published several books that explore a range of topics, from fiction to nonfiction, and has received critical acclaim for the ability to weave compelling narratives. Elizabeth Gilbert's writing style is known for its depth and authenticity, and has earned quite a loyal following of readers.

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Always let those above you feel superior. If you appear too talented or competent, you risk their envy and wrath. Galileo mastered this by dedicating his discoveries to the Medici family, crediting them rather than taking all the glory. It’s human nature to feel threatened when someone close outshines us. Instead, make your superiors feel like they are guiding or inspiring your success. Compliment their wisdom and subtly position yourself as someone who supports their greatness, not someone who overshadows it. This ensures they see you as an ally, not a rival.@need to leave ego in back pocket.

Law 1: Never Outshine the Master

Friends can betray you, often out of jealousy or familiarity. Enemies, however, are more predictable because their motives are transparent—they either gain from working with you or lose by opposing you. For example, Abraham Lincoln turned rivals into allies by appointing them to his cabinet, ensuring loyalty through shared interest. While friends may slack off or exploit your trust, enemies working for you are driven by the need to prove themselves. Keep relationships balanced and strategic; don't rely too heavily on loyalty alone.Friends can become bane of you existence of you trust them alot

Law 2: Never Put Too Much Trust in Friends, Learn to Use Enemies

If people know your goals, they’ll try to block you or use your plans against you. Deception was key in World War II’s D-Day invasion when the Allies misled Germany about the landing location. Similarly, in personal and business dealings, don’t reveal too much of your strategy—misdirect with false intentions to keep others off guard. For example, say you're casually exploring an opportunity while quietly pursuing it full force. By the time people realize your true goals, it’s too late for them to interfere.Either learn to conceal or see you this effects your personal and private life together.

Law 3: Conceal Your Intentions

The more you talk, the more likely you are to reveal your weaknesses, thoughts, or plans. Calvin Coolidge exemplified this with his short, impactful statements, making others wonder about his deeper intentions. Silence can also create mystery and intrigue, forcing others to fill the void with their assumptions. When negotiating or resolving conflicts, say only what’s needed and let others expose their positions. Speaking less also gives your words more weight, making you appear composed and thoughtful rather than impulsive or desperate.Remember you can't take back what you said once keep quiet

Law 4: Always Say Less Than Necessary

Your reputation is your foundation of power. It dictates how others see and treat you, and a single scandal can ruin everything. For example, when Tesla’s reputation was undermined by Edison’s propaganda, his innovative contributions were overshadowed. Build and maintain an image of reliability, strength, or expertise—whatever serves your goals. If someone attacks your reputation, act swiftly to counter them. Protect it like a fortress, and use it to intimidate or attract others, ensuring your influence remains strong.Either you manage your reputation or somone else will tarnish it and damage.

Law 5: So Much Depends on Reputation – Guard It with Your Life

In a world filled with distractions, staying in the public eye is crucial to maintaining influence. Whether through bold moves or controversy, you must ensure your presence is felt. Lady Gaga, for example, used her eccentric image and performances to stay relevant. By courting attention, you create a sense of mystery, making others eager to know more about you. However, be strategic—negative attention can backfire, so ensure it serves a larger purpose, whether it’s personal branding or expanding your reach.Any attention is better then no attention in this world keep that in mind for future use

Law 6: Court Attention at All Costs

Delegate tasks to others to conserve your energy while positioning yourself as the mastermind behind the success. Thomas Edison, for example, used his team to execute his ideas but reaped the fame as the sole inventor. By giving others credit privately while publicly taking the lead, you maximizes your influence without exhausting yourself. Ensure you guide the efforts of others, giving them just enough direction to align their work with your vision, allowing you to claim full responsibility for the outcome.May look immoral but that the only way morality don't get you power it get you poverty.

