Why We Self-Sabotage and How To Stop the Cycle
Basically it is when we take destructive steps that get us further from our own succes.
But if we want to achieve our goals, why do we sabotage ourselves?
And more importantly, what can we do to stop this harmful behavior that impacts on every aspect of our lives?
Well, first we must identify the causes, stop or eliminate the trigger and keep going with treatment.
People who self-sabotage might be aware of their actions or they might unconsciously act. But there are several causes for these behaviors:
Procrastination: You show others you’re never ready and put off a good outcome. It’s because people fear disappointing others, failing, or succeeding.
Perfectionism: Holding oneself to an impossible standard will cause delays and setbacks.
They end up feeling ashamed, when something went wrong. Prone to depression, they feel like they are letting everyone down.
Self-Medication: To deal with the constant battle between wanting to be successful and the script in their brains saying they can’t be, many soothe themselves through drugs or alcohol.
If you keep putting something off what’s important to you, it might be easier emotionally than reaching a goal that you were told you’d never reach.
Maybe you overthink every detail. Aim to strive for excellence, not perfection. Make small improvements and note progress on the way toward accomplishing the desired goal.
When you shoot for something big, like becoming a top salesperson where you work, a giant goal can feel overwhelming. To prevent acts of self-sabotage, don’t get hung up on minutiae.
If you think you self-sabotage, ask yourself:
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The reason why I wanted to share this article is because I notice I have sabotage myself for so long, losing many opportunities. So, if you are in the same situation I hope this can help you somehow :)
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