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There Is No Right Decision
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Stress and decision making
Much of the stress in life comes from making decisions.
You feel good to make the right decisions. But whether a decision was the right one or not, life goes on. If it was a good one, wonderful. If it was the wrong one, you can count it as experience.
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There's no right choice
Choices can be well reasoned or poorly reasoned.
Their consequences can be beneficial or bad, but there's no right choice, just a wide range of possibilities and for each, an endless web of consequences.
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Informed choices vs. Right choices
More data won't necessarily lead you to the right choice.
There’s a big difference between trying to make smart, well-informed choices and trying to make the right choices. More information might be helpful, but there’s no guarantee.
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Getting it right is impossible
And realizing that is truly a relief.
Giving up on the idea of right decisions doesn’t mean giving up on using our best judgment. But much more important than any decision is the motivation behind the sorts of decisions you tend to make and the principles you stick to.
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Just be there
Empathize
Try, “You are in a tough situation"; Sounds like you’re between a rock and a hard place"; or "I’m so sorry you have to face this kind of problem right now.”
Use the skill of tentativeness
“Tentative” means “not fully worked out, uncertain, or hesitant."
Instead of assuming an expert stance, offer observations with a “beginner’s mind.” For example, say, “I’m not sure, but perhaps you worry that…”; or, “If you felt comfortable doing it, you could consider trying ….”
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The fear of missing out (FOMO)
FOMO and the quality of our experiences
Overcoming FOMO
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10/10/10 Rule
Before making a decision, considers how you’ll feel about this decision in 10 minutes, 10 months, and 10 years.
It’s easy to make short-term decisions that may be beneficial 10 minutes...
Pareto’s Law
In anything we do, there’s always ~20% of activities that will deliver 80% of our desired results.
It’s easy to be wrapped up in ‘busy’ work without ever getting anything done. Pareto’s Law is a useful mental model to be more effective, rather than just be efficient.
Parkinson’s Law
Work expands so as to fill the time available for its completion. So try placing artificial time limitations.
If we’re given three hours to complete a task that normally would take an hour, we’ll find a way to fill those three hours. However, when we’re down to the final thirty minutes, we’re suddenly feeling the pressure to get things done.