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Romantic love isn't the only type of love to pursue in our lives - ABC Life

https://www.abc.net.au/life/why-romantic-love-isnt-the-only-type-of-love-you-should-pursue/10702886

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Romantic love isn't the only type of love to pursue in our lives - ABC Life
We all want to be loved and share love, but that doesn't mean everyone shares the same definition of love. In a culture where we tend to place romantic love on a pedestal, we can easily overlook the dynamic ways to experience love.

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The forms of love

The forms of love

Love is not just found in romantic love directed at one person.

Love includes the depth of close friendships, the sense of belonging in a community, the intensity of an artistic practice or a connection to our work.

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It takes a village to feel loved

It takes a village to feel loved

In history, marriage was a pragmatic institution. A sense of identity was more embedded in community, and not solely in marriage.

The shift to individualism and choice has meant that we feel the need to find our identity in an all-encompassing romantic partnership. We are asking from one person what once an entire village used to provide.

Recognising that one person can't be your everything can help you find a broader definition of love.

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The love of friendship

Sharing your experiences with others is an essential ingredient to feeling connected.

This conncection doesn't have to come in the form of a partner or having friends around you all the time. Rather, it is the quality of your close relationships that has an impact on your well being.

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The feeling of fulfilment

The feeling of fulfilment

Our relationship with ourself is as important as the relationships we build with other people. 

Our work, our hobbies and interests, our creative projects, our day-to-day experiences can be a source of both love and meaning.

The greatest sense of fulfilment is from being stretched in a voluntary effort to accomplish something difficult and worthwhile.

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Plato on love

The ancient Greek philosopher Plato argued that the highest form of love was brotherly love or platonic love.

The industrial age changed romance

For most of human history, there was no time for romance. Marriages were arranged by families and were a purely economic arrangement designed to promote the survival and prosperity of both extended families.

It wasn’t until the industrial age that things began to change. They didn't have to rely so heavily on family connections any more. Consequently, the economic and political components of marriage ceased to make sense.

"Happily ever after" ideal

The economic realities of the 19th century mixed with the idea from the Enlightenment about the pursuit of happiness. The result was the Age of Romanticism.

People became economically independent and love (or emotions) became valued in society. These ideals of love have been heavily promoted and marketed during the 20th century.

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The concept of the 5 love languages

It refers to the idea that we all give and receive love differently. The five languages are:

  • Words of affirmation
  • Acts of service
  • Receiving gifts
  • Quality tim...

Identifying a child’s love language

  • It will be helpful for finding little ways to show them extra affection in a personalized way.
  • It’s also helpful to know that whatever love language they speak is also the language they are most likely to feel hurt by.
  • Even if your child scores high in one or two languages, that doesn’t mean you should ditch the other languages completely.

Core Factors In A Happy Life

Research shows 70% of your happiness comes from quality relationships with your family, friends, co-workers, and neighbors.

Yet, the biggest factor that interferes with your relationsh...

Reverse FOMO

FOMO is the fear of missing out, especially the latest internet hysteria. But FOMO is not the real problem - Reverse FOMO is.  By always being online, you are missing out on real life. An overwhelming online presence is replacing all the things that really make a good life.

Values, Not Lifehacks

Tech is only a tool. How you use it can make it good or not so good.

We don't need a lifehack to control our phone. We need values to ensure that technology serves us, and not the other way around.

Find out what you value in life. Then ask how technology supports those values. Set rules that work for them. If you don't, tech will fill that void by default.