Three things that don't necessarily contribute to your happiness:
We know what will make us happy, but we don't know how to measure it. We measure our success by using social comparisons, like a salary, or with awards.
Because people tend to use vague criteria, they are never satisfied when they reach it and always want more. This leads to an unsustainable source of happiness.
If you do what you enjoy and are naturally good at, and if you focus on it long enough, you will probably advance toward mastery anyway, and fame and money will be a byproduct.
We view the world in one of two ways:
It is not good to tie your happiness to outcomes since that can affect your happiness.
Overcoming some obstacles might pose more obstacles, while other events that we thought would be bad for us might make us grow and learn.
Self-made millionaires create a personal vision, set goals and actively pursue those goals. They allocate their time, energy and resources effectively.
Even if they hire an outside financial adviser, they still monitor the budget to ensure the investment portfolio matches the level of risk taken.
Impostor syndrome is very real. It comes form the belief that we are going to be ‘found out’.
The truth of course is that it’s likely that you are the only one that thinks that.
Maybe you are the only one that is not seeing the value that you bring.
These new feedback loops are positive and healthy, impostor syndrome often isn’t.