Detach To Reconnect

• We must detach ourselves from the outcome of any situation and simply trust that everything will work out in our favor.

If you have an insecure attachment style and suffered from Childhood Trauma, these two factors can make it either extremely difficult or too easy to detach and let go as you likely have a need for control due to the uncertainty of the outcome.

Insecure Attachment Styles:

Anxious, Avoidant, Disorganized

Solutions:

• Educate self on attachment style
• Identify and unlearn negative patterns
• Educate self on practicing emotional regulation

• Journal
• Breath work
• Practice gratitude
• Take a walk and reflect
• Take a bath and reflect

Is it a person, is it a place, is it a thing?

Ask yourself whether or not this attachment adds value

Be honest with yourself about your reason for being attached

What is it that you are seeking from the attachment?

Is it healthy to desire what you are seeking?

Reconnecting with self takes some healing. The key to healing is feeling, not suppressing. Oftentimes we don’t want to think about what we are feeling. Avoid unhealthy coping mechanisms and old patterns by paying attention to how you are feeling. Give yourself space as if you were someone else. Place attention on pinpointing exactly what it is you are feeling, not the situation itself. Once acknowledged, embrace the emotion, once the emotion is embraced, release the emotion.

Accept that your authentic self is good enough.

Accept that you do not need anything apart from you to add value to your life.

Accept that not everyone and everything deserves your presence or attention.

Accept that you can meet your goals without who or what you are attached to

Love is not blind, attachment is. When you are starved for love and connection or anything you need for survival, you will lower your standards and take nearly anything. Overlooking red flags, baggage, and things about the person/thing that a healed and filled version of you would not. It’s like grocery shopping on an empty stomach. You’re more likely to fill up on things you do not need or just straight junk. The solution: Let go to grow.