<ul><li>Evidence in both psychology and behavioral economics demonstrates that we are not the Mr. Spock-like thinkers and actors that we think we are. </li><li>We are unaware of our unconscious mind, yet it exerts considerable influence over how we think, feel, and behave. </li><li>Primitive instincts, emotional baggage, and ingrained habits are three unconscious forces that can guide our lives. </li><li>Our executive functioning gives us the opportunity to not succumb to the blunt force of our unconscious mind or be driven by our past. </li> </ul>

Not As Smart As You Think

We like to think of ourselves as highly evolved and rational beings who think, feel, and act in ways that are intentional and reasonable. We hold this perception because it enables us to believe that we are “captains” of our lives and help us believe that we are in control of the choices we make and the direction our lives go. In reality, considerable evidence in both <a href="https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-a-cognitive-bias-2794963#:~:text=A%20cognitive%20bias%20is%20a,and%20judgments%20that%20they%20make.&text=Cognitive%20biases%20are%20often%20a,attempt%20to%20simplify%20information%20processing.">psychology </a>and <a href="https://www.thechicagoschool.edu/insight/business/everyday-examples-of-behavioral-economics/">behavioral economics </a>demonstrates that we are far from the Mr. Spock-like thinkers and actors that we hold ourselves up to be.The reason why we don’t always think or behave in ways that are logical.

Who Has Control Of This Ship? 

Our Unconscious Mind The unconscious part of our minds is outside of our conscious awareness and is not easily accessible, meaning we can’t just conjure its content up like we can a seemingly forgotten telephone number (that resides in our <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/unconscious">subconscious </a>). This lack of ready availability makes our unconscious minds both mystifying (“<a href="http://chan%2C%20david%2C%20%22why%20people%20self-sabotage%2C%20and%20how%20to%20stop%20it%22%20%282019%29.%20research%20collection%20school%20of%20social%20sciences.%20paper%203079.%20https//ink.library.smu.edu.sg/soss_research/3079">Why do I keep doing things that hurt me </a>?”) and seemingly beyond our control, often leading to a sense of frustration and helplessness.The unconscious mind consists of three forces that often lead us down unhealthy roads.

First, despite our being supposedly so evolved compared to the rest of the animal kingdom with our cerebral cortex and, more importantly, our pre-frontal cortex, we frequently still <a href="https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4451179/">respond to the world as animals </a>driven by our primitive instincts, emotions, and reactions (e.g., survival instinct, <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/fear">fear </a>, and fight or flight, respectively). Not surprising given that these unconscious forces have been driving all living beings since we climbed out of the primordial muck around 3.5 billion years ago. In contrast, our cerebral cortex has only been around for about 250,000 years. L

Second, carrying around emotional baggage from our <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/child-development">childhood </a>is, for most of us, a part of the human condition. Early in our lives, we develop certain ways of thinking, feeling, and behaving that help protect us from some perceived threat and survive in hostile environs of varying degrees. For example, to feel safe around an angry parent, we learned to be passive and accommodating. To be rewarded by a demanding parent, <a href="https://www.researchgate.net/publication/313684716_Child_Perfectionism_and_its_Relationship_with_Personality_Excessive_Parental_Demands_Depressive_Symptoms_and_Experience_of_Positive_Emotions">we became a perfectionist </a>. These protective mechanisms were highly functional when we were young. Unfortunately, in adulthood, what had been functional can become dysfunctional

Lastly, the more that primitive forces and emotional baggage direct our lives, the more those characteristic ways of acting on and reacting to our world become habitual and the first response we make, even when it may not be appropriate or healthy. For example, when we perceive someone judging us, we react with defensiveness and <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/anger">anger </a>because that’s the way we’ve always reacted, even though such a reaction usually does more harm than good.

The PFC allows us to engage in what is commonly referred to as “<a href="https://developingchild.harvard.edu/science/key-concepts/executive-function/">executive functioning </a>,” which involves the ability to guide our behavior in more intentional ways by weighing pros and cons, calculating risk and rewards, deciding what is best for us in the present, and, at an important level, empowering our conscious mind to override our unconscious mind.

