When you start to speak you need to grab (and keep) your audience's attention.An empowerment promise is a simple statement that clearly explains what the audience can learn from you and why they should care. Use an empowerment promise to explain to your listeners exactly what you can teach them, how they will benefit, and why it's important.

Rule 1: Offer an empowerment promise

Once you've captured the attention of your audience, you need to keep it as you build a strong argument for your main point.The first way to do that is through cycling. You'll circle back to your main point at least three times during your presentation, using repetition for emphasis. At any given moment, about 20 percent of you will be fogged out no matter what the [topic]. So, if you want to ensure that the probability that everybody gets it is high, you need to say it three times.

Rule 2: Cycle the subject

Next, you'll build a fence around your idea in a way that distinguishes it from other ideas (and helps your audience avoid confusion).For example, you might acknowledge that there are similar products to yours on the market, but yours is unique because of x, y, and z.

Rule 3: Build a fence

No matter how skilled a speaker you are, it's inevitable that some of your audience members' minds will start to wanderGving a brief summary of what you've covered so far, invites the audience to refocus on your presentation. Do this every 5-10 minutes to ensure everybody stays with you.

Rule 4: Use verbal punctuation

Another way to help your audience "get back on the bus" is to ask a question.Avoid asking a question that's so simple someone would be embarrassed to answer it. At the same time, you should also avoid asking a question so difficult that no one will be brave enough to answer it.

Rule 5: Ask a question

You can't expect to capture the attention of your listeners if they're sleepy or sluggish.If possible, choose a time mid-to-late morning when your audience is most likely to be alert and receptive. It's also vital to speak in a well-lit room, as dim lighting leads to drowsiness and mental fog.

Rule 6: Choose the right time and place

The medium(s) you use to present your ideas play a major role in how engaged your listeners become -- and how much information they retain.When teaching or informing, using some type of board is preferable, because the speed you write on a board is approximately the same speed that your listeners can absorb ideas. Watching someone write also activates the brain's "mirror neurons," which increases the chances of your audience remembering your main points.

Rule 7: Use boards, props, and slides

The most effective communicators know that simply conveying information isn't enough. They also need to inspire their audience to take action.People feel most inspired when they witness someone who's passionate about what they're doing. In other words, your enthusiasm (or lack thereof) is contagious to your listeners.Whether you're talking about an innovative idea, a new product, or groundbreaking research, be enthusiastic.

Rule 8: Inform and inspire

You have no more than five minutes to convince the listener that your ideas are worthy of their time and attention.Compelling storytelling not only drives home the main points but also persuades and convinces your audience that you've done something worthy of their consideration.Remember: Facts and figures win minds, but stories win hearts.

Rule 9: Facts and figures help, but persuade with stories

Your introduction and the way you build your argument are important, but your audience is more likely to remember your conclusion than any other part of your speech.For that reason, it is recommended that after you summarize your take, you salute the audience -- that is, you tell the audience how much you value their time and attention and what it says about them.

Rule 10: How to conclude: Salute the audience

Your success in life depends on your ability to speak, your ability to write, and the quality of your ideas -- in that order. No matter how amazing your ideas are, no one cares unless you can convey them in a clear, compelling manner -- and with emotional intelligence. To become a highly skilled communicator, whether you're an entrepreneur, business owner, or leader, these 10 rules will help you 

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The world is complex and interconnected, and we need to understand the big ideas from big disciplines, in order to have a whole map of the reality to be able to make better decisions. Critical thinking has to be based on going to the fundamental ideas, to the mental models. Mental models are the most important ideas of each science: philosophy, mathematics, physics, statistics, engineering, chemistry, biology, psychology, economics and history.

100 Mental Models

You need to know and connect them. You should think multidisciplinary , the way of the greatest in history :

The first rule is that you can't really know anything if you just remember isolated facts and try and bang 'em back. If the facts don't hang together on a latticework of theory, you don't have them in a usable form. —Charlie Munger

I basically load my head full of mental models. —Naval Ravikant

The things best to know are first principles and causes, but these things are perhaps the most difficult for men to grasp, for they are farthest removed from the senses. —Aristotle

If our small minds, for some convenience, divide this universe, into parts—physics, biology, geology, astronomy, psychology, and so on—remember that nature does not know it! —Richard Feynman

Specialization is for insects. —Robert A. Heinlein

The book explains 100 mental models to make better decisions and think critically. These models do not tell you what you think, rather they teach you how to think , and encourage you to think critically.  Here are some examples of how mental models will improve your life:

• Do you want to create a successful business?  Leverage, Niches and Scale models will guide you.

Stoicism, Anti-fragility and Resilience give you the vision and strength you need.

Do You Want To Be Happy, Achieve More, & Suffer Less?

Plato's Cave metaphor will give you the answer.

Want To Know Why You Shouldn't Believe What You See On IG?

Take a look at the Incentives mental model.

Want To Boost Your Professional Career?

