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What to Do When You Make a Bad Decision

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What to Do When You Make a Bad Decision
Oh my god, you think, your stomach turning. Why in the world did I do that? We've all made a bad decision before. You know the feeling-in the moment, it seems like you made the right call. But afterward, the impact of your decision sets in, and you realize your judgment was cloudy.

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Accept your emotions

Accept your emotions

Recognize what happened and how you feel. Suppressing your emotions will get you nowhere. It’s important to first focus on how you feel.

You can also journal your emotions or speak with a close confidante. Or you can go to therapy, of you think it's right for you.

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Focus on the facts

Focus on the facts

Take a step out of the emotions and stress to really look at the facts of the situation. Try to look at the situation objectively and seek ways to work productively toward solving it.

Get an outside perspective, if you struggle with getting the facts in an objective manner.

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Don't let it consume you

Don't let it consume you

Once we’ve made what we’d call a bad decision, we give it a lot of meaning it does not inherently have.

So try to mentally separate yourself from the decision. Doing so can help you strip it of its power.

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Forgive yourself

Forgive yourself

Use failures of your bad decisions as leverage for future success. You will make mistakes in life, but what determines your future success is how you respond.

Also, accept your regret. It can help you remember the things you want to avoid in life and actually help you make better decisions.

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Create a decision-making process

... for future big decisions:

  1. Identify the decision/problem. Be as clear as possible.
  2. Collect information that will assist in your decision-making.
  3. Consider various solutions.
  4. Weigh the evidence for each potential solution.
  5. Make your decision.
  6. Take action on that decision.
  7. Review the decision once an action has been taken.

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Life doesn’t happen to us; we are an active participant. We get out of life what we choose.”

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All Decisions Are Not Created Equal

  • Small decisions: Impact you for a day, such as what you wear and what you eat.
  • Medium decisions: Impact your life for a year or so, such as deciding to go back to school or take on a roommate.
  • Big decisions: These are made once or twice a year, and successful people use their goals to navigate to the right choice.

Decision making using goals

Successful people have 4 strategies that help them clearly define what they want:

  • They keep 5 prime goals and stay focused on them.
  • They identify the top priority and give it favorable treatment when making decisions.
  • They look for goal and decision overlap, treating this decision with more care.
  • They appreciate momentum, identifying the benefits of continuing to move in the right direction.

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Our emotions are short-term biased

Our emotions are obsessed with the present moment because it’s difficult to look past our immediate fears and anxieties. And this prevents good decision-making.

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“Risky” behavior you should consider

  • Propose “moonshot” ideas, knowing that 90% of them will get shot down, but that if one of them gets accepted, it will be a huge boost to your career.
  • Be excessively bold in your dating life, stating exactly who and what you want.
  • Buy difficult books expecting that most of them won’t be useful to you, but also that, occasionally, one will completely change your life.
  • Say yes to every invitation knowing that most of the events/people will be boring, but that occasionally you’ll meet someone really interesting.

Optimizing life for fewer regrets

Most of us are afraid of messing thing up. But we rarely ask, “Would I regret that failure?” If the answer is “no,” then that is absolutely a risk you should pursue.

Sometimes, the right decision becomes crystal clear when put into these terms.