At the same time, I don’t want to completely discredit any value that our unconscious minds may have; Mr. Spock made poor decisions despite his strong sense of what is logical. The unconscious mind isn’t driven solely by unhealthy forces. On the contrary, whether you want to call it your gut, <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/intuition">intuition </a>, spirit, or what have you, we all have the capacity to allow our non-linear and emotional sense to guide us in making healthy choices and steering the direction we take in our lives. This intuitive part of us can draw on information that may not be readily available to our conscious mind,

<h3>Key points</h3><UL><LI>Evidence in both psychology and behavioral economics demonstrates that we are not the Mr. Spock-like thinkers and actors that we think we are.</LI><LI>We are unaware of our unconscious mind, yet it exerts considerable influence over how we think, feel, and behave.</LI><LI>Primitive instincts, emotional baggage, and ingrained habits are three unconscious forces that can guide our lives.</LI><LI>Our executive functioning gives us the opportunity to not succumb to the blunt force of our unconscious mind or be driven by our past.</LI></UL><img alt="John Hain/Pixabay, used with permission" height="214" src="https://cdn.psychologytoday.com/sites/default/files/styles/article-inline-half-caption/public/field_blog_entry_images/2022-02/meditation-gdbfa89c0a_1920.jpg?itok=t13Wj7cR" title="John Hain/Pixabay, used with permission" width="342"><div>Source: John Hain/Pixabay, used with permission</div>We like to think of ourselves as highly evolved and rational beings who think, feel, and act in ways that are intentional and reasonable. We hold this perception because it enables us to believe that we are “captains” of our lives and help us believe that we are in control of the choices we make and the direction our lives go. In reality, considerable evidence in both <a href="https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-a-cognitive-bias-2794963#:~:text=A%20cognitive%20bias%20is%20a,and%20judgments%20that%20they%20make.&amp;text=Cognitive%20biases%20are%20often%20a,attempt%20to%20simplify%20information%20processing." dir="ltr">psychology</a> and <a href="https://www.thechicagoschool.edu/insight/business/everyday-examples-of-behavioral-economics/" dir="ltr">behavioral economics</a> demonstrates that we are far from the Mr. Spock-like thinkers and actors that we hold ourselves up to be.<div dir="ltr">
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 </div>The reason why we don’t always think or behave in ways that are logical or in our best interests (e.g., overeating, <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/addiction" title="Psychology Today looks at substance abuse" hreflang="en" dir="ltr">substance abuse</a>) is that our minds have two parts that drive us and they often work at cross purposes: unconscious and conscious. In other words, our unconscious and conscious minds are in a constant battle for dominion over all aspects of our functioning.Our Unconscious MindThe unconscious part of our minds is outside of our conscious awareness and is not easily accessible, meaning we can’t just conjure its content up like we can a seemingly forgotten telephone number (that resides in our <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/unconscious" title="Psychology Today looks at subconscious" hreflang="en" dir="ltr">subconscious</a>). This lack of ready availability makes our unconscious minds both mystifying (“<a href="http://chan%2C%20david%2C%20%22why%20people%20self-sabotage%2C%20and%20how%20to%20stop%20it%22%20%282019%29.%20research%20collection%20school%20of%20social%20sciences.%20paper%203079.%20https//ink.library.smu.edu.sg/soss_research/3079" dir="ltr">Why do I keep doing things that hurt me</a>?”) and seemingly beyond our control, often leading to a sense of frustration and helplessness.The unconscious mind consists of three forces that often lead us down unhealthy roads.First, despite our being supposedly so evolved compared to the rest of the animal kingdom with our cerebral cortex and, more importantly, our pre-frontal cortex, we frequently still <a href="https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4451179/" dir="ltr">respond to the world as animals</a> driven by our primitive instincts, emotions, and reactions (e.g., survival instinct, <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/fear" title="Psychology Today looks at fear" hreflang="en" dir="ltr">fear</a>, and fight or flight, respectively). Not surprising given that these unconscious forces have been driving all living beings since we climbed out of the primordial muck around 3.5 billion years ago. In contrast, our cerebral cortex has only been around for about 250,000 years. It's no wonder that <a href="https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/18380864/" dir="ltr">our primitive brain often bullies our evolved brain</a> into submission; it has a few billion years' head-start and a lot of practice at influencing how we think, feel, and behave.Second, carrying around emotional baggage from our <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/child-development" title="Psychology Today looks at childhood" hreflang="en" dir="ltr">childhood</a> is, for most of us, a part of the human condition. Early in our lives, we develop certain ways of thinking, feeling, and behaving that help protect us from some perceived threat and survive in hostile environs of varying degrees. For example, to feel safe around an angry parent, we learned to be passive and accommodating. To be rewarded by a demanding parent, <a href="https://www.researchgate.net/publication/313684716_Child_Perfectionism_and_its_Relationship_with_Personality_Excessive_Parental_Demands_Depressive_Symptoms_and_Experience_of_Positive_Emotions" dir="ltr">we became a perfectionist</a>. These protective mechanisms were highly functional when we were young. Unfortunately, in adulthood, what had been functional can become dysfunctional, as, referring back to those examples, passivity and acquiescence, or <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/perfectionism" title="Psychology Today looks at perfectionistic" hreflang="en" dir="ltr">perfectionistic</a>, can result in low <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/self-esteem" title="Psychology Today looks at self-esteem" hreflang="en" dir="ltr">self-esteem</a>, reluctance to assert oneself and take reasonable risks, interfere with the pursuit of life <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/motivation" title="Psychology Today looks at goals" hreflang="en" dir="ltr">goals</a>, and prevent the establishment of healthy relationships.<div dir="ltr">
