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How to Befriend Your Inner Critic

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How to Befriend Your Inner Critic
A simple visualization exercise can help you better control the voice inside your head.

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Everybody has an inner critic

Everybody has an inner critic

Our inner critic is the voice from inside our heads, that always puts us under a microscope.

Its "job" is to find and accentuate our failures.

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You can’t get rid of your inner critic

But it is in your power to develop a relationship with it.

Think of your inner critic as a part of you, not all of you. This gives you distance from it and keeps you from attacking yourself.

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Personifying Confidence

Give to the voice of Confidence more of the time you were giving to your inner Critic, letting it acknowledge your accomplishments and positive qualities.

You can try imagining Confidence sitting across from you in a chair, as you listen to what it has to say.

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... who has been internalized. You're speaking to yourself as someone else once talked to you or made you feel.

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