Revenge is the desire to retaliate to someone who has injured us or made us suffer, either physically or mentally.
Studies revealed that the feeling of revenge is extremely rewarding to the brain. The region of the brain called ‘caudate nucleus’ is stimulated when the victim imagines taking revenge to punish the other person.

The Psychology Of Revenge

While movies portray that being able to successfully take revenge will make one feel better, and find some closure, the long term effects of avenging oneself are completely opposite.
The cycle of retaliation continues after seeking revenge, and the pain of the original offence is re-opened, with the emotional wounds aggravated.

The Long-Term Effects of Seeking Revenge

Attaining the heights of success by continued discipline and hustle is the best form of revenge, as it makes the original wrongdoer irrelevant and puny in front of one’s enormous stature. 
One must set goals and work hard towards them, attaining growth, power and fame.

The Alternative To Revenge

“The best revenge is massive success.”

<h1>The Psychology of Revenge: Why It’s Secretly Rewarding</h1>A blogger was stealing my ideas.And it made me very, very angry. Like foot stomping, slobbery snarling, pirate cursing angry.Let me back up…I give a slice of my heart and thumb every time I write for this blog. (Don’t worry they regrow pretty fast). Basically, I LOVE writing for the Science of People—and am so grateful to you for reading!I am constantly looking for ideas, pictures and article topics in my daily life and have pages and pages of notes for possible posts. I spend weeks honing topics, finding research and coming up with titles to make sure that everything we put up is extremely relevant (and of course anti-boring!).So I was more than miffed when I noticed a fellow blogger was poaching our blog topics. About 2 or 3 weeks after we would come out with a post, we would see a strikingly similar post go up on their blog—citing the same research and quotes!Bah! It made me so mad!!!! He was stealing all of our hard work and watering down the topic. My first instincts:<UL><LI>I wanted to rain farts upon his brand.</LI><LI>I wanted to shoot arrows at his articles.</LI><LI>I wanted retribution.</LI></UL>It was such a powerful feeling that I began to research the psychology of revenge and discovered the scientific seeds of this article. Before I get into how I dealt with this blogging monster, here’s what I found about the science and psychology of retribution.<h2>What Is Revenge?</h2>Revenge (n): the action of inflicting hurt or harm on someone for an injury or wrong suffered at their hands; the desire to inflict retribution.It’s the juice of so many TV dramas and movie sagas, but should it play an important role in our real lives?I want to explore the dark, secretive and mysterious science and psychology of revenge. As much as we hate to admit it, revenge is one of those intense feelings that comes up for every single human being.Have you ever been wronged and wished you could punish the perpetrator? This desire is wired within us. Revenge is a powerful internal force we must seek to understand.<h2>The Science of Revenge</h2>A group of Swiss researchers wanted to know what happens in the brain when someone reaps revenge.<OL><LI>They scanned the brains of people who had just been wronged during a game in the lab.</LI><LI>The researchers then gave the wronged participant a chance to punish the other person, and for a full minute as the victim’s contemplated revenge, the activity in their brain was recorded.</LI><LI>Immediately, researchers noticed a rush of neural activity in the caudate nucleus. This is the part of the brain known to process rewards.</LI></OL>Big Idea: This study found that revenge, in the moment, is quite rewarding.However, they wanted to know one more thing: Does revenge keep rewarding?<h2>The Long-Term Effects of Revenge</h2>We often believe that exacting revenge is a form of emotional release and that getting retribution will help us feel better. Movies often portray the act of revenge as a way of gaining closure after a wrong. But in fact, revenge has the opposite effect.Even though the first few moments feel rewarding in the brain, psychological scientists have found that instead of quenching hostility, revenge prolongs the unpleasantness of the original offense.Instead of delivering justice, revenge often creates only a cycle of retaliation.“A man that studieth revenge, keeps his own wounds green, which otherwise would heal.” –Francis Bacon<h2>What to Do with Revenge</h2>Revenge re-opens and aggravates your emotional wounds. Even though you might be tempted to punish a wrong, you end up punishing yourself because you can’t heal.But what do you do if you were wronged? How can you deal with the intense emotional feelings of retribution? What do you do if you feel an intense need for revenge?There is a healthy way to deal with these feelings that can help you heal and give your brain the same amount of rewards without the consequences.<h2>Healthy Revenge</h2>Are you ready for it? This one comes from the amazing, prolific, Frank Sinatra. In his words:“The best revenge is massive success.” –Frank SinatraThe next time you feel the dark tendrils of revenge creeping into your soul, I want you to take that intensity and put it towards succeeding.Put it towards your goals.Put it towards hustling to get what you want.Put it towards growth.&nbsp;Get the reward center of your brain pumping by thinking about how sweet it will feel when you meet your goals. This shifts the focus onto you and your mission and makes your perpetrator irrelevant–which is exactly where they should be.<h2>A Happy Non-Revenge Ending</h2>As you might have guessed, I did not rain farts upon my competitor’s blog. I did not shoot arrows at his articles. I did not seek retribution. After reading this study, I decided to completely turn away from what he was doing and focus all of my energy into making our blog even better.His content stealing actually gave us one of the best insights we could have ever had about our blog:<BLOCKQUOTE>We had to make our content un-stealable.</BLOCKQUOTE>Anyone can write about studies. Anyone can make bullet points. But not everyone can share stories. Not everyone can do original research. Not everyone can have cool videos.This poacher inspired me to level-up our posts. Instead of posting basic steps and bullets, I pushed our team to come up with creative graphics, film and edit cool videos and not post articles until we had really good real life examples.Yes, this made it much harder for him to steal our posts (and now he only does it occasionally) but more important, it made our blog better for our readers. We started getting more shares, comments and likes. Hoorah!So here we go:Thank you for stealing our content. You made us work harder.<img alt="" height="146" width="146" src="data:image/svg+xml;base64,PHN2ZyB2aWV3Qm94PSIwIDAgMTQ2IDE0NiIgd2lkdGg9IjE0NiIgaGVpZ2h0PSIxNDYiIHhtbG5zPSJodHRwOi8vd3d3LnczLm9yZy8yMDAwL3N2ZyI+PC9zdmc+"><h2 dir="ltr"> About Vanessa Van Edwards </h2> <a href="https://www.scienceofpeople.com/about/" dir="ltr">Vanessa Van Edwards</a> is a national best selling author &amp; founder at Science of People. Her groundbreaking book, <a href="https://www.scienceofpeople.com/captivate/" dir="ltr">Captivate: The Science of Succeeding with People</a> has been translated into more than 16 languages. As a recovering awkward person, Vanessa helps millions find their inner charisma. She regularly leads innovative corporate <a href="https://www.scienceofpeople.com/speaking/" dir="ltr">workshops</a> and helps thousands of individual professionals in her online program <a href="https://www.scienceofpeople.com/courses/people-school/" dir="ltr">People School</a>. Vanessa works with entrepreneurs, growing businesses, and trillion dollar companies; and has been featured on CNN, BBC, CBS, Fast Company, Inc., Entrepreneur Magazine, USA Today, the Today Show and many more.