Law 7: Get Others to Do the Work, but Always Take the Credit

Instead of chasing after opportunities or people, make them come to you. This can be achieved by offering something irresistible—exclusive access, valuable knowledge, or enticing deals. For example, a high-demand product or service often creates a buzz that forces others to approach you. When they come to you, you control the terms of engagement. Use scarcity or exclusivity to increase your value, ensuring that when others reach out, they do so on your terms, giving you leverage in the interaction.Control your emotions otherwise others will use same the trick on you and put bait infornt of you

Law 8: Make Other People Come to You – Use Bait if Necessary

Actions speak louder than words, especially when trying to persuade or impress others. Arguing only creates resistance and often leads to unnecessary conflict. Instead, demonstrate your ideas through results. For example, Apple’s success under Steve Jobs didn’t come from constant debate about innovation, but from releasing groundbreaking products. When you show what you’re capable of, you silence critics and gain respect. Let your achievements do the convincing, proving your point without saying a word.Must have heard action speak louder then word it true words have not weight without actions

Law 9: Win Through Your Actions, Never Through Argument

Negative or unlucky individuals can drain your energy and sabotage your own efforts. Misfortune is often contagious—being around someone constantly dealing with bad luck or pessimism can affect your mindset and outcomes. Surround yourself with positive, forward-thinking people who inspire you to elevate your game. This doesn’t mean abandoning those in need, but be mindful not to let their negativity or misfortune pull you down. Guard your mental and emotional space to maintain your success trajectory.Negativity consume people like no other thing making them pessimistic and unbearable to people

Law 10: Infection – Avoid the Unhappy and Unlucky

Make yourself indispensable by providing value that others can’t easily replace. In business, a unique skill or product that no one else offers ensures that people need you.Steve Jobs made Apple a brand that people couldn’t live without, securing customer loyalty. By cultivating dependency, you ensure that your influence remains strong, whether through strategic partnerships or creating a need for your services or ideas. People will continue to rely on you as long as they perceive you as essential to their success.If you can't keep them dependent then you don't have power over them remember it

Law 11: Learn to Keep People Dependent on You

People are more likely to trust you when you show vulnerability or generosity, even if it’s part of a strategy. Con artists often use small acts of kindness to lower their victim’s defenses. For instance, by giving a little information or offering a small favor, you gain trust and open the door for further manipulation. The key is to be selective—never give away too much and always ensure that what you share serves your larger goal. Use honesty strategically to appear sincere while still getting what you need.This technique has been used world wide by many people as their power moves for them.

Law 12: Use Selective Honesty and Generosity to Disarm Victim

When seeking assistance, frame your request in terms of what the other person stands to gain, not how much you need their help. For example, when Benjamin Franklin wanted to borrow a book, he didn’t ask for a favor but instead made the other person feel good about helping. People are more likely to act in their own self-interest than out of pity or gratitude. By highlighting mutual benefits, you make it easier for others to see the value in assisting you, which increases the likelihood of success.No on cares about you self interests precedes everything for people so appea it or loose the game.

Law 13: When Asking for Help, Appeal to Self-Interest, Nev

You can gather valuable information from others by posing as a friend and observing them closely. Espionage in history was often based on this principle—gaining insight into an opponent’s weaknesses and plans through friendly interactions. Similarly, in business or personal settings, by building trust and rapport with others, you can gain access to critical information. Be subtle and nonchalant in your approach, so others don’t realize you're collecting valuable intelligence for it future advantage.This will help you get further then other people and gives you advantage over other in the race.

Law 14: Pose as a Friend, Work as a Spy

Leaving any enemy alive gives them a chance to regroup and retaliate. Julius Caesar understood this, ensuring that any rival who posed a threat to him was completely eliminated. Whether in politics or business, half-hearted defeats only create space for your opponents to bounce back. Be decisive in your actions, whether resolving a conflict or ending a toxic relationship. When your enemies are fully neutralized, they can’t plot against you, and your dominance remains unquestioned.Either you crush them or they crush you reconciliation is not possible remember being emotional get you vulnerable

Law 15: Crush Your Enemy Totally

Constant availability breeds familiarity, which can lead to being undervalued. By stepping away strategically, you create mystery and make others appreciate your presence more. For example, celebrities who take breaks between projects often return with greater anticipation from their audience. In relationships or work, overexposure can weaken your impact.Distance yourself at the right moments to give people time to miss you. However, balance is key—stay absent too long, and you risk being forgotten or replaced @.This will help you more then you recognise now and doing this can work like magic.

