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The Secret and Power of Listening

https://leadershipfreak.blog/2013/03/21/the-secret-and-power-of-listening/

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The Secret and Power of Listening
Leaders often rise to leadership because they're great talkers. Now it's in the way. You can't connect, communicate or influence without listening. Bad bosses talk. Successful leaders listen. Stop talking about listening. Ouch: I still remember the day I asked my wife if I was a good listener.

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Open Your Ears

Don’t jump to advanced listening techniques if you have poor listening skills as you’re very likely to get overwhelmed.

Start by just opening your ears, closing your mouth and looking the speaker in the eyes. Then ask yourself what the speaker is trying to impart on you.

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What Someone Closed to Listening Thinks

What Someone Closed to Listening Thinks
  • How does this impact me?
  • When have I experienced this?
  • What would I do about this?
  • Where can I take this conversation?
  • What do I need to tell?

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5 Roadblocks To Listening

5 Roadblocks To Listening
  1. Disinterest in connecting.
  2. Long-talkers and explainers who never get to the point!
  3. Knowledge. Talkers know.
  4. Distraction by what’s next.
  5. Multi-tasking.

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  2. Inquire: Obtain all the information that is relevant to the resolution of the issue.
  3. Acknowledge: Once the issue is made clear, communicate to your counterpart that you understand it.

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