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And it made me very, very angry. Like foot stomping, slobbery snarling, pirate cursing angry.

Let me back up…I give a slice of my heart and thumb every time I write for this blog. (Don’t worry they regrow pretty fast). Basically, I LOVE writing for the Science of People—and am so grateful to you for reading!

I am constantly looking for ideas, pictures and article topics in my daily life and have pages and pages of notes for possible posts. I spend weeks honing topics, finding research and coming up with titles to make sure that everything we put up is extremely relevant (and of course anti-boring!).

So I was more than miffed when I noticed a fellow blogger was poaching our blog topics. About 2 or 3 weeks after we would come out with a post, we would see a strikingly similar post go up on their blog—citing the same research and quotes!

Bah! It made me so mad!!!! He was stealing all of our hard work and watering down the topic. My first instincts:

<ul><li>I wanted to rain farts upon his brand. </li><li>I wanted to shoot arrows at his articles. </li><li>I wanted retribution. </li> </ul>

It was such a powerful feeling that I began to research the psychology of revenge and discovered the scientific seeds of this article. Before I get into how I dealt with this blogging monster, here’s what I found about the science and psychology of retribution.

Revenge (n) : the action of inflicting hurt or harm on someone for an injury or wrong suffered at their hands; the desire to inflict retribution.

