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When self-criticisim is too much

Perhaps you have thought that self-criticism is what keeps you sharp. Sensitive strivers (high-achievers who are also highly sensitive, demanding excellence from thems...

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As a sensitive striver who deals with the effects of self-criticism on a constant base, I found these techinques interesting to put in practice. Especially the naming one and the timer. It takes a lot of effort to be conscious when this is happening and try to use them, but it’s something I’ll definitely try next time I’m spiralling down into self-recrimination. 🤞🙏

Stop Being So Hard on Yourself

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Being too hard on yourself is a hard pattern to break

Being hard on yourself may be ineffective, but it is also a hard pattern to break. It requires consistent attention and practice. Here are a few strategies that can set you on the path to taking a ...

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1. Name your inner-critic

Create psychological distance from self-criticism by personifying it. Choose a silly name, like “the little monster” or “gremlin”...

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2. Avoid generaliaztion

Sometimes, our impression of ourselves does not match others’ impression. This is called the spotlight effect — a t...

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3. Flip the “what if” narrative

Our minds are wired to make meaning and answer questions; the sensitive brain is making connections and anticipating eventualities. Studies have

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4. Set a timer and a goal

Being hard on yourself can ruin your mood, focus, and productivity. Luckily, shame and humiliation – two emotions that are common with self-criticism — are

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5. Expand your definition of success

As a sensitive striver, you likely have a tendency to define achievement in a hyper-specific way, that is, complete and total excellence at all times. You don’t need to lower your bar, but you do n...

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6. Reflect at the end of your day

Take a few moments at the end of your workday to reflect not only on your professional highlights (praise, recognition, positive reviews, etc.), but also to consider moments where you made yourself...

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