Law 16: Use Absence to Increase Respect and Honor

When people can’t predict your next move, they become cautious and hesitant to challenge you. For instance, in warfare, erratic strategies confuse the enemy, making it harder for them to plan a counterattack. In everyday life, being unpredictable keeps others on edge and prevents them from taking advantage of you. However, don’t overdo it—constant chaos can lead to mistrust. Instead, use unpredictability sparingly to keep people guessing and ensure they respect your authority.Subtle balance it key for this power moves and delicate nature to much will break the process and will work against you

Law 17: Keep Other Suspended Terror Cultivate Air of Uncertaint

Cutting yourself off from others may feel safe, but it weakens your influence and blinds you to important developments. During the French Revolution, Marie Antoinette’s isolation at Versailles kept her unaware of the growing unrest, ultimately leading to her downfall. Staying connected allows you to monitor threats and build alliances. Engage with others, gather information, and maintain a network of allies. Isolation might seem like protection, but it often leaves you vulnerable and unprepared for change.Also you are social creature being isolated can damage your physce alot then you except .

Law 18: Do Not Build Fortresses to Protect Yourself – Isolation

Not all opponents are the same—some can retaliate in ways you don’t expect. For example, a seemingly insignificant rival might have powerful allies or resources you’re unaware of. Take time to understand the strengths, weaknesses, and motivations of anyone you deal with. Handle interactions carefully to avoid unnecessary conflicts. Offending the wrong person can lead to lasting grudges or devastating revenge. Respect everyone, but tread cautiously, especially when unsure of their true influence.Learn this from mistakes of people in past to underestimate what someone can do and it devasted them

Law 19: Know Who You Dealing With – Do Not Offend Wrong Person

By staying unattached to specific groups or individuals, you maintain flexibility and leverage. During his career, Napoleon Bonaparte often kept alliances fluid, ensuring his loyalty could never be questioned or exploited. Commitments can trap you, forcing you to take sides in conflicts or limiting your options. Instead, play rivals against each other, making both sides eager to win your favor. By staying neutral, you keep your independence and gain the power to influence outcomes in your favorAlso commitment if done prematurely can lead to choas as now you are stuck in a situation you created

Law 20: Do Not Commit to Anyone

The 48 Laws of Power by Robert Greene outlines strategies for gaining and mastering power, using historical examples to teach manipulation, control, and influence.

Amoral, cunning, ruthless, and instructive, this multi-million-copy New York Times bestseller is the definitive manual for anyone interested in gaining, observing, or defending against ultimate control – from the author of The Laws of Human Nature. In the book that People magazine proclaimed “beguiling” and “fascinating,” Robert Greene and Joost Elffers have distilled three thousand years of the history of power into 48 essential laws by drawing from the philosophies of Machiavelli, Sun Tzu, and Carl Von Clausewitz and also from the lives of figures ranging from Henry Kissinger to P.T. Barnum.   Some laws teach the need for prudence (“Law 1: Never Outshine the Master”), others teach the value of confidence (“Law 28: Enter Action with Boldness”), and many recommend absolute self-preservation (“Law 15: Crush Your Enemy Totally”). Every law, though, has one thing in common: an interest in total domination. In a bold and arresting two-color package, The 48 Laws of Power is ideal whether your aim is conquest, self-defense, or simply to understand the rules of the game.

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Robert Greene is an American author of books on strategy, power, and seduction. He has written six international bestsellers, including The 48 Laws of Power, The Art of Seduction, The 33 Strategies of War, The 50th Law, Mastery, and The Laws of Human Nature.

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The 48 Laws of Power

The successful warrior is the average man, with laser-like focus.

Create a dedicated workspace that signals 'work mode' to your brain. This could be a separate room or just a corner of your living space. The key is consistency – when you're in this space, your mind automatically shifts into work mode. Add plants, proper lighting, and minimal decorations to maintain a professional atmosphere without being sterile.

Deep Work Sanctuary

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Transform Your Morning Coffee Into a Productivity Ritual

Instead of fighting distractions, schedule them. Allocate specific time blocks for focused work using techniques like the Pomodoro method (25 minutes of work followed by 5-minute breaks). This structured approach helps your brain stay fresh and actually reduces the urge to check social media or respond to non-urgent messages.

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Unlock Your Brain's Full Potential

Turn off non-essential notifications during work hours. Create separate user profiles on your computer – one for work and one for personal use. This physical separation helps maintain mental boundaries and reduces the temptation to check personal emails or social media during work hours.

