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How to stay madly in love (7 ideas)

How to stay madly in love (7 ideas)
You're crazy for them; they are similarly gaga about you. But why do some couples manage to stay deeply in love, and others lose it? Social psychologist Erich Fromm gave us all a big clue when he said that love isn't a feeling, but a practice.


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Solutions To Basic Communication Mistakes

Solutions To Basic Communication Mistakes
  • Criticism: complain without blame.
  • Content: regularly express appreciation, gratitude, affection, and respect for your partner.
  • Defensiveness: accept responsibility, even if only for part of the conflict.
  • Stonewalling: stop any conflict discussion and call a timeout.




Couples Who Stayed Together

Couples Who Stayed Together
  • When disconnected, they ache for reconciliation. 
  • avoid blaming each other in arguments or disputes, 
  • try to meet one another’s needs 
  • parent each other a little
  • understand that the future and relationships are uncertain.



Potential External Threats

Potential External Threats

Be proactive about warding off threats to your relationship. Avoid lots of time apart, or unwise behavior such as hanging out with people you used to be on/off with.

You can’t guarantee fidelity, but you can do your best to make the relationship the container that you each value so highly, that going elsewhere isn’t desirable.



Flirt With Them

Flirt With Them

Never stop romancing them. This’ll let them know for sure you’re still crazy about them.

Also still kiss them hello and goodbye. Small gestures like this help us all to experience love from our partners.



Forgive Them

Forgive Them

In close relationships, people are bound to occasionally say thoughtless things, or neglect you somehow. But unless it has seriously upset you, forgive them right away.

Not harboring grievances is a key way we protect our relationships from internal threats. Couples that stay in love forgive each other for minor grievances.



Listen To And Value Them

Listen To And Value Them

When you listen, even on seemingly insignificant discussions, you understand your partner better and it shows you continue to give them the same attention you gave them in the beginning. 

Unless you are together all the time, never stop asking them how their day went. Nobody else cares enough to ask them consistently.



Doing The Things That Make Them Feel Loved

Couples naturally become more complacent in pleasing each other as the relationship progresses.

Notice what you do that your partner seems to really respond to. Love is subjective, we show and receive it differently, so you need to know how to love them in their language and not neglect that. 




Rekindling the Fire

Many couples have reached a cozy state of companionship. The humdrumness of life affects the long-term relationship.

It is not uncommon to lose the 'fire' and is unrealistic to expect consis...

Love Progression

As the initial stage of love fades away, a deeper, richer sense of each other should take its place, and couples can find more ways to make things interesting and fun.

Look With New Eyes

Staying curious about each other and finding things, memories, places, and activities that are yet to be shared or experienced together is a great way to rekindle the relationship.
Revisiting your past and finding ways to connect better by looking at the other with 'new' eyes makes us see many things that were overlooked earlier.

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Causing unintentional harm

We all cause harm to our partner and the intimacy between us. We make mistakes that are foolish and unintentional and sometimes launch attacks on purpose.

When you wound another, apologi...

How to give an apology

A good apology takes two people: the giver and the receiver. An apology that heals is based on kindness, generosity, and compassion. 

The recipient accepts it with grace and, in turn, offers forgiveness. Without forgiveness, it cannot heal.

The mindful apology in practice

  • Repair: An apology that rebuilds intimacy should have three parts: you need to own the mistake, and then you need to repair the damage. Lastly, you need to vow to improve.
  • Forgive:  If you have been hurt, you may never completely forget, but you can choose to forgive. To decide to forgive means that you don't relive something that belongs to the past.
  • Begin again: Unfinished business will accumulate. Let go of the small and the large wounds, so they don't pile up. 

Rekindling Of An Old Flame

Rekindling Of An Old Flame

Breakups and subsequent renewals are quite common across all types of romantic relationships and even marriages.

Falling apart and then seeking to mend the old relationship seems to be dee...

The Protest Phase

When people experience breakups they go through the ‘protest’ phase initially, and the rejected lover becomes obsessed with winning back the person who has quit the relationship.

Rejection, paradoxically, makes the rejected person love the partner even more. This is called a ‘Frustration Attraction’, and can be categorized as an addiction.

Chemical Reactions

The rejected lover experiences high levels of dopamine and norepinephrine in the brain, and are visibly stressed out. These chemical reactions trigger many to do crazy things to win their ex back. Such feelings are erased quickly if the lover starts dating a new partner.

Some people also feel increasingly passionate and loving after the breakup and are more likely to forgive their ex.