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How You Can Learn The #1 Persuasion Technique of FBI Hostage Negotiators - Barking Up The Wrong Tree

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How You Can Learn The #1 Persuasion Technique of FBI Hostage Negotiators - Barking Up The Wrong Tree
FBI Hostage negotiators know how to listen and this is the secret to connecting with people. We've all been told we could be better listeners and that listening is important. But what does that really mean and how do we do it? Let's round up the research...

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Conversational Narcissism

Conversational Narcissism

Is to seek to hold the attention of a conversation on oneself. It occasionally manifests on the average person when we pretend to be listening, but we were really focusing on what we want to say.

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Active Listening

Active Listening

Is to not judge or analyze what the person is saying at first. Just focusing on listening and trying to understand their perspective.

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The Three Components of Active Listening

  1. Paraphrase: Consists of repeating at the speakers a summary of what they say, so they feel understood.
  2. Inquire: Obtain all the information that is relevant to the resolution of the issue.
  3. Acknowledge: Once the issue is made clear, communicate to your counterpart that you understand it.

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Active Listening On The FBI’s Hostage Negotiation Techniques

Active Listening On The FBI’s Hostage Negotiation Techniques

The FBI uses a process composed of five sequential stages:

To establish rapport (Stage 3) with the subject, active listening skills (Stage 1) and empathy (Stage 2) must first be demonstrated and maintained throughout by the negotiator. As this process continues, influence (Stage 4) and the successful resolution of the crisis through behavioral change (Stage 5) follow.

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The FBI’s Use Of Active Listening Techniques

  • Minimal Encouragements: Through body language, or brief verbal replies, negotiators demonstrate that they are focused and listening attentively to the subject, this encourages the subject to keep talking and gradually relinquish more control over the situation.
  • Paraphrasing: negotiators repeat in their own words the meaning of subjects’ messages back to them. This shows the negotiators are listening and understanding what the subject is conveying.

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“In crisis situations, emotions can dictate a person’s actions at the detriment of rational thinking.”

Jeff Thompson

"We all need to be good listeners and learn to demonstrate our empathy and understanding of the problems, needs, and issues of others. Only then can we hope to influence their behavior in a positive way.”

"We all need to be good listeners and learn to demonstrate our empathy and understanding of the problems, needs, and issues of others. Only then can we hope to influence their behavior in a positive way.”

The Goal In Law Enforcement Hostage Crisis Situations

To use communication skills to get a person to change from a negative behavior to a more desirable one.

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  • Prepare for crisis: Good crisis-management plans predict and set mechanisms to deal with and minimize the effects of disputes.
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Characteristics of Crisis Negotiation

  • High stakes, including communication towards conflict resolution.
  • Unpredictable.
  • Heightened negative emotions, often leading to conflict escalation.
  • Multiple parties and teams are involved.