Digital Boundaries Matter

Regular physical activity isn't just good for your body; it's crucial for maintaining mental clarity. Taking short movement breaks every hour helps reset your focus and energy levels. Even a quick stretch or walk around your home can make a significant difference in your productivity levels.

The Power of Movement Breaks

Your workspace temperature, lighting, and air quality significantly impact your focus. Keep your room slightly cool (around 70°F), ensure proper ventilation, and use natural light when possible. These environmental factors subconsciously affect your ability to concentrate and stay productive.

Environment Psychology

Focus on being productive instead of busy.

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Stress-Free Success with Meditation

Master the art of staying focused and productive in your home office environment with practical strategies and mindset shifts.

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If you’ve been loyal to others, showing up for them time and again, only to realize they haven’t been honest, steadfast, or reciprocal, you’re not alone. If you’ve poured your heart out and been left empty, this is your reminder: You matter. God’s love and purpose for your life are bigger than anyone’s treatment of you. You were created with intention, and your energy—your love, your presence—is sacred. Choosing yourself is not only an act of self-respect; it is an act of honoring your Higher Power, whatever name you give it.

Choosing Yourself, Spiritually Speaking

First things first: the core of this post is “God,” yes—but it’s not about religion or beating the Bible. The opposite, in fact:One of the most profound shifts in my journey was realizing that the Bible isn’t about Christianity or religion—it’s a tool to birth Christ Consciousness. This understanding changed everything. It wasn’t about dogma, rules, or the rigid traditions I was raised with. Instead, I came to see that the spirituality of Christ Consciousness is about love, compassion, balance, and alignment with Source.

If You Struggle With “God” Because Of Religious Trauma…

I didn’t leave God; I left the earthly “church.” That was the rhetorical number one thing that changed me—and it was through this lens that I began to truly heal. For so long, I felt disconnected because the religion I grew up with was rooted in fear, shame, and punishment. But stepping away from the dogma allowed me to reconnect with the essence of God’s love and truth.﻿

I Left ReligionThe Church, Not God

The Bible, I realized, is not a rulebook to keep us in line—it’s a guide to understanding the divine energy within us and around us. Christ Consciousness isn’t confined to a denomination; it’s about awakening to the truth of who we are, made in God’s image, and walking in alignment with that truth. This awakening freed me from the chains of guilt and fear and allowed me to embrace God’s love in its purest form.

What Is Christ Consciousness?

When I began to see the Bible as a tool for awakening—not for condemnation—it became a source of hope and empowerment instead of a weapon of judgment. This shift wasn’t about rejecting God; it was about rejecting what no longer served my spiritual growth. Once I began to see myself as a reflection of Christ-consciousness—of divine love and purpose—I realized that choosing myself wasn’t selfish; it was faithful. Aligning with God’s truth meant aligning with the truth of who I was created to be: someone worthy of love, joy, and peace.

The Bible Is Meant For Reference, Not Reverence.

So how do you choose yourself? Why should you? And how do you let go of the pain while still honoring the person who hurt you as a creation of the Most High? Here’s what I’ve learned on my journey:

The Questions

You are fearfully and wonderfully made. You are worthy of kindness, respect, and reciprocity—not because of what you’ve done for others but because of who you are, energetically. Choosing yourself isn’t selfish. When you allow yourself to stay in situations that diminish your spirit, you step out of alignment/balance. Choosing yourself is a way of saying, “I trust Source’s vision for my life more than my fear of letting go.”Our worth isn’t dependent on what we do. When I stopped seeking external validation and started aligning with this truth, I found peace and confidence I’d never known.

1. Recognize that you ARE loved

Even the hardest experiences serve a purpose. The ones that hurt us often teach us the most about boundaries, strength, and resilience. They help us grow spiritually as we learn to lean on a Higher Power for healing and clarity. But seeing the lessons is only the beginning—accepting them and acting accordingly is where true growth happens. Acceptance means not just acknowledging the reality of what you’ve been through, but choosing to let the lessons shape your choices, your boundaries, and your future. Growth doesn’t happen unless you take what the pain teaches you and apply it.