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 </div>Lastly, the more that primitive forces and emotional baggage direct our lives, the more those characteristic ways of acting on and reacting to our world become habitual and the first response we make, even when it may not be appropriate or healthy. For example, when we perceive someone judging us, we react with defensiveness and <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/anger" title="Psychology Today looks at anger" hreflang="en" dir="ltr">anger</a> because that’s the way we’ve always reacted, even though such a reaction usually does more harm than good.Our Conscious MindThankfully, we have evolved beyond the rest of the animal kingdom with the emergence of the cerebral cortex and, more specifically, our pre-frontal cortex (PFC). The PFC gives us the opportunity to not succumb to the blunt force of our unconscious mind or be driven by our past, either the distant past of our primitive forbearers or the immediate past of our upbringing. Instead, we can assert our conscious mind to make purposeful decisions about how we want to think, feel, and behave rather than being hijacked by those unconscious forces.The PFC allows us to engage in what is commonly referred to as “<a href="https://developingchild.harvard.edu/science/key-concepts/executive-function/" dir="ltr">executive functioning</a>,” which involves the ability to guide our behavior in more intentional ways by weighing pros and cons, calculating risk and rewards, deciding what is best for us in the present, and, at an important level, empowering our conscious mind to override our unconscious mind.<div dir="ltr">
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 </div>Listen to Your Conscious Mind… MostlyYour goal is to have your conscious mind override the often-times unhealthy primitive forces, emotional baggage, and ingrained habits of your unconscious mind that are grounded in the past rather than in the present. When your conscious mind is in control, you are able to mindfully consider your current needs, wants, <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/dreaming" title="Psychology Today looks at dreams" hreflang="en" dir="ltr">dreams</a>, and goals, and make decisions that propel you toward success, <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/happiness" title="Psychology Today looks at happiness" hreflang="en" dir="ltr">happiness</a>, connection, meaning, satisfaction, and joy.<h3 dir="ltr">
 <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/communications-matter/202112/check-your-unconscious-biases-returning-work" rel="bookmark" dir="ltr">Check Your Unconscious Biases Before Returning to Work</a>
 </h3>At the same time, I don’t want to completely discredit any value that our unconscious minds may have; Mr. Spock made poor decisions despite his strong sense of what is logical. The unconscious mind isn’t driven solely by unhealthy forces. On the contrary, whether you want to call it your gut, <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/intuition" title="Psychology Today looks at intuition" hreflang="en" dir="ltr">intuition</a>, spirit, or what have you, we all have the capacity to allow our non-linear and emotional sense to guide us in making healthy choices and steering the direction we take in our lives. This intuitive part of us can draw on information that may not be readily available to our conscious mind, yet may nonetheless tap into both our past experiences (which likely also have a lot of positive influences) and our immediate circumstances to lead us to a decision that may not be linear enough to know how we arrived at it, but just feels right and turn out to be healthy. As I have gained life experience and a better understanding of what enables me to feel content, I have found that harnessing this beneficial aspect of my unconscious mind in concert with my conscious mind typically sends me on the best road for where I am now and where I want to go in the future.Over the next few months, I’ll be exploring this fascinating, inspiring, and sometimes scary journey of positive life change in a series of posts that are based on my work with clients who are on their own personal journey of discovery.ReferencesCHAN, David, "Why people self-sabotage, and how to stop it" (2019). Research Collection School of Social Sciences. Paper 3079. <a href="https://ink.library.smu.edu.sg/soss_research/3079" dir="ltr">https://ink.library.smu.edu.sg/soss_research/3079</a>Santos LR, Rosati AG. The evolutionary roots of human decision making. Annu Rev Psychol. 2015;66:321-347. doi:10.1146/annurev-psych-010814-015310Sherwood, C. C., Subiaul, F., &amp; Zawidzki, T. W. (2008). A natural history of the human mind: tracing evolutionary changes in brain and cognition. Journal of anatomy, 212(4), 426–454. <a href="https://doi.org/10.1111/j.1469-7580.2008.00868.x" dir="ltr">https://doi.org/10.1111/j.1469-7580.2008.00868.x</a>Oros, Laura &amp; Iuorno, Ornella &amp; Serppe, Mónica. (2017). Child Perfectionism and its Relationship with Personality, Excessive Parental Demands, Depressive Symptoms and Experience of Positive Emotions. The Spanish Journal of Psychology. 20. 10.1017/sjp.2017.9. <div data-hide-large-count-items="true"><button type="button" data-show-large-count-items="true" dir="ltr">
 
