An overweight client of mine was bullied in school. It was ugly. He eventually developed a tendency to slouch forward so his tshirt drops over his man boobs. 10 years later he has round shoulders, over developed glutes and tight hamstrings.

A year into a fitness program he is slim with tight abs. Eventhough he worked on all the physical misallignments, when not aware of his posture he resorted back to slouching. It took him another 2 years working on his self esteem with a therapist to finally correct his posture.

This is one example of the difference between mental and physical healing.

If u ever went to a life coach session or followed a guru on instagram you probably heard the term ancestral healing. The basic lesson is this; some emotional traumas are pick up as kids subconsciously. Imagine a 2 year old seeing a parent freaking out at the beach and never going for a swim. At that age parents are basically gods to us. How do u think this affects the child growing up?

Its very hard recollecting memories from that age, but is it possible that some of our fears have been passed down from our parents or even their parents? Just looking into this is a personal healing process.

The term healing is sometimes misused. From a holistic prespective, the process of healing is natural and healthy. The misuse of it comes when its used as a tool to make u think ur broken and require (place product here) to get fixed.

Are u breaking inside? Not the sharp edged break, but the resonance of what created it, the sudden magnitude of impact that made no sense to the senses, time feels slower, you became naturally numb, and possibly dumbed down to frozen.. but that was once, now ur left with cracklings, an echo of a distant past where the pain was so strong it created an actual void. The story of a feeling that transcends time, and is physically manifest in your reactions and how you experience the present.

But still... what is this pain you're so used to that you actively seek and sometimes find comfort in its warmth. Is it trully a warm cave of a once cold crack, or are you just numbing the pain by building camp fires in your head.. have you trully healed or are you just accepting the voids. Are they one and the same?

The story is in the story line, the role of fire in the plot of a crack becoming a warm cave in your mind, or the more mystical musical scale that forever loops. Which musical notes resonate with those base chords that once defined your world through pain?!

You are both the instrument and the musician and some of those pains are just notes along a scale of an emotional past. Serving as a reminder and a contrast from pleasures to help facilitate self-rewarding behavior, to augment self regulation and to enhance cognitive control, reducing rumination and demonstrating virtue.