2. See (and ACCEPT) the lessons in the pain.

Taking the time to reflect on your experiences, your choices, and your patterns isn’t “overthinking”—it’s honoring the growth process, and it is what fertilizes the fruit of discernment. Introspection allows you to see not only what happened but why it happened and how to prevent the same mistakes or misalignments from repeating. True introspection is productive, not self-destructive; it’s a necessary tool to fully accept and integrate the lessons life teaches you.

A Note About Introspection:

Growing up, I was taught to pray for my enemies. I believe now that while it’s often easier said than done, it’s one of the most powerful actions of faith you can take. When you pray for someone who wronged you, and you do it from love, you release bitterness and open the door for good to work in both their life and yours. Praying for them doesn’t mean excusing their behavior—it means trusting divine justice & grace. Praying for those who hurt me taught me that forgiveness isn’t about them—it’s about my relationship with my Higher Power and Self. Releasing anger allowed me to step into peace<warningtag>.</warningtag>

3. Pray for those who’ve hurt you — and do it from the SOUL.

Letting go doesn’t mean forgetting or pretending the pain didn’t happen. It means surrendering the situation to God’s hands. It’s saying, “Lord, I’ve done what I can. I trust You to handle the rest. ” Letting go is a daily choice, one that releases you from carrying the weight of someone else’s actions and opens you up to God’s peace and provision. Letting go doesn’t erase the scars, but it transforms them. It is an act of trust, not always easy. But every time I surrendered a situation, I felt lighter, freer. It’s amazing how much peace comes when you release what was never yours to hold.

4. “Let Go and Let God.”

Choosing yourself means making room for what is in store. It looks like setting boundaries that protect your peace, surrounding yourself with people who pour into you, and pursuing the dreams Source has placed in your heart. It’s walking in the confidence that God will fill the empty places with joy, purpose, and abundance. After letting go of the toxicity I had encountered in both the good and bad relationships of my life—and more importantly, releasing my own toxic patterns of behavior and thought—I discovered a newfound emotional and mental freedom.

5. Create space for joy and growth.

When we’re in the thick of it, hearing phrases like “Have faith!” or “You just need to trust!” often stirs up resentment instead of comfort. Why would we trust, after all, when all we can see through the lens of our pain and human perspective is evidence that God has abandoned us? I totally get it. And yet…Trusting isn’t just a feeling; it’s an act—a decision to believe in what you can’t yet see. Energy is real, and the science of spirituality is real. Trust is the ultimate act of faith.

6. Trust God, Source, the Universe—whatever name you’ve given it

Trusting is how you prove to yourself that you are serious about stepping into the life destiny has for you. Trust is the ultimate act of faith. It’s not just believing that God exists; it’s living like you believe something does, and is actively working in your life. When I trusted Source fully, even in the hardest moments, I found that doors opened, paths cleared, and peace replaced fear. Energy responds to energy. The more I trusted, the more I received. Trusting doesn’t mean you’ll always understand what’s happening—it means you believe that what’s happening is for the highest good.

Trusting, Continued

Choosing yourself doesn’t mean cutting others off with anger or resentment. It looks like loving from a distance, honoring your boundaries with grace, releasing resentment while still protecting your peace, and praying for them even as you move forward on your path. It’s releasing control and trusting Source to heal what’s broken, finding strength in quiet moments, peace in surrender, and joy in the new opportunities.Choosing yourself doesn’t mean rejecting others; it means loving them in a way that also allows you to love yourself, creating space for God to work in both your life and theirs.

What does choosing yourself in a righteous way look like?

Choose yourself, not in defiance of others, but in alignment with the love and purpose. Whatever “Source” is to you, let it work in your heart, trust it with your future, and watch how life transforms into something more beautiful.Through all the challenges I’ve faced, “Source” has shown me, again and again, that Source is faithful. I haven’t achieved anything on my own. Source has been my provider, my guide, and my reason to keep going. If Source could bring me through the valley, I promise Source can do the same for you. You are not alone, and you are not forgotten.

