The Gentle Art of Saying No for a Less Stressful Life

Even if you do have some extra time (which, for many of us, is rare), is this new commitment really the way you want to spend that time?

However, for others, work is their priority, and helping on extra projects could mean the chance for a promotion or raise.

It’s all about knowing your long term goals and what you’ll need to say yes and no to in order to get there. 

Practice makes perfect. Saying “no” as often as you can is a great way to get better at it and more comfortable with saying NO.

Sometimes, repeating the word is the only way to get a message through to extremely persistent people.

When they keep insisting, just keep saying no. Eventually, they’ll get the message.

A common way to start out is “I’m sorry, but…” as people think that it sounds more polite. While politeness is important when you learn to say no, apologizing just makes it sound weaker.

You need to be firm and unapologetic about guarding your time.

When you say no, realize that you have nothing to feel bad about. You have every right to ensure you have time for the things that are important to you. 

Again, it’s important to be polite, but being nice by saying yes all the time only hurts you.

When you make it easy for people to grab your time (or money), they will continue to do it.

However, if you erect a wall or they will look for easier targets.

Show them that your time is well guarded by being firm and turning down as many requests (that are not on your top priority list) as possible.

Simply say so—you can compliment the idea, the project, the person, the organization—but say that it’s not the right fit, or it’s not what you’re looking for at this time. Only say this if it’s true, as people can sense insincerity.