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How to stay madly in love (7 ideas)
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Solutions To Basic Communication Mistakes
- Criticism: complain without blame.
- Content: regularly express appreciation, gratitude, affection, and respect for your partner.
- Defensiveness: accept responsibility, even if only for part of the conflict.
- Stonewalling: stop any conflict discussion and call a timeout.
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Couples Who Stayed Together
- When disconnected, they ache for reconciliation.
- avoid blaming each other in arguments or disputes,
- try to meet one another’s needs
- parent each other a little
- understand that the future and relationships are uncertain.
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Potential External Threats
Be proactive about warding off threats to your relationship. Avoid lots of time apart, or unwise behavior such as hanging out with people you used to be on/off with.
You can’t guarantee fidelity, but you can do your best to make the relationship the container that you each value so highly, that going elsewhere isn’t desirable.
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Flirt With Them
Never stop romancing them. This’ll let them know for sure you’re still crazy about them.
Also still kiss them hello and goodbye. Small gestures like this help us all to experience love from our partners.
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Forgive Them
In close relationships, people are bound to occasionally say thoughtless things, or neglect you somehow. But unless it has seriously upset you, forgive them right away.
Not harboring grievances is a key way we protect our relationships from internal threats. Couples that stay in love forgive each other for minor grievances.
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Listen To And Value Them
When you listen, even on seemingly insignificant discussions, you understand your partner better and it shows you continue to give them the same attention you gave them in the beginning.
Unless you are together all the time, never stop asking them how their day went. Nobody else cares enough to ask them consistently.
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Doing The Things That Make Them Feel Loved
Couples naturally become more complacent in pleasing each other as the relationship progresses.
Notice what you do that your partner seems to really respond to. Love is subjective, we show and receive it differently, so you need to know how to love them in their language and not neglect that.
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The recipient accepts it with grace and, in turn, offers forgiveness. Without forgiveness, it cannot heal.
The mindful apology in practice
- Repair: An apology that rebuilds intimacy should have three parts: you need to own the mistake, and then you need to repair the damage. Lastly, you need to vow to improve.
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When people experience breakups they go through the ‘protest’ phase initially, and the rejected lover becomes obsessed with winning back the person who has quit the relationship.
Rejection, paradoxically, makes the rejected person love the partner even more. This is called a ‘Frustration Attraction’, and can be categorized as an addiction.
Chemical Reactions
The rejected lover experiences high levels of dopamine and norepinephrine in the brain, and are visibly stressed out. These chemical reactions trigger many to do crazy things to win their ex back. Such feelings are erased quickly if the lover starts dating a new partner.
Some people also feel increasingly passionate and loving after the breakup and are more likely to forgive their ex.