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Everything I am in this Now—everything I’ve overcome, everything I do or don’t do today—is because of God/Source. I live, breathe, and move forward with a deep sense of gratitude to the One who carried me through valleys I thought I’d never escape. God/Source truly led me out of the valley of the shadow of…

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Choosing Yourself: What I’ve Learned From My Journey of Letting Go and Letting God

Maté argues that there's an inseparable connection between our minds and bodies. Our emotions, particularly suppressed emotions and unresolved trauma, don't just stay in our heads; they have a profound impact on our physical health. He explains how chronic stress, often stemming from early childhood experiences or ongoing life stressors, can trigger the body's stress response (fight-or-flight). When this response is constantly activated, it weakens the immune system and makes us more susceptible to illness.

The Mind-Body Connection

The autonomic nervous system (ANS) plays a crucial role in regulating bodily functions like heart rate, digestion, and the immune response. Chronic stress disrupts the balance of the ANS, leading to dysfunction in these systems.Maté delves into the two branches of the ANS – the sympathetic nervous system (responsible for the stress response) and the parasympathetic nervous system (responsible for rest and repair). He shows how prolonged stress keeps the sympathetic nervous system in overdrive, hindering the body's ability to heal.

The Role of the Autonomic Nervous System

Maté presents the idea that repressed emotions, particularly anger, fear, and sadness, can manifest as physical symptoms and contribute to the development of chronic diseases.He explores the link between suppressed emotions and conditions like autoimmune diseases (e.g., multiple sclerosis, rheumatoid arthritis), cancer, and heart disease. He suggests that people who consistently suppress their emotions to maintain a sense of control or please others are at increased risk.

Repressed Emotions and Disease

Maté identifies a personality type he calls the "nice guy" or "people-pleaser," who is often at higher risk for stress-related illnesses. These individuals tend to prioritize the needs of others above their own, suppress their emotions, and avoid conflict, leading to chronic stress and an inability to set healthy boundaries.

The "Nice Guy Syndrome" and Illness

Maté emphasizes the importance of developing emotional competence, which involves recognizing, understanding, and expressing emotions in a healthy way. He argues that emotional competence is crucial for both preventing and healing from stress-related illnesses. It allows individuals to acknowledge their emotions, set boundaries, and communicate their needs effectively.

The Importance of Emotional Competence

I love this book because I think that this body that has been given to us should be taken care of.

NATIONAL BESTSELLER In this accessible and groundbreaking book -- filled with the moving stories of real people -- medical doctor and bestselling author of Scattered Minds, Gabor Maté, shows that emotion and psychological stress play a powerful role in the onset of chronic illness. Western medicine achieves spectacular triumphs when dealing with acute conditions such as fractured bones or life-threatening infections. It is less successful against ailments not susceptible to the quick ministrations of scalpel, antibiotic or miracle drug. Trained to consider mind and body separately, physicians are often helpless in arresting the advance of most of the chronic diseases, such as breast cancer, rheumatoid arthritis, Crohn’s disease, multiple sclerosis, fibromyalgia, and even Alzheimer’s disease. Gabor Maté has found that in all of these chronic conditions, there is a common thread: people afflicted by these diseases have led lives of excessive stress, often invisible to the individuals themselves. From an early age, many of us develop a psychological coping style that keeps us out of touch with the signs of stress. So-called negative emotions, particularly anger, are suppressed. Dr. Maté writes with great conviction that knowledge of how stress and disease are connected is essential to prevent illness in the first place, or to facilitate healing. When the Body Says No is an impressive contribution to current research on the physiological connection between life’s stresses and emotions and the body systems governing nerves, immune apparatus and hormones. With great compassion and erudition, Gabor Maté demystifies medical science and, as he did in Scattered Minds, invites us all to be our own health advocates. Excerpt from When the Body Says No “Only an intellectual luddite would deny the enormous benefits that have accrued to humankind from the scrupulous application of scientific methods. But not all aspects of illness can be reduced to facts verified by double-blind studies and by the strictest scientific techniques. We confine ourselves to a narrow realm indeed if we exclude from accepted knowledge the contributions of human experience and insight. . . . “In 1892 William Osler, one of the greatest physicians of all time, suspected rheumatoid arthritis to be a stress-related disorder. Today rheumatology all but ignores that wisdom, despite the supporting scientific evidence that has accumulated in the 110 years since Osler first published his text. That is where the narrow scientific approach has brought the practice of medicine. Elevating modern science to be the final arbiter of our sufferings, we have been too eager to discard the insights of previous ages.”

When the Body Says No

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