The 25 biases that Charlie Munger details in Psychology of Human Misjudgment will help you. This program is for people who want to thinking in a multidisciplinary way. The book includes the full and expanded text The Psychology of Human Misjudgment, by Charlie Munger , considered by many to be his best writing. Along with the book, we’ve also included some extra bonuses for you in here, to help you really understand and get a hold of these ideas.

• Do you want to make rational decisions?

Cards are small summaries of each model, like notes, for easy reference.

BONUS #1: CARDS

Quotes use sentences of great figures as a reminder of each model.

BONUS #2: QUOTES

Mental Maps are schemes where the different models are classified by fields of knowledge, for quick reference and verification.

BONUS #3: MENTAL MAPS

To learn and remember each idea in a simple way.

BONUS #4: MEMOS

Template to identify fallacies, biases, and mental models in each situation.

BONUS #5: CHECKLIST

Additionally, we have selected and included 50 of the best books in history , that will help us improve our thinking process, including: <ul><li>Meditations, by Marcus Aurelius </li><li>The Autobiography ofBenjamin Franklin </li><li>The Art of War, by Sun Tzu </li><li>The Origin of Species, by Charles Darwin </li><li>The Wealth of Nations, by Adam Smith </li> </ul>... among many others You can find the entire list of books <a href="https://drive.google.com/file/d/1WZZIZN0rvfo2WFpN35RYCGS6_PXZkccz/view?usp=sharing">here </a>.

BONUS #6: CLASSIC BOOKS

HOW TO THINK BETTERThe world is complex and interconnected, and we need to understand the big ideas from big disciplines, in order to have a whole map of the reality to be able to make better decisions.Critical thinking has to be based on going to the fundamental ideas, to the mental models. Mental models are the most important ideas of each science: philosophy, mathematics, physics, statistics, engineering, chemistry, biology, psychology, economics and history.You need to know and connect them. You should think multidisciplinary, the way of the greatest in history: The first rule is that you can't really know anything if you just remember isolated facts and try and bang 'em back. If the facts don't hang together on a latticework of theory, you don't have them in a usable form.—Charlie Munger I basically load my head full of mental models.—Naval Ravikant Don’t just follow the trend. You may have heard me say that it’s good to think in terms of the physics approach of first principles. Which is, rather than reasoning by analogy, you boil things down to the most fundamental truths you can imagine and you reason up from there.—Elon Musk The things best to know are first principles and causes, but these things are perhaps the most difficult for men to grasp, for they are farthest removed from the senses.—Aristotle If our small minds, for some convenience, divide this universe, into parts—physics, biology, geology, astronomy, psychology, and so on—remember that nature does not know it!—Richard Feynman Specialization is for insects.—Robert A. HeinleinThe book explains 100 mental models to make better decisions and think critically. These models do not tell you what you think, rather they teach you how to think, and encourage you to think critically. Here are some examples of how mental models will improve your life:• Do you want to create a successful business? Leverage, Niches and Scale models will guide you.• Do you want to be happy, achieve more and suffer less? Stoicism, Anti-fragility and Resilience give you the vision and strength you need.• Do you want to know why you shouldn't believe what you see on Instagram? Plato's Cave metaphor will give you the answer. • Do you want to boost your professional career? Take a look at the Incentives mental model.• Do you want to make rational decisions? The 25 biases that Charlie Munger details in Psychology of Human Misjudgment will help you.This program is for people who want to thinking in a multidisciplinary way.The book includes the full and expanded text The Psychology of Human Misjudgment, by Charlie Munger, considered by many to be his best writing.Along with the book, we’ve also included some extra bonuses for you in here, to help you really understand and get a hold of these ideas.Here is what you get, along with the book on 100 Mental Models:BONUS #1: CARDSCards are small summaries of each model, like notes, for easy reference. BONUS #2: QUOTESQuotes use sentences of great figures as a reminder of each model. BONUS #3: MENTAL MAPSMental Maps are schemes where the different models are classified by fields of knowledge, for quick reference and verification. BONUS #4: MEMOSTo learn and remember each idea in a simple way. BONUS #5: CHECKLISTTemplate to identify fallacies, biases, and mental models in each situation.BONUS #6: CLASSIC BOOKSAdditionally, we have selected and included 50 of the best books in history, that will help us improve our thinking process, including:Meditations, by Marcus AureliusThe Autobiography of Benjamin FranklinThe Art of War, by Sun TzuThe Origin of Species, by Charles DarwinThe Wealth of Nations, by Adam Smith... among many othersYou can find the entire list of books here. They are yours for free. 30-DAY MONEY BACK GUARANTEEThe value contained in this program is worth several times its price, if you do not think so we will refund your purchase. Just email us within 30 days of your purchase and we will refund you - no questions asked.This makes your purchase completely risk free.TESTIMONIALS ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ --You have to learn all the big ideas in the key disciplines in a way that they're in a mental latticework in your head and you automatically use them for the rest of your life.If you do that, I solemnly promise you that one day you'll be walking down the street and you'll look to your right and left and you'll think "my heavenly days, I'm now one of the few competent people in my whole age cohort."If you don't do it, many of the brightest of you will live in the middle ranks or in the shallows.—Charlie Munger

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Anger can be a weapon...If you control it, use it. Otherwise you can get lost in it.﻿

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In war, a soldier sees beauty only in the blood of his enemy. The rest of him is lost...sometimes never to return.

