Abuse & Types. II

This is when the abuser purposely ignores the victim by refusing to communicate when they (the victim) is trying to communicate, by pretending that they don't or never existed.

This behaviour may range from just sulking to malevolent abusive controlling behaviour as it can leave significant psychological and emotional repercussions on the person on the receiving end. Because, being left in silence can be extremely painful and can leave the victims questioning "what really happened?" or "what have I done wrong?".

This is a strategic abusive behaviour, when the abuser restricts the victim from the outside world controlling their social activity, ie. whom they see, whom they talk to, where they go. May also include materials they digest: the books they read, TV shows they watch, music they listen to, food they eat and so on.

Thereby, blocking any form of support to the victim inorder to gain total control over them, both physically and mentally.

This is when the abuser tells the victim that he or she is over-reacting or being overly dramatic to a situation thereby making the victim think or feel that the situation seem less important, insignificant, or complex than it really is, therefore is not supposed to react that way.

The size of discomfort is proportional to the size of the problem. Here, the abuser makes small and downsize something (especially complaint) which is important to the victim and hence expects them to ignore it. Even when they know the victim have a point but because they don’t want to deal with it, they wave it out.

Now that you've gotten to the end, if you feel you may have or is currently experiencing this, and you might have a strong tendency to believe that what is happening is your fault, I need you to understand that it is not your fault.

Also, freeing yourself from someone who is causing you mental abuse is very difficult. You do not have to do it alone. Seek the help of trusted family, friends or a mental health therapist.

PRO TIPS- Don’t try to reason with your abuser. They will not magically change unless they want to change and seek professional help. It is not your responsibility.

ABUSE IS REAL.