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If You're Not Enjoying life, You're Doing it Wrong



If You're Not Enjoying life, You're Doing it Wrong
To live is the rarest thing in the world. Most people exist, that is all. - Oscar Wilde Unless circumstances are extremely beyond your control, and you can't do anything about it, this holds true. Life is a cycle of good times and bad. It's not linear.


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Oscar Wilde

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Life is not linear

Life is not linear

Life is a cycle of good times and bad. It’s not linear. There are always going to be ups an downs. But you can still make safe choices.

Looking at the bright: downs help us to appreciate and understand what an up looks like.

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“We are not disturbed by things that happen, but rather, by our perception of things that happen.”


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The negative bias

Our brains have a negative bias. Every bad comment or news about us, or around us make a bigger impact on our perception about ourselves and the world than we realize.

Enjoying life starts with shifting our mindset, seeing things in a new way.

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Effects of the negative bias

This bias robs us of the joys around us because it causes us to:

  • Worry more than necessary and fear the worst.
  • Focus on bad narratives for too long.
  • Play the victims, to get sympathy from others.
  • Have unrealistic expectations for ourselves.

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Enjoying the little things

The habit of taking even mild pleasure in small things is life-changing:

  • Make time to watch the sunrise
  • Use your mornings to take care of yourself
  • Lose track of time with your favourite book
  • Listen to the sounds of nature
  • Be present in the moment.

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Brian Krans

“Are you happy? Have you ever been happy? What have you done today to matter? Did you exist or did you live? How did you thrive? (...)"

Brian Krans

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Eleanor Roosevelt

"The purpose of life is to live it, to taste experience to the utmost, to reach out eagerly and without fear for a newer and richer experience.”

Eleanor Roosevelt

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Starting vs breaking a habit

The process of stopping bad habits is fundamentally different from forming new ones.

  • Creating a habit requires encoding a new set of automatic behaviors: the brain learns cau...

Progressive extremism

The process of “progressive extremism” utilizes what we know about the psychology of identity to help stop behaviors we don’t want. It works particularly well in situations in which substituting one habit for another just won’t do.

Identity helps us make otherwise difficult choices by offloading willpower. Our choices become what we do because of who we are.

"Don’t" vs "Can’t"

By classifying specific behaviors as things you will never do again, you put certain actions into the realm of “I don’t” versus “I can’t.”

Saying “I don’t” rather than “I can’t” provides greater “psychological empowerment.”

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Seeing Isn’t Believing

Most of us have heard stories of hardships and catastrophic events of the past, like the great depression, or the dot-com bust, but haven’t lived through it, and not experienced the real pain of th...

Blind Spots

In the world of investing, having gone through a traumatic experience first-hand makes the difference between a cautious investor and a blind one. The scarred investor cannot think in the way the fresher, who hasn’t experienced the turmoil can. 

Our unique experiences impact our vision in ways we cannot comprehend on the surface.

Learning From The Past

Different generations have different investment risk appetites, with the younger generation wanting to take bigger risks and going into uncharted waters without any experience.

The New Generation, who hasn’t experienced turmoil and loss, are good at getting rich. However, the older, scarred generation is good at staying rich due to their general pessimism and conservatism. There is a need to balance the two aspects while taking an investment decision. People with different experiences aren’t necessarily smarter than others but just have a different worldview.

Defining "Success"

“Success” isn’t just having lots of money. 

Success is continuously improving who you are, how you live, how you serve, and how you relate.

Lose an hour in the morning, and you will be all day hunting for it.
Lose an hour in the morning, and you will be all day hunting for it.

Putting "first things" first

Start the day with your #1 priority.

Getting up early isn’t enough. You need to put first things first. When you put your top priorities first, then you ensure they make it into the bucket of your day. After your main priorities have been completed, the rest will fill the gaps.