Do not mistake my silence for the lack of grief.

Grief 

Wars are fought for two things- survival or advantage. Battles may be won by the better soldier. Wars are won by those who are willing to sacrifice everything to ensure victory.

Sacrifice 

Keep your expectations low and you'll never be disappointed.

Expectations

Atreus: So I'm a man now, like you. No. We are not men. We are more than that. The responsibility is far greater. And you must be better than me.

Responsibility 

We win because we are determined. Disciplined. Not because we feel ourselves superior.

Discipline

Athena: There is one unavoidable truth you will never escape. You cannot change. You will always be....a monster. I know. ﻿But I am your monster no longer.

Choice

Do not concern yourself with what might be, focus on what is.

Anxiety

We will be the Gods we choose to be, not those who have been.

The power of this weapon, any weapon, comes from your heart...but only when tempered by your mind. By the discipline, the self-control, of the one who wields it. That is where the true strength of a warrior lies. You must never forget that.

True Strength

I killed many who were deserving... And many who were not. The cycle ends here. We must be better.

Accepting The Truth

Wisdom of Kratos in his own words. A person who has grown old in a profession where men die young. 

The novelization of the highly anticipated God of War game. His vengeance against the Gods of Olympus years behind him, Kratos now lives as a man in the realm of Norse gods and monsters. It is in this harsh, unforgiving world that he must fight to survive... and teach his son to do the same. This startling reimagining of God of War deconstructs the core elements that defined the series-- satisfying combat; breathtaking scale; and a powerful narrative--and fuses them anew.

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The novelization of the highly anticipated God of War game. His vengeance against the Gods of Olympus years behind him, Kratos now lives as a man in the realm of Norse gods and monsters. It is in this harsh, unforgiving world that he must fight to survive... and teach his son to do the same. This startling reimagining of God of War deconstructs the core elements that defined the series-- satisfying combat; breathtaking scale; and a powerful narrative--and fuses them anew.

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God of War - The Official Novelization

The following post is a guestpost by Walter Chen, founder of a unique new project management tool <a href="https://idonethis.com/">IDoneThis </a>. More about Walter at the bottom of the post. So, here is the thing right at the start: I’ve always been uncomfortable with the traditional ideal of the professional — cool, collected, and capable, checking off tasks left and right, all numbers and results and making it happen, please, with not a hair out of place. An effective employee, no fuss, no muss, a manager’s dream. You might as well be describing an ideal vacuum cleaner.

So, here is the thing right at the start: I’ve always been uncomfortable with the traditional ideal of the professional — cool, collected, and capable, checking off tasks left and right, all numbers and results and making it happen, please, with not a hair out of place. An effective employee, no fuss, no muss, a manager’s dream. You might as well be describing an ideal vacuum cleaner. I admit that I’ve never been able to work that way.  There is one thing that always came first and most importantly for me: How am I feeling today? I found that it can easily happen to think of emotions as something that gets in the way of work. When I grew, I often heard that they obstruct reasoning and rationality, but I feel that we as humans can’t shut off our humanness when we come to work.

I admit that I’ve never been able to work that way.  There is one thing that always came first and most importantly for me: How am I feeling today? I found that it can easily happen to think of emotions as something that gets in the way of work. When I grew, I often heard that they obstruct reasoning and rationality, but I feel that we as humans can’t shut off our humanness when we come to work. Feelings provide important feedback during our workday. It doesn’t make sense to pretend that it’s best or even possible to keep our emotions and work separate, treating our capacity for emotion and thought as weakness. I wanted to look into whether there was anything besides a gut feeling to my suspicions behind keeping the head and the heart separate in business.

Feelings provide important feedback during our workday. It doesn’t make sense to pretend that it’s best or even possible to keep our emotions and work separate, treating our capacity for emotion and thought as weakness. I wanted to look into whether there was anything besides a gut feeling to my suspicions behind keeping the head and the heart separate in business.

It turns out, quite a lot. Emotions play a leading role in how to succeed in business because they influence how much you try and this is widely misunderstood by bosses and managers.Psychologists Teresa Amabile and Steven Kramer interviewed over 600 managers and found a shocking result. 95 percent of managers misunderstood what motivates employees. They thought what motivates employees was making money, getting raises and bonuses.

