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Why Asking for Advice Might Be Better Than Asking for Feedback

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Why Asking for Advice Might Be Better Than Asking for Feedback
Why asking for advice is better than asking for feedback

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Feedback focuses on the past

Feedback focuses on the past

Many people prioritise feedback over advice. But Harvard researchers found that feedback often has no impact on our performance. They argue that feedback often leads to vague input.

Feedback is often associated with evaluating past performance and is not focused on how you can improve.

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Seeking advice

Seeking advice over feedback opens up an opportunity for suggestions to improve or even advice on how to find solutions to your weakness.

It takes a willingness to acknowledge a problem you have. Good advice can be your greatest learning experience, especially when coming from someone who has already succeeded in that area.

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Benefits of seeking advice

  • Asking for advice shows initiative and displays competence.
  • Asking for advice can show your seriousness about an issue. It shows you have a specific goal in mind.
  • Advice is actionable and comes with facts or personal experience.
  • You get exactly what you need to improve yourself for the future.

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Getting the best advice

  • Ask a person who has the right expertise, experience, or knowledge you want. To improve your chance of getting what you want from an expert, use a known connection.
  • Find out if you have a mutual friend in common. Ask them if they would be willing to reach out on your behalf for an introduction.
  • Offer to send your question in advance to allow them to prepare.
  • Don't ask everyone. Research shows if you don't take the advice of those you seek, they may have a worse view of you afterward. Be grateful, and let them know how their feedback helped you.

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... before and after seeking advice. Gratitude has been shown to promote honesty, productivity, and overall well-being in the workplace, and can be used as a tool to ease any interaction, including asking for advice.

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Ask the right kinds of questions

  • Show your interest and keep the conversation flowing. 
  • Follow-up questions can make conversations less superficial.
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  • Active listening will show your advice-giver that you are engaged and care about what is being discussed.

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Negative Feedback

Negative feedback is a more important component of the feedback cycle than positive feedback. 92% of people say in a study that negative feedback improves workplace performance.

Why are people scared of Feedback

Normally people react with caution and fear towards negative feedback, but it is much better than no feedback at all.

Informing the colleague/subordinate/client/customer or individual about something that is not working, is always beneficial, and builds transparency and trust.

Check how it impacts the person

The fundamental goal of giving feedback is to help the person you’re giving it to. They should realize that you are not trying to make them feel bad, and this is an exercise to help make them better.

How it impacts each individual is going to be different so a tailor-made approach is required. 

Why We Avoid Asking For Advice

Why We Avoid Asking For Advice

Most people shy away from asking for advice when they cannot figure out how to finish a tricky task or assignment at work.

  • Reasons range from not wanting to bother anyone, or not tru...

Advice Seekers Appear Smarter

The fear of appearing incompetent or an incompetent person is misplaced, as research shows that the person who is asked for advice thinks good of the person asking.

Advice seekers appear smarter to the person whose ego is now stroke, making him provide valuable insights while being impressed by the seeker. Being asked for advice increases the level of perceived competency of the seeker in the eyes of the expert.

Connection Made Thorugh Advice

Asking for advice leads to a series of interactions at the office, which gives way to exchanging information, learning and builds a meaningful connection that goes beyond the initial request for advice.