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5 Qualities of Charismatic People. How Many Do You Have?
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Be A Good listener
You can’t remember everything, but at least remember people’s names. Repeating their names during the conversation is a good memory reinforcement. Also, listen with interest, pay attention, engage and be empathetic.
Don’t: check your cell phone or look around the room to see if someone more important is there during a conversation.
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Tell Great Stories
Keep yourself informed and speak with conviction. Use words like “I am sure” vs. tentative words like “I think, I hope and I feel.” Use humor, even if it is self-deprecating.
Don’t: Confuse humor with bad joke telling. And don’t overdo on the self-deprecation to the point you push yourself out of the conversation that it takes away from who you are.
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Use Body Language
Be open, approachable, gracious and graceful. Walk up to someone, smile, make eye contact, shake hands. Introduce yourself by saying your name.
Don’t: Overdo it. When you smile, be authentic. If your smile is not in your eyes, people will know you're faking it.
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Make The Conversation About The Other Person
Let the conversation revolve around the person you’re talking to. This makes people feel like they matter and makes them more comfortable with you.
Don’t: Let your ego drive the conversation.
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Be Self Confident
Like yourself. It’s much easier for others to like you if you like yourself. Be optimistic, enthusiastic, comfortable with who you are and consistent.
Don’t: Trot out all your issues or you risk pushing people away. We all have problems, but compartmentalize them, park them in a corner and bring them out for close friends and family.
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Develop A Sense Of Confidence
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- Learn how to use body language to better illustrate stories and make them more powerful.
- A straight posture communicates confidence, while curling or hunching communicates its lack.
- Have an easy smile.
Maintain a High Energy Level
Charisma only comes into play when you’re interacting with others, so you just need high energy during specific interactions.
It’s pretty easy to adopt an exercise that pumps you up before interactions, whether that’s a few jumping jacks before a speech or something more lasting such as a morning routine that includes affirmations and exercise.