Linda Thompson's Key Ideas from How to Break Up with Your Phone
by Catherine Price

To maximize the amount of time that we spend on our phones, designers manipulate our brain chemistry in ways that create addictive behaviors.

Many of the techniques that they use involve a chemical called dopamine. Dopamine is central to motivation, and its release is what makes us excited.

Smartphones take advantage of the fact that dopamine is also released in anticipation of a reward.

To hook users on their products, social media apps rely on the power of intermittent reinforcements.

Intermittent reinforcements are variable reinforcements that are always new and surprising.

Smartphones also tap into our fear of missing out (FOMO). They make it easier to know about the things that we are missing out on. And make us convinced that the only way to keep up-to-date is by constantly checking our phones.

People want their posts to be liked by others and will go to great lengths to be popular on social media. This need is taken advantage of by Big Tech.

Your attention is what gets sold on Social Media. Every moment we spend on social media is attention spent making money for someone else.

The unfortunate thing about this is that attention is the most valuable thing we have. In other words, we experience that which we pay attention to.

• Studies show that the more we use social media, the less happy we become.
• Humans are terrible at multitasking. Even those who believe that they are great at multitasking are not. Our brains can only process one cognitively demanding task at a time.
• Multitasking is not only exhausting, but it also makes us unproductive.

• Your brain is constantly changing, and your smartphone is accelerating the change. Through thought and practice, we can change the structure and function of our brains.
• When we are using our phones, we are in a state of focused distraction. A state that is particularly good at creating long-lasting changes in our brain.
• Smartphones also limit our ability to focus and to work on demanding tasks while limiting our working memory.

You’ve probably heard this one before — about how the blue light given off by your phone can wreak havoc on your sleep patterns. Your brain needs to identify the absence of blue light in order to produce the sleep hormone melatonin? And because melatonin is what regulates your sleep cycle and tells your body to start winding down for the night, your entire sleep cycle can be disrupted by that last drowsy text you send from bed.

The damage that smartphones do to our brains is reversible. You can improve your concentration, rebuild your attention span and improve your memories.

The first step to taking back your life is to practice mindfulness. Practice paying attention to how your cravings feel emotionally and physically and relaxing into them.

This action plan should be spread out over the course of 30 days, divided in four weeks:

1. Day 1: Download a tracking app: A tracking app will tell you how many hours you spend on your phone
2. Day 2: Assess your current relationship with your phone.
3. Day 3: Start paying attention to how and when you use your phone. 
4. Day 4: Take stock and take action:  Look at the results of your tracking app. 
5. Day 5: Delete social media apps.
6. Day 6: Come back to real life: Now that you have free time on your hands, find something that you always wanted to do and do it
7. Day 7: Start doing physical activities.

1. Day 8: Say no to notifications: Turn all notifications on your phone off except call and messaging.
2. Day 9: The life-changing magic of tidying app: Tidy your apps based on two criteria: steal your time and improve your daily life.
3. Day 10: Change where you charge.  If you charge your phone in the bedroom, change the location.
4. Day 11: Set yourself up for success:  Create routines that make it easier for you to succeed in your endeavor. 
5. Day 12: Download an app blocker.
6. Day 13: Set boundaries: Set no-phone zones
7. Day 14: Stop interacting with your phone if you are actively interacting with other people

1. Day 15: Stop, breathe and be: When tempted to reach for your phone, stop what you are doing, take a slow breath, and feel what you are experiencing.
2. Day 16: Practice pausing: Practice pausing before you reach out for your phone.
3. Day 17: Exercise your attention span.  Try to actively focus on something and see how long you can hold.
4. Day 18: Meditate:  Choose something like your breathing to focus on.
5. Day 19: Prepare to separate yourself from your phone for 24 hours.
6. Day 20 -21: Separate yourself from your phone for 24 hours.

1. Day 22: Trial separation recap: Reflect on your trial separation and see what you’ve learned.
2. Day 23: Phast: Practice turning your phone off occasionally.
3. Day 24: Manage your invitations.  Stop, and meditate when you feel the urge to reach out to your phone
4. Day 25: Clean up the rest of your digital life.
5. Day 26: Start being aware of why you are checking your phone. 
6. Day 27: Experiment with breaks from your phone often.
7. Day 28: Create a plan to help you maintain a healthy relationship with your phone.
8. Day 29:  Schedule a regular check-in on yourself.
9. Day 30:  You made it!