What Does Emotion Have To Do With Our Work

In fact, after analyzing over 12,000 employee diary entries, they discovered that the number one work motivator was emotion, not financial incentive: it’s the feeling of making progress every day toward a meaningful goal. In Fact, Dan Pink found that actually the exact oposite is true:

“The larger the monetary reward, the poorer the performance. – money doesn’t motivate us, at all, instead emotions do.” In the famous expriment by Dr. Edward Deci clarified again whether emotional feedback or money would engagement with work.  People were sitting in a room and tried to solve a puzzle while Deci measured how much time they put in, before giving up.  For Group A, he offered a cash reward for successfully solving the puzzle, and as you might expect, those people spent almost twice as much time trying to solve the puzzle as those people in Group B who weren’t offered a prize.

A surprising thing happened the next day, when Deci told Group A that there wasn’t enough money to pay them this time around: Group A lost interest in the puzzle.  Group B, on the other hand, having never been offered money in exchange for working on the puzzles, worked on the puzzles longer and longer in each consecutive session and maintained a higher level of sustained interest than Group A. So if it not money what else really motivates us?

Pink <a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u6XAPnuFjJc">explains </a>further that there are in fact just 3 very simple things that drive nearly each and everyone of us to work hard: <ul><li>Autonomy : Our desire to direct our own lives. In short: “You probably want to do something interesting, let me get out of your way!” </li><li>Mastery : Our urge to get better at stuff. </li><li>Purpose : The feeling and intention that we can make a difference in the world. </li> </ul>

3 Real Reasons That Motivate Us To Work Hard Everyday 

If these three things play nicely together, Amabile and Kramer<a href="http://www.progressprinciple.com/">called this </a>the somewhat obvious “inner work life balance” and emphasize its importance to how well we work. Inner work life is what’s going on in your head in response to workday events that affects your performance.

These components: motivation, emotions, and perceptions of how the above three things work together feed each other. So ultimately our emotional processes impact our motivation to work. They end up being the main influencer of our performance. Deci’s experiment showed that payment actually undermined intrinsic motivation because such external rewards thwart our “three psychological needs- to feel autonomous, to feel competent and to feel related to others.” As he told BBC, “You need thinkers, problem solvers, people who can be creative and using money to motivate them will not get you that.”

Amabile and Kramer tell us this: So how does our brain deal with emotion and connect it to such practical results like motivation and productivity? Well, the ironic part is that the parts of the brain that deal with emotions are actually connected to those that deal with cognition . Richard J. Davidson explains how emotional and cognitive functions interrelate. To get all “brainy” with this: Emotions are wired straight into our thinking and cognitive functions such as memory, attention, and reasoning.

What’s going on inside our brains that connects our emotions to motivate you as a thinker and problem solver?

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The Science Behind What Motivates Us to Get Up for Work Every Day

The neural impulses from your taste buds and your ears get transmitted to your brain, which process them and dump them into working memory-so by the time you know you are experiencing something, it's already in the past. Already a memory.Everything we experience us this careful, tape-delayed reconstruction.

Is There Something As Present?

We are homesick most for the places we have never known.

All living really is one long goodbye to those we love.

More like our perception of it is so flawed that it may as well be an illusion. Every moment is equally real and happen ing now, but the nature of our consciousness only gives us access to one slice at a time. Think of our life like a book. Each page a distinct moment. But in the same way we read a book, we can only perceive one moment, one page, at a time. Our flawed perception shuts off access to all the others.

Is Time An Illusion?

Time is what keeps everything from happening at once.

When a person dies, he only appears to die. He is still very much alive in the past... All moments, past, present and future, always have existed, always will exist. It is just on illusion we have here on Earth that one moment follows another one, like beads on a string, and that once a moment is gone it is gone forever.

Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forwards.

NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER • From the bestselling author of Dark Matter and the Wayward Pines trilogy comes a relentless thriller about time, identity, and memory—his most mind-boggling, irresistible work to date, and the inspiration for Shondaland’s upcoming Netflix film. “Gloriously twisting . . . a heady campfire tale of a novel.”—The New York Times Book Review NAMED ONE OF THE BEST BOOKS OF THE YEAR BY Time • NPR • BookRiot Reality is broken. At first, it looks like a disease. An epidemic that spreads through no known means, driving its victims mad with memories of a life they never lived. But the force that’s sweeping the world is no pathogen. It’s just the first shock wave, unleashed by a stunning discovery—and what’s in jeopardy is not our minds but the very fabric of time itself. In New York City, Detective Barry Sutton is closing in on the truth—and in a remote laboratory, neuroscientist Helena Smith is unaware that she alone holds the key to this mystery . . . and the tools for fighting back. Together, Barry and Helena will have to confront their enemy—before they, and the world, are trapped in a loop of ever-growing chaos. Praise for Recursion “An action-packed, brilliantly unique ride that had me up late and shirking responsibilities until I had devoured the last page . . . a fantastic read.”—Andy Weir, #1 New York Times bestselling author of The Martian “Another profound science-fiction thriller. Crouch masterfully blends science and intrigue into the experience of what it means to be deeply human.”—Newsweek “Definitely not one to forget when you’re packing for vacation . . . [Crouch] breathes fresh life into matters with a mix of heart, intelligence, and philosophical musings.”—Entertainment Weekly “A trippy journey down memory lane . . . [Crouch’s] intelligence is an able match for the challenge he’s set of overcoming the structure of time itself.”—Time “Wildly entertaining . . . another winning novel from an author at the top of his game.”—AV Club