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Am I in control? Or just under the illusion of being in control?

Which force of the mind guides your life?

We like to think of ourselves as highly evolved and rational beings who think, feel, and act in ways that are intentional and reasonable. We hold this perception because it enables us to believe that we are “captains” of our lives and help us believe that we are in control of the choices we make and the direction our lives go. In reality, considerable evidence in both <a href="https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-a-cognitive-bias-2794963#:~:text=A%20cognitive%20bias%20is%20a,and%20judgments%20that%20they%20make.&text=Cognitive%20biases%20are%20often%20a,attempt%20to%20simplify%20information%20processing.">psychology </a>and <a href="https://www.thechicagoschool.edu/insight/business/everyday-examples-of-behavioral-economics/">behavioral economics </a>demonstrates that we are far from the Mr. Spock-like thinkers and actors that we hold ourselves up to be.

The reason why we don’t always think or behave in ways that are logical or in our best interests (e.g., overeating, <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/addiction">substance abuse </a>) is that our minds have two parts that drive us and they often work at cross purposes: unconscious and conscious. In other words, our unconscious and conscious minds are in a constant battle for dominion over all aspects of our functioning.

Our Unconscious Mind

The unconscious part of our minds is outside of our conscious awareness and is not easily accessible, meaning we can’t just conjure its content up like we can a seemingly forgotten telephone number (that resides in our <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/unconscious">subconscious </a>). This lack of ready availability makes our unconscious minds both mystifying (“<a href="http://chan%2C%20david%2C%20%22why%20people%20self-sabotage%2C%20and%20how%20to%20stop%20it%22%20%282019%29.%20research%20collection%20school%20of%20social%20sciences.%20paper%203079.%20https//ink.library.smu.edu.sg/soss_research/3079">Why do I keep doing things that hurt me </a>?”) and seemingly beyond our control, often leading to a sense of frustration and helplessness.

The unconscious mind consists of three forces that often lead us down unhealthy roads.

First, despite our being supposedly so evolved compared to the rest of the animal kingdom with our cerebral cortex and, more importantly, our pre-frontal cortex, we frequently still <a href="https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4451179/">respond to the world as animals </a>driven by our primitive instincts, emotions, and reactions (e.g., survival instinct, <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/fear">fear </a>, and fight or flight, respectively). Not surprising given that these unconscious forces have been driving all living beings since we climbed out of the primordial muck around 3.5 billion years ago. In contrast, our cerebral cortex has only been around for about 250,000 years. It's no wonder that <a href="https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/18380864/">our primitive brain often bullies our evolved brain </a>into submission; it has a few billion years' head-start and a lot of practice at influencing how we think, feel, and behave.

