Habitual behavior is created by thought patterns, which create neural pathways and memories, which eventually become the default basis for your behavior when you’re faced with choices. Our brains seek pleasure and the effort to abstain from bad habits compels you to do them more because abstention feels bad.
Changing requires new ways of thinking, to trigger new neural pathways, which will in time reward you the same way you were neurologically rewarded by the bad habit.
Developing new ways of thinking initially creates significant psychological discomfort. But to persevere you have to recognize that you will naturally want to hold onto your own personal status quo.
To avoid the natural resistance, re-frame the challenge into something you gain and learn.
To better your odds of changing:
Our habits form based on the stories we tell ourselves about who we are. But this stories are not immutable facts, recognizing that is key to change.
Cultivate the belief that you and your life can change and that you are a work in progress. This will lay the foundation for creating the change you want to see in your life.
Research indicates that keeping your eye on the prize makes the prize in question appear closer than if you let yourself get distracted.
Visualize the finish line as closer than it is to make the process feel easier and keep distractions away.
Instead of sticking to dream goals it is better to set a life Direction.
How to figure out a Life Direction? Ask yourself these fundamental questions:
Self-growth is about striving to improve yourself and develop a sense of accountability and responsibility for the right things.
Self-growth requires passion and a sense of curiosity, always asking questions, and learning about your industry and yourself. Another essential part of self-growth is learning how to embrace failure and seeing it as a learning opportunity.