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NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER • From the bestselling author of Dark Matter and the Wayward Pines trilogy comes a relentless thriller about time, identity, and memory—his most mind-boggling, irresistible work to date, and the inspiration for Shondaland’s upcoming Netflix film. “Gloriously twisting . . . a heady campfire tale of a novel.”—The New York Times Book Review NAMED ONE OF THE BEST BOOKS OF THE YEAR BY Time • NPR • BookRiot Reality is broken.   At first, it looks like a disease. An epidemic that spreads through no known means, driving its victims mad with memories of a life they never lived. But the force that’s sweeping the world is no pathogen. It’s just the first shock wave, unleashed by a stunning discovery—and what’s in jeopardy is not our minds but the very fabric of time itself.   In New York City, Detective Barry Sutton is closing in on the truth—and in a remote laboratory, neuroscientist Helena Smith is unaware that she alone holds the key to this mystery . . . and the tools for fighting back.   Together, Barry and Helena will have to confront their enemy—before they, and the world, are trapped in a loop of ever-growing chaos. Praise for Recursion “An action-packed, brilliantly unique ride that had me up late and shirking responsibilities until I had devoured the last page . . . a fantastic read.”—Andy Weir, #1 New York Times bestselling author of The Martian “Another profound science-fiction thriller. Crouch masterfully blends science and intrigue into the experience of what it means to be deeply human.”—Newsweek “Definitely not one to forget when you’re packing for vacation . . . [Crouch] breathes fresh life into matters with a mix of heart, intelligence, and philosophical musings.”—Entertainment Weekly “A trippy journey down memory lane . . . [Crouch’s] intelligence is an able match for the challenge he’s set of overcoming the structure of time itself.”—Time “Wildly entertaining . . . another winning novel from an author at the top of his game.”—AV Club

Blake Crouch is a bestselling novelist and screenwriter. He is the author of the forthcoming novel, Dark Matter, for which he is writing the screenplay for Sony Pictures. His international-bestselling Wayward Pines trilogy was adapted into a television series for FOX, executive produced by M. Night Shyamalan, that was Summer 2015’s #1 show. With Chad Hodge, Crouch also created Good Behavior, the TNT television show starring Michelle Dockery based on his Letty Dobesh novellas. He has written more than a dozen novels that have been translated into over thirty languages and his short fiction has appeared in numerous publications including Ellery Queen and Alfred Hitchcock Mystery Magazine. Crouch lives in Colorado with his family.

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<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">Use the power of self-discipline to journey toward your goals without fear, doubt or distraction.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Cultivate your aspirations by discovering your purpose – the “Why” behind your goals.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Once you realize your true aspirations, establish the “How” of achieving your goals by building self-awareness.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Advance your aspirations with decisive action.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Implement self-discipline in your daily life by integrating your activity with your aspirations and values.</li></ul>

Mindful Self-Discipline

Living with Purpose and Achieving Your Goals in a World of Distractions.

If you want to live a life of purpose, build good habits and achieve your goals, there is one skill that is more important than anything else: Self-Discipline. Self-discipline is not about punishment, it's about self-respect. It is not about being inflexible, but about living your best life. It is the superpower of focus in a world of distractions - allowing you to overcome procrastination, excuses, bad habits, low motivation, failures, and self-doubt. With it, you can stay on track with your values and goals even through the times when you are least inspired. Self-discipline allows you to choose who you want to be and live by design rather than by default. As a meditation teacher and self-discipline coach, Giovanni Dienstmann has helped hedge fund managers, CEOs, entrepreneurs, ambitious professionals, artists and pro athletes to live a more focused and disciplined life. Since 2014 he has been successfully coaching people to overcome distractions, procrastination, self-doubt, fear, and other forms of self-sabotage. Whatever self-discipline challenge you face, whatever excuse you are telling yourself - Mindful Self-Discipline is a collection of all these years of experience, converted into a tool for you to use. This revolutionary book is a comprehensive and practical guide for you to develop self-discipline in a balanced way - without beating yourself up. It emphasizes the use of mindfulness and awareness as key components for building habits, rather than forcefulness and willpower. If you have tried other methodologies and failed, then this is for you. This manual for living your life purposefully contains: Over 50 step-by-step exercises Over 100 illustrations and diagrams Links to the scientific studies about each topic Many, many examples - all to make it as easy as possible for you to actually apply all this knowledge and transform your daily life. If you have tried other approaches (Miracle Morning, Atomic Habits, Willpower Instinct, Tiny Habits, Discipline is Freedom, Hooked, Can't Hurt Me) and didn't get the results you were after, then this is for you. Mindful Self-Discipline goes much beyond building habits, time management, and forcing yourself. It is gentler, more achievable, and rooted in living a life of purpose. Think you are not made to be self-disciplined? Think again.

