• Criticism: complain without blame.
• Content: regularly express appreciation, gratitude, affection, and respect for your partner.
• Defensiveness: accept responsibility, even if only for part of the conflict.
• Stonewalling: stop any conflict dis...

• When disconnected, they ache for reconciliation. 
• avoid blaming each other in arguments or disputes, 
• try to meet one another’s needs 
• parent each other a little
• understand that the future and relationships are uncertain.

Be proactive about warding off threats to your relationship. Avoid lots of time apart, or unwise behavior such as hanging out with people you used to be on/off with.

You can’t guarantee fidelity, but you can do your best to make the relationship the container that you each value so highly, ...

Never stop romancing them. This’ll let them know for sure you’re still crazy about them.

Also still kiss them hello and goodbye. Small gestures like this help us all to experience love from our partners.

In close relationships, people are bound to occasionally say thoughtless things, or neglect you somehow. But unless it has seriously upset you, forgive them right away.

Not harboring grievances is a key way we protect our relationships from internal threats. Couples that stay in l...

When you listen, even on seemingly insignificant discussions, you understand your partner better and it shows you continue to give them the same attention you gave them in the beginning. 

Unless you are together all the time, never stop asking them how their day we...

Couples naturally become more complacent in pleasing each other as the relationship progresses.

Notice what you do that your partner seems to really respond to. Love is subjective, we show and receive it differently, so you need to know how to love them in their language and not neglect ...