Second, carrying around emotional baggage from our <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/child-development">childhood </a>is, for most of us, a part of the human condition. Early in our lives, we develop certain ways of thinking, feeling, and behaving that help protect us from some perceived threat and survive in hostile environs of varying degrees. For example, to feel safe around an angry parent, we learned to be passive and accommodating. To be rewarded by a demanding parent, <a href="https://www.researchgate.net/publication/313684716_Child_Perfectionism_and_its_Relationship_with_Personality_Excessive_Parental_Demands_Depressive_Symptoms_and_Experience_of_Positive_Emotions">we became a perfectionist </a>. These protective mechanisms were highly functional when we were young. Unfortunately, in adulthood, what had been functional can become dysfunctional, as, referring back to those examples, passivity and acquiescence, or <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/perfectionism">perfectionistic </a>, can result in low <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/self-esteem">self-esteem </a>, reluctance to assert oneself and take reasonable risks, interfere with the pursuit of life <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/motivation">goals </a>, and prevent the establishment of healthy relationships.

Our Conscious Mind

Thankfully, we have evolved beyond the rest of the animal kingdom with the emergence of the cerebral cortex and, more specifically, our pre-frontal cortex (PFC). The PFC gives us the opportunity to not succumb to the blunt force of our unconscious mind or be driven by our past, either the distant past of our primitive forbearers or the immediate past of our upbringing. Instead, we can assert our conscious mind to make purposeful decisions about how we want to think, feel, and behave rather than being hijacked by those unconscious forces.

Listen to Your Conscious Mind… Mostly

Your goal is to have your conscious mind override the often-times unhealthy primitive forces, emotional baggage, and ingrained habits of your unconscious mind that are grounded in the past rather than in the present. When your conscious mind is in control, you are able to mindfully consider your current needs, wants, <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/dreaming">dreams </a>, and goals, and make decisions that propel you toward success, <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/happiness">happiness </a>, connection, meaning, satisfaction, and joy.

Check Your Unconscious Biases Before Returning to Work

At the same time, I don’t want to completely discredit any value that our unconscious minds may have; Mr. Spock made poor decisions despite his strong sense of what is logical. The unconscious mind isn’t driven solely by unhealthy forces. On the contrary, whether you want to call it your gut, <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/intuition">intuition </a>, spirit, or what have you, we all have the capacity to allow our non-linear and emotional sense to guide us in making healthy choices and steering the direction we take in our lives. This intuitive part of us can draw on information that may not be readily available to our conscious mind, yet may nonetheless tap into both our past experiences (which likely also have a lot of positive influences) and our immediate circumstances to lead us to a decision that may not be linear enough to know how we arrived at it, but just feels right and turn out to be healthy. As I have gained life experience and a better understanding of what enables me to feel content, I have found that harnessing this beneficial aspect of my unconscious mind in concert with my conscious mind typically sends me on the best road for where I am now and where I want to go in the future.

Over the next few months, I’ll be exploring this fascinating, inspiring, and sometimes scary journey of positive life change in a series of posts that are based on my work with clients who are on their own personal journey of discovery.

CHAN, David, "Why people self-sabotage, and how to stop it" (2019). Research Collection School of Social Sciences. Paper 3079. <a href="https://ink.library.smu.edu.sg/soss_research/3079">https://ink.library.smu.edu.sg/soss_research/3079 </a>

Santos LR, Rosati AG. The evolutionary roots of human decision making. Annu Rev Psychol. 2015;66:321-347. doi:10.1146/annurev-psych-010814-015310

Sherwood, C. C., Subiaul, F., & Zawidzki, T. W. (2008). A natural history of the human mind: tracing evolutionary changes in brain and cognition. Journal of anatomy, 212(4), 426–454. <a href="https://doi.org/10.1111/j.1469-7580.2008.00868.x">https://doi.org/10.1111/j.1469-7580.2008.00868.x </a>

Oros, Laura & Iuorno, Ornella & Serppe, Mónica. (2017). Child Perfectionism and its Relationship with Personality, Excessive Parental Demands, Depressive Symptoms and Experience of Positive Emotions. The Spanish Journal of Psychology. 20. 10.1017/sjp.2017.9.

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