Understand yourself and those around you.

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If you want to live a life of purpose, build good habits and achieve your goals, there is one skill that is more important than anything else: Self-Discipline.Self-discipline is not about punishment, it’s about self-respect. It is not about being inflexible, but about living your best life. It is the superpower of focus in a world of distractions — allowing you to overcome procrastination, excuses, bad habits, low motivation, failures, and self-doubt. With it, you can stay on track with your values and goals even through the times when you are least inspired.Self-discipline allows you to choose who you want to be and live by design rather than by default.As a meditation teacher and self-discipline coach, Giovanni Dienstmann has helped hedge fund managers, CEOs, entrepreneurs, ambitious professionals, artists and pro athletes to live a more focused and disciplined life. Since 2014 he has been successfully coaching people to overcome distractions, procrastination, self-doubt, fear, and other forms of self-sabotage. Whatever self-discipline challenge you face, whatever excuse you are telling yourself — Mindful Self-Discipline is a collection of all these years of experience, converted into a tool for you to use.This revolutionary book is a comprehensive and practical guide for you to develop self-discipline in a balanced way — without beating yourself up. It emphasizes the use of mindfulness and awareness as key components for building habits, rather than forcefulness and willpower. If you have tried other methodologies and failed, then this is for you.This manual for living your life purposefully contains:— Over 50 step-by-step exercises— Over 100 illustrations and diagrams— Links to the scientific studies about each topicMany, many examples — all to make it as easy as possible for you to actually apply all this knowledge and transform your daily life.If you have tried other approaches (Miracle Morning, Atomic Habits, Willpower Instinct, Tiny Habits, Discipline is Freedom, Hooked, Can’t Hurt Me) and didn’t get the results you were after, then this is for you. Mindful Self-Discipline goes much beyond building habits, time management, and forcing yourself. It is gentler, more achievable, and rooted in living a life of purpose.Think you are not made to be self-disciplined? Think again.

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Letting go has a lot of similarities to quitting, but one big difference.<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">When someone quits it’s generally highly emotional and filled with frustration or anger that something isn’t going as well as they thought.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Letting go no longer has an emotional attachment. </li><li class="ql-align-justify">It’s a moment where you realize this person, thing or situation isn’t serving you anymore, it’s not something you want anymore, and it no longer causes you stress. It’s a feeling and action of peace, of freedom.</li></ul>

Letting Go Vs. Quitting 

Quitting is a bright red faced, loud, screaming toddler while letting go is an old woman with long white hair sitting in a peaceful green garden smiling.

The only question you need to answer to know the difference : Why am I doing this?<ul><li>When you can really clarify why you’re doing something, why you’re doing it for you, not anyone else, it will either make you realize you need to keep working hard to get what you want and you’re feeling a little moment of wanting to quit or it will make you realize there is no reason why. </li><li>When you can’t clarify why you’re doing something, it means it’s time to let it go.</li></ul>

How do you recognize the difference

The difference between letting go and quitting 

When you’re a kid, you hear things like, “Winners never quit and quitters never win” (Vince Lombardi). Then suddenly as an adult you start to think that any time you stop doing something, you’re a…

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Love & Relationships

The Difference Between Giving Up and Letting Go

<ul><li>Which activities energize me and which are the ones that drain me?</li><li>With each thing that you do in a day, imagine a button where you can fast forward to the end of the thing.</li><li>Ask yourself: Do you press the button?</li></ul>

The Fast-Forward Test

Ask yourself 3 questions:<ol><li>Five years from now, what does my life look like? Does it excite you?</li><li>Five years from now, what does my life look like if I were to take a different path? Does it excite you?</li><li>Five years from now, what does my life look like if I didn't have to worry about money or societal expectations?</li></ol>You don't have to commit to one of these paths.The purpose of this is to know what it means to have a life that I love and generate ideas.

The Odyssey Plan

You never know how things will look like unless you try them out. So avoid getting caught in an analysis paralysis and start taking steps.

An Important Reminder

<ul><li>After generating ideas, don't think of being successful with them first. Just think of them as experiments to know if you actually enjoy doing them.</li><li>If the fear of even just getting started is stopping you from experimenting, do the smallest step you can take first.</li><li>Figuratively, throw some spaghetti on the wall and see what sticks.</li></ul>

Experiment

If a method doesn't work, don't quit right away. Just think of another method.<ul><li>For example: if your gym coach isn't good in helping you meet your ideal gym experience, it doesn't mean you don't want to be fit anymore. Just get a different coach.</li></ul>

Iterate

Not knowing what you want in life can get you stuck for a long time.