It’s the juice of so many TV dramas and movie sagas, but should it play an important role in our real lives?

I want to explore the dark, secretive and mysterious science and psychology of revenge. As much as we hate to admit it, revenge is one of those intense feelings that comes up for every single human being.

Have you ever been wronged and wished you could punish the perpetrator? This desire is wired within us. Revenge is a powerful internal force we must seek to understand.

A group of Swiss researchers wanted to know what happens in the brain when someone reaps revenge.

<ol><li>They scanned the brains of people who had just been wronged during a game in the lab. </li><li>The researchers then gave the wronged participant a chance to punish the other person, and for a full minute as the victim’s contemplated revenge, the activity in their brain was recorded. </li><li>Immediately, researchers noticed a rush of neural activity in the caudate nucleus. This is the part of the brain known to process rewards. </li> </ol>

Big Idea: This study found that revenge, in the moment, is quite rewarding.

However, they wanted to know one more thing: Does revenge keep rewarding?

We often believe that exacting revenge is a form of emotional release and that getting retribution will help us feel better. Movies often portray the act of revenge as a way of gaining closure after a wrong. But in fact, revenge has the opposite effect.

Even though the first few moments feel rewarding in the brain, psychological scientists have found that instead of quenching hostility, revenge prolongs the unpleasantness of the original offense.

Instead of delivering justice, revenge often creates only a cycle of retaliation.

“A man that studieth revenge, keeps his own wounds green, which otherwise would heal.” –Francis Bacon

Revenge re-opens and aggravates your emotional wounds. Even though you might be tempted to punish a wrong, you end up punishing yourself because you can’t heal.

But what do you do if you were wronged? How can you deal with the intense emotional feelings of retribution? What do you do if you feel an intense need for revenge?

There is a healthy way to deal with these feelings that can help you heal and give your brain the same amount of rewards without the consequences.

Are you ready for it? This one comes from the amazing, prolific, Frank Sinatra. In his words:

“The best revenge is massive success.” –Frank Sinatra

The next time you feel the dark tendrils of revenge creeping into your soul, I want you to take that intensity and put it towards succeeding.

Put it towards your goals.

Put it towards hustling to get what you want.

Put it towards growth.

Get the reward center of your brain pumping by thinking about how sweet it will feel when you meet your goals. This shifts the focus onto you and your mission and makes your perpetrator irrelevant–which is exactly where they should be.

As you might have guessed, I did not rain farts upon my competitor’s blog. I did not shoot arrows at his articles. I did not seek retribution. After reading this study, I decided to completely turn away from what he was doing and focus all of my energy into making our blog even better.

His content stealing actually gave us one of the best insights we could have ever had about our blog:

We had to make our content un-stealable.

Anyone can write about studies. Anyone can make bullet points. But not everyone can share stories. Not everyone can do original research. Not everyone can have cool videos.

This poacher inspired me to level-up our posts. Instead of posting basic steps and bullets, I pushed our team to come up with creative graphics, film and edit cool videos and not post articles until we had really good real life examples.

Yes, this made it much harder for him to steal our posts (and now he only does it occasionally) but more important, it made our blog better for our readers. We started getting more shares, comments and likes. Hoorah!

Thank you for stealing our content. You made us work harder.

<a dir="ltr" href="https://www.scienceofpeople.com/about/">Vanessa Van Edwards </a>is a national best selling author &amp; founder at Science of People. Her groundbreaking book, <a dir="ltr" href="https://www.scienceofpeople.com/captivate/">Captivate: The Science of Succeeding with People </a>has been translated into more than 16 languages. As a recovering awkward person, Vanessa helps millions find their inner charisma. She regularly leads innovative corporate <a dir="ltr" href="https://www.scienceofpeople.com/speaking/">workshops </a>and helps thousands of individual professionals in her online program <a dir="ltr" href="https://www.scienceofpeople.com/courses/people-school/">People School </a>. Vanessa works with entrepreneurs, growing businesses, and trillion dollar companies; and has been featured on CNN, BBC, CBS, Fast Company, Inc., Entrepreneur Magazine, USA Today, the Today Show and many more.

The Psychology of Revenge: Why It's Secretly Rewarding