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How to Turn Criticism Into Inspiration - Hongkiat
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Turn The Heat Around
Make it your critic's job to prove themselves to you, rather than the other way around.
99% of critics disappear when confronted with any kind of rigorous intellectual challenge.
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Preparing For Battle
No one is going to engage in a serious debate with you when you look prepared for an academic beat down.
If someone attacks your work in a nasty way, don't get angry. Say instead something like: “it’s interesting that you should say that because my research (cite some book or blog post) seems to suggest that the opposite is actually true. Is there some study or paper you can point me to that would validate your claim?”
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Get Inspired
Use the criticism of your past work to generate ideas for new projects.
For example, researching a response to a critic may lead you to read about or experience something you never would have before, which can open the door for all sorts of new experiments in your professional or personal projects.
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Feel The Love
We tend to focus on negativity because it comes easy to us, but there’s really no reason to.
For every mean or ill-informed critic, there are typically dozens, if not hundreds of people who will love and support what you do wholeheartedly.
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Overvaluation of negativity
We tend to be more passive in life than we would be if we weighed negativity and positivity the same.
Bad outcomes seem to weight more in terms of punishment than good outcomes weight in terms of benefit, so it can seem sensible to speak out and try new things as infrequently as possible.
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Use The "Sandwich" Approach And Be Specific On The Expected Results
"Sandwiching" your critique between two positive things about the person's softens the blow, and avoids it coming off like an attack. The mix of positive and negative makes people more likel...
Give Feedback, Not Instruction
Keep your criticism to your observations, and the impact they have. Don't try to fix the problem, just identify it.
Offer to help fix the problem, and to support the solution that the other person comes up with. Unless you know how to do the work your coworker is doing, don't try to solve it for them—they'll ignore your feedback and you.
Give Kind Criticism, And Remember The Point Of It
The point of your criticism is to help someone improve, or to correct a problem, and your feedbacks should carry that message. If you’re doing anything but that, reevaluate whether you actually have legitimate criticism to give, or you just need to talk to someone.
Offer positive and specific suggestions to alleviate the issue at hand, or identify the problem clearly without talking about the person, just the issue.
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Negativity bias and feedback
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Criteria for effective feedback
- The feedback provider is credible in the eyes of the feedback recipient;
- The feedback provider is trusted by the feedback recipient;
- The feedback is conveyed with good intentions;
- The timing and circumstances of giving the feedback are appropriate;
- The feedback is given in an interactive manner;
- The feedback message is clear;
- The feedback is helpful to recipient.