This video is sponsored by Curiosity Stream. Get access to my bonus content on Nebula when you sign up for Curiosity Stream using this link - http://curiositystream.com/ali How do we build a life that we love? In this video which I recorded during a live stream, we're going to look into the principles, strategies and tools that we can use to genuinely build a life that we love. Enjoy x 🎙 Check out my weekly podcast, Deep Dive - https://www.youtube.com/c/DeepDivewithAliAbdaal/ - It's also available on all podcast platforms, including Spotify, Apple Podcasts etc. ⏱ Timestamps 00:00 Intro 00:28 Step 1 - Identify 03:27 The Fast-Forward Test 05:49 The Odyssey Plan 09:55 Step 2 - Experiment 13:15 Step 3 - Iterate 17:42 Tips 💌 Sign up to my weekly email newsletter - https://go.aliabdaal.com/subscribe-sundaysnippets MY FREE ONLINE COURSES: 🚀 Productivity Masterclass - Principles and Tools to Boost Your Productivity - https://go.aliabdaal.com/course/productivity 🎓 How to Study for Exams - An Evidence-Based Masterclass - https://go.aliabdaal.com/course/studying 🎬 YouTube for Beginners - Everything You Need To Know To Start - https://go.aliabdaal.com/course/YouTube-for-Beginners MY CREATOR COURSES 🎬 Part-Time YouTuber Academy - My 6-week live online course on becoming a part-time YouTuber → https://go.aliabdaal.com/parttimeyoutuberacademy 🏆 Creatorpreneur - My flagship course for scaling up your creative side-hustle → https://creatorpreneur.academy/course 🗣 Camera Confidence - My self-paced course on how to improve your creativity, career, or communication skills → https://cameraconfidence.aliabdaal.com/ MY FAVOURITE GEAR 🎥 My YouTube Camera Gear - https://kit.co/AliAbdaal ⌨️ My Keyboard - Wireless Coral mechanical keyboard (Cherry Blue) -https://go.aliabdaal.com/keyboard 📝 My favourite iPad Screen Protector - Paperlike - https://go.aliabdaal.com/paperlike 🎒 My Desk Accessories + Todo List - Ugmonk - https://go.aliabdaal.com/ugmonk MY FAVOURITE TOOLS 🚀 VidIQ - How I optimise my YouTube videos - https://go.aliabdaal.com/vidiq ✍️ Shortform - The BEST summaries of books - https://go.aliabdaal.com/shortform 📚 Readwise - How I remember what I read - https://go.aliabdaal.com/readwise 🎵 Epidemic Sound - Where I get my music (amazing for YouTubers) - https://go.aliabdaal.com/epidemicsound MY KEY LINKS 🌍 My website / blog - https://www.aliabdaal.com/ 🐦 Twitter - https://twitter.com/aliabdaal 📸 Instagram - https://instagram.com/aliabdaal WHO AM I: I’m Ali, a YouTuber, podcaster, soon-to-be author and ex-Doctor working in London, UK. I make videos that explore the strategies and tools that help us live happier, healthier and more productive lives. I also have a weekly podcast called Deep Dive (https://www.youtube.com/channel/UChfo46ZNOV-vtehDc25A1Ug), and I write a weekly email newsletter that contains some quick thoughts + links to interesting things (https://go.aliabdaal.com/subscribe-sundaysnippets). PS: Some of the links in this description are affiliate links that I get a kickback from 😜

This video is sponsored by Curiosity Stream. Get access to my bonus content on Nebula when you sign up for Curiosity Stream using this link - http://curiositystream.com/ali

How do we build a life that we love? In this video which I recorded during a live stream, we're going to look into the principles, strategies and tools that we can use to genuinely build a life that we love. Enjoy x

🎙 Check out my weekly podcast, Deep Dive - https://www.youtube.com/c/DeepDivewithAliAbdaal/ - It's also available on all podcast platforms, including Spotify, Apple Podcasts etc.

⏱ Timestamps
00:00 Intro
00:28 Step 1 - Identify
03:27 The Fast-Forward Test
05:49 The Odyssey Plan
09:55 Step 2 - Experiment
13:15 Step 3 - Iterate
17:42 Tips

💌  Sign up to my weekly email newsletter - https://go.aliabdaal.com/subscribe-sundaysnippets

MY FREE ONLINE COURSES:
🚀  Productivity Masterclass - Principles and Tools to Boost Your Productivity - 
 https://go.aliabdaal.com/course/productivity
🎓  How to Study for Exams - An Evidence-Based Masterclass - https://go.aliabdaal.com/course/studying

🎬 YouTube for Beginners - Everything You Need To Know To Start  - https://go.aliabdaal.com/course/YouTube-for-Beginners

MY CREATOR COURSES
🎬 Part-Time YouTuber Academy - My 6-week live online course on becoming a part-time YouTuber → https://go.aliabdaal.com/parttimeyoutuberacademy
🏆 Creatorpreneur - My flagship course for scaling up your creative side-hustle → https://creatorpreneur.academy/course
🗣 Camera Confidence - My self-paced course on how to improve your creativity, career, or communication skills → https://cameraconfidence.aliabdaal.com/

MY FAVOURITE GEAR
🎥  My YouTube Camera Gear - https://kit.co/AliAbdaal
⌨️  My Keyboard - Wireless Coral mechanical keyboard (Cherry Blue) -https://go.aliabdaal.com/keyboard
📝  My favourite iPad Screen Protector - Paperlike - https://go.aliabdaal.com/paperlike
🎒 My Desk Accessories + Todo List - Ugmonk - https://go.aliabdaal.com/ugmonk

MY FAVOURITE TOOLS
🚀 VidIQ - How I optimise my YouTube videos - https://go.aliabdaal.com/vidiq

✍️ Shortform - The BEST summaries of books - https://go.aliabdaal.com/shortform

📚  Readwise - How I remember what I read - https://go.aliabdaal.com/readwise

🎵  Epidemic Sound - Where I get my music (amazing for YouTubers) - https://go.aliabdaal.com/epidemicsound

MY KEY LINKS
🌍  My website / blog - https://www.aliabdaal.com/
🐦  Twitter - https://twitter.com/aliabdaal
📸  Instagram - https://instagram.com/aliabdaal

WHO AM I:
I’m Ali, a YouTuber, podcaster, soon-to-be author and ex-Doctor working in London, UK. I make videos that explore the strategies and tools that help us live happier, healthier and more productive lives. I also have a weekly podcast called Deep Dive (https://www.youtube.com/channel/UChfo46ZNOV-vtehDc25A1Ug), and I write a weekly email newsletter that contains some quick thoughts + links to interesting things (https://go.aliabdaal.com/subscribe-sundaysnippets).

PS: Some of the links in this description are affiliate links that I get a kickback from 😜

📚 Check out my first book Feel-Good Productivity here: https://www.feelgoodproductivity.com/

Hey, I'm Ali, a doctor turned entrepreneur, and the world’s most followed productivity expert 😜 

On this channel, we explore evidence-based strategies and tools that can help us be more productive, and build a life that we love. 

If that sounds interesting, consider subscribing! See you in the next video x

Ali Abdaal

How To Build A Life You Love

Have you ever been talking to someone and no matter how much you tried, you just weren't clicking with them? They just didn't seem to understand what you were asking, or maybe they misunderstood everything you said. What can you do to get on the same page as someone, communication-wise?

If the person you're speaking with gives you an unsatisfactory answer — a lie, or a response that's confusing or unclear — don't ask the question again. Instead, <a href="https://www.yourtango.com/2021344128/types-eye-contact-what-they-say-about-someones-attraction-you">simply focus in on their eyes </a>and don't say anything. This technique will make him or her feel a bit trapped, and they'll feel compelled to continue their thoughts.

1. Wait it out.

If someone screams at you, don't do anything, as your reaction can lead them to anger. Once the anger dissipates, they'll probably feel guilty for their aggressive and unpleasant behavior, and will apologize.

2. Stay cool.

If you know that a person is going to criticize, blame or make comments about you, face your fear and try to sit or stand beside them. If you're close, that person will be less negative about you than if you were at a distance.

3. Remain nearby.

Eating a meal is often associated with safety and feeling relaxed, so if you're worried about an encounter with someone, chew some gum. It will fool your brain into thinking that you're eating and that there's nothing to be alarmed about. You'll feel much more confident.

4. Chew gum.

<a href="https://www.yourtango.com/experts/lisa-petsinis/how-interview-well-get-that-job">If you have a job interview </a>or have to take an important test, pretend that the interviewer or proctor is a close friend. You'll feel calmer and will be able to answer questions easier.

5. Imagine that the person you need to impress is a good friend.

If a group of people begin laughing at the same time, everybody in that group will instinctively look at the person they like the most or the person with whom they want to get closer to. If you focus on people's eyes after comedy gold, you'll get some valuable information.

6. Look at people's eyes after telling a joke.

Every time you meet someone, articulate a little more happiness than usual toward the person: smile sincerely or try to say their name kindly and warmly. Over time, you'll start relating much better with this person, and the enjoyment of meeting will be sincere.

7. Be happier than normal when meeting someone.

If your work is connected to people, it's possible to encourage them (without their knowledge) to behave better. Generally, people always try to look their best in a mirror, and never want to appear to themselves as jerks. If there's a mirror behind you, people will see their reflections, and will smile and be nicer.

8. Put a mirror behind yourself at work.

If you want to get the attention of someone you like, look at something directly behind their shoulders. Once you know that you've caught the other person's sight, quickly look into their eyes and smile.

9. Apply the one-two rule.

When we're stressed, we have a tendency to breathe deeper, while our heart pounds ridiculously fast. When this happens, try to force yourself to breathe at a more regular pace and calm down your heartbeat. <a href="https://www.yourtango.com/health-wellness/18-quick-ways-relax-instantly-according-science">You have the power to relax </a>right out of the stress zone.

10. Control your stress.

If you want to make a great first impression with a potential love interest or get someone's sympathy, focus on their eye color; intense eye-contact can be effective in building trust and connection with another person.

11. Don't underestimate the